Umndeni, ngokuvumelana nemigodi, kufanele udlale indima enkulu ekuthuthukiseni ingane. Nokho, ngokusebenza, kude nemindeni, izingane zithola izimo ezidingekayo zokuthuthukiswa ngokomzimba, kwengqondo nokomoya. Lokhu akukhathazi nje kuphela imindeni ehlonishwa njengengalungile. Umndeni, owaziwa ngabantu abadala njengokuhle, awukwazi ukubukeka njengamehlo wengane. Mayelana nokuthi ingane ibona kanjani ingane nezinkinga ezikhona ekukhulisweni kwezingane namuhla, sizobe sitshela ngokuqhubekayo.
Ingabe ingane idinga umndeni?
Ngokwe-UN Convention on Amalungelo Ingane, wonke umntwana unelungelo lomndeni. Umndeni unesibopho sokudala ingane yonke imibandela yokuthuthukiswa kwamakhono akhe, ukuqinisekisa izidingo zakhe, ukuhlonipha umbono wakhe nokungavezi ingane ukuba ixhashazwe futhi ihlukunyezwe.
Emindenini engasebenzi, abantwana abanikezwa ithuba lokusebenzisa amalungelo abo. Akuwona wonke amathuba okuthuthukiswa okufanele atholakele yizingane ezihlala emindenini engabodwa, lapho umzali osele kufanele akhokhele ukunakekelwa ngokwezimali kwengane.
Kubuye kwenzeke ukuthi emindeni enhle ingane ayitholi ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo ephelele.
Imfundo yokugunyaza kanye nokuqapha okuqhubekayo akuwona umthelela omuhle ekuthuthukiseni ingane emndenini. Uma ingane ingumholi njengomuntu, uzomelana nalokhu futhi umphumela uzoba ukwesaba kwakhe, ukukhathazeka, ukuzethemba kwakhe nokunye. Uma ukulawula okuqhubekayo kuboniswa enhlobonhlobo, umntwana, ongakwazi ukwenza izinqumo ngokuzimela nokuqonda ukuthi kwenzekani kuye, ukhula enesifiso esinqunyiwe, engenangqondo futhi encike kubazali bakhe.
Emndenini ocebileyo, ukukhulumisana nomntwana kungase kungabi ngezinga elifanele. Abazali, ngenxa yokuqashwa kwabo noma imfundo yabo, musa ukukhokha lesi sici sokunakekelwa, ngokuzinikezela ingane ngokwabo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ingane inethuba lokuthuthukisa umcabango nokuziqonda kwezwe, kodwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ikhula ngomuzwa wokuthi ayithandwanga. Angakwazi ukuhlukaniswa futhi angakhathaleli ukubonakaliswa kwemizwelo kwabanye abantu.
Ngezinye izikhathi abazali, ngenkathi banikela ingane yabo ensimini nasesikoleni, bhala phansi endleleni eya emaggini amaningi kanye nezigaba. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuhle ukuthuthukiswa kwengane, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukugcwalisa sonke isikhathi sakhe. Ukuze akhule njengomuntu ovumelanayo, kubalulekile ukuba asebenzise isikhathi nabazali bakhe emidlalweni ehlangene, amakilasi nokuxhumana okulula. Emibuthanweni, izingadi kanye nesikole, ingane ngeke ikwazi ukunikeza ukunakekelwa kwabazali kanye nokwesekwa okudingekayo.
Ithonya lomndeni ekuthuthukiseni ingane
Ukubaluleka komndeni empilweni yomntwana kuyinhloko: umndeni usebenza njengesikhungo sokuzibandakanya kwengane. Kule ndaba, abazali kudingeka badlulisele kahle imfundo yezingane zabo. Izinkinga zokukhuliswa kwezingane ezibhekene nemikhaya yanamuhla zenza izingxabano eziningi ezingxenyeni zabafundisi kanye nezengqondo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kunamaphuzu ambalwa aqinile abazali okufanele abambelele kuwo ukuze wonke umuntu emndenini abe nomuzwa okhululekile, futhi ingane ingathola konke okudingekayo ekuthuthukiseni kwakhe.
Ngesikhathi esincane, abazali ngesikhathi semdlalo kudingeka banakekele ingane, baqondise, kodwa ukulawula okuqinile ekusebenzeni kwezenzo ezithile akudingeki. Kubalulekile ukushiya isikhala solwazi oluzimele, ukuqonda
Omunye kufanele futhi akhumbule imfundo yobuhle yabantwana emndenini. Ukujwayela ingane ngezwe elihle futhi elingokomoya kufanele abazali. Kubalulekile hhayi nje ukumazisa ingane ngemisebenzi yabanye, kodwa futhi nokumnika ithuba lokuzama isandla sakhe ekufaniseni, ukudweba, ukucula, njll.
Njengoba ingane ikhula, kubalulekile ngokufanayo ukumnika ithuba lokwenza izinqumo zakhe futhi athuthukise kulokho okuthakazelisayo kuye. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, umuntu akakwazi ukushiya ingane eyedwa ngezinkinga zakhe nokwesaba. Kufanele njalo azi futhi azizwe ukuthi uma engaphumelelanga, umuntu omdala uyobe eseduze naye ozomsekela futhi amsize.