Kukhona abesifazane abathi, ngemuva kokufunda ngokukhwabanisa komlingani, balungele ukwenza noma yini ukuze bambuyisele emndenini. Abaningi basebenzisa amasiko omlingo, okuvumela ukubhubhisa ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nenkosikazi. Ukuze umcimbi usebenze, kufanele ulandele izincomo ezithile. Okokuqala, ukufunda isakhiwo kungenyanga edlulayo, ngoba yonke imikhosi eyenziwa ngalesi sikhathi ihloswe ukukhipha, okungukuthi, ukunciphisa ukukhangwa komphikisi. Okwesibili, udinga ukukholwa esenzweni somlingo, ngoba, ngaphandle kwalokho, akukho lutho oluzovela.
Indlela yokususa indodakazi yomyeni wakhe kuze kube phakade - isakhiwo
Ngendlela elula futhi ephumelelayo, uzodinga izingubo zomlingani wakho, okudingayo ukugeza ngokugcwele ngezandla zakho, futhi emanzini asele kufanele ugeze izinyawo zakho. Ngemva kwalokhu, kubalulekile ukuwuthululela engabonakali emgwaqweni ngaphansi komuthi wesifazane, isibonelo, i-aspen noma i-apula. Emva kwalokhu, uhlaka lufundwa, ukuthi ungambulala kanjani inkosikazi yomyeni wakhe:
"Ngiyakuvuka, ngibusise, ngiyakuphuma, ngiphumile, ngisuke endlini yami, ngisuke kuzo zonke izicabha, kusukela emnyango wokugcina kuze kube esangweni nakuwo onke amasango kuya olwandle oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, ngizojabula kakhulu. Kukhona abazalwane abayishumi nambili, bonke abanebafazi abayishumi nambili. Ngiyamemeza, ngizobiza amagama abo: enye incibilikisayo, eyesibili iyomile, owesifazane wesithathu ungumlingani oqotho, owesine uyinhloko, inhlanhla iyisifo esibi, isithupha yisifiso, yesithupha ukuhlukunyezwa, owesishiyagalolunye ukuma, owesishiyagalolunye ulele, leshumi nanye kuyigazi elishisayo, leshumi nambili yilo thando oluqotho. O, nina bafazi abayishumi neshumi nambili abademoni, masivumele ukuthi inceku kaNkulunkulu (igama) ibe yinto yami emangalisa, ingqondo yami ilimaze, izwi eliqinekayo liyanqotshwa, lithandeka kuze kube manje, kuze kube phakade naphakade. Wena, makhosikazi, uzizwe ulusizi ngenxa yakhe, ngami, inceku kaNkulunkulu (igama), ngiphuthelwa, ngiphoswe, ngimemeza ngezwi elikhulu, ngangingeke ngiphile ngaphandle kwami okwesibili, ube ngowesibili, hhayi usuku lokuhamba, hhayi ubusuku obulodwa odlule: inyanga icacile, noma ilanga libomvu. Ekuseni ngangizokhanyisa kancane, ingqondo yami ingathatha igama lami, ibuhlungu, ilahlekelwe, futhi ikhale ngezwi elibi. Vumela enye intombazane ibonakale njengenkosikazi esabekayo kuye, njengewashi lomlilo, njenge-tadpole, futhi ngingaba semini eshisayo ngamanzi, futhi ngilamba kakhulu ngokudla. Yiba, wonke amazwi ami, aqinile, aqinile, anamathele. Egameni likaYise neNdodana noMoya oNgcwele. Manje naphakade naphakade naphakade. Amen. "
Indlela yokukhipha indodakazi yomyeni wakhe kuze kube phakade - umkhuba
Ukuze wenze umkhuba, udinga ukuthatha ikhandlela lombala obomvu, ngoba lo mbala ubonisa ukupholisa kwezinzwa. Ebusuku, khanyisa ikhandlela yedwa bese ubhala igama lomlingani nomlingani ephepheni. Ukusebenzisa isikali, usike ishidi ukuze amagama ahlukaniswe. Ngemuva kwalokhu, ngishintshe amanye amaphepha amaphepha ekhandlela bese uwafaka ezitsheni ezahlukene. Kubalulekile ukuthi emva kokusika ingxenye kanye namagama ayithinti. Ngesikhathi sokushisa, kubalulekile ukusho icebo elinjalo:
"Banike ikhandlela elibubende, lishise, lishise, abathandi bekusasa elingapheliyo. Wena uthatha konke ukuthanda kwabo nothando lwakho. Sishise, ushise, ushise, uphinde uhlukanise. "
Phinda amazwi kuze iphepha liphenduke libe ngumlotha futhi umlilo ungaphumi. Ngemuva kwalokho, umlotha kufanele uthathwe ngezandla ezahlukene, uphume ngaphandle uphinde uchithe umoya ezinhlangothini.
Isakhiwo sephini sokususa inkosikazi
Kubalulekile ukuthenga iphini elisha bese ulinamathisela izingubo zomlingani wakho, uthi kuye:
"Ipini isisha, ipini elibukhali, wena nesigqila sikaNkulunkulu (igama) kuyo yonke indawo, uyigcina, ngakho ungakhohlwa. Kusukela ekusindisweni kwesigqila, ukuthembeka kwakhe encekwini kaNkulunkulu (igama lakhe) londoloza. Kwangathi inceku kaNkulunkulu (igama) ingabuya enkosikazi yayo kanye, futhi ubuyele kimi ngayo yonke inhliziyo yakhe nomphefumulo wakhe. Uzokhohlwa ukujabula kwakhe nenjabulo yokukhaphela, ngeke abone umphikisi wakhe futhi, konke ukubukeka kuyomkhohlwa. Izwi lami liqinile, intando inamandla. Yiba njalo. "
Ngenxa yephini, umyeni, lapho ehlangana nabanye besifazane, uyozizwa engakhululekile futhi maduze uzobuyela ekhaya.