Yonke intombazane ingaphupha yona ephusheni, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhulelwe ngempela noma ayikho ngisho nokuhlela okwamanje. Iphupho elinjalo kangako lingaphupha umuntu. Umhumushi odumile wamaphupho, u-Sigmund Freud, unikeza izinhlobo eziningana, lapho ephupha khona ukuzibona ekhulelwe:
- maduze intombazane noma owesifazane uzokhulelwa;
- Ukukhulelwa sekuqalile kakade, kodwa umama wesikhathi esizayo akakakazanga lokhu;
- Intombazane noma owesifazane obonile iphupho elinjalo, eqinisweni, ufuna ukukhulelwa;
- Ekuphileni komuntu ophupha iphupho elinjalo, esikhathini esizayo esiseduze kuyoba nezinguquko ezibalulekile.
Kukhona nezinye izincwadi zokuphupha, ezichaza ngokuhlukile ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuzibona ephusheni elikhulelwe. Ngokombiko wephupho likaMiller, uma iphupho elinjalo livakashelwe owesifazane okhulelwe, umuntu angalindela ukukhulelwa okulula, ukuzalwa kuzodlula kahle, umntwana uzoqina futhi abe nempilo. Kuwesifazane ongekho esimweni sokuzibona ekhulelwe ekhupha, kufanelekile ukulinda izingxabano noma izingxabano nomthandekayo wakho. Kodwa ngentombazane lokhu kungaba yinto ehlazola kakhulu.
Ukuhumusha kwamanje kwamaphupho
Incwadi yesimanje yephupho nayo inezincazelo zayo, kungani uphupha lokubona ukhulelwe. Ngokuba intombazane empofu lokhu kuyisibonakaliso somcebo wasendulo, kodwa ocebile, ngokuphambene nalokho, iphupho elinjalo lingabonakalisa insalela. Owesifazane okhulelwe - ukuthi ukuzalwa kwengane yakhe kuzophumelela, umntwana uzoqina, futhi umama osemncane uzophinde aphinde aphinde aphinde aphinde aphume amandla. Kodwa owesifazane osekhulile - ekufeni okusheshayo.
Kungenzeka nokuthi umuntu angase azibone ekhulelwe ephupho. Ngomuntu oqhelile, lokhu kungasho umshado wokuqala, kumuntu oshadile - ngokuphambene nalokho, isehlukaniso, njll. impilo yomuntu iyashintsha kakhulu. Kodwa uma umuntu ebona ephusheni ukuthi owesifazane ukhulelwe, kusho ukuthi uyamthanda kakhulu, ngisho noma engayiboni lokhu.
Naphezu kokuthi izincwadi ezahlukene zokuphupha zingakwazi ukuhumusha ukuthi yikuphi iphupho ozibhekayo ukuthi ukhulelwe yilokho, ungayichaza futhi uliqonde. Okokuqala, kufanele uzilalele, unake lokho okuhlangenwe nakho okukuhlupha ngempela. Isibonelo, uma ungeke ukwazi ukukhulelwa ingane isikhathi eside, kodwa kakhulu uhambe ngakho, iphupho ngokukhulelwa lingamane libonise isifiso sakhe , kuyilapho kungekho lutho olukushoyo.