Inkinga yokudakwa ngokweqile phakathi kwabesifazane akuyona into engokoqobo njengabantu. Noma kunjalo, isilinganiso esilinganiselwe samanxila besifazane asincane. Kodwa kukhona enye inkinga, okungekho okungahlehlisi kahle - ukuthi ungakuyeka kanjani ukuphuza utshwala ngokwakho kumuntu wesifazane, ngoba ukuphuza utshwala kunzima kakhulu ukuphulukisa ngenxa yokuthembela okunamandla, okukhulunywa kakhulu kwabesifazane. Futhi ngenkathi owesifazane, ehlushwa ukudakwa okuphakade yena angeke akwazi ukushintsha ekuphileni, akekho ozomsiza.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izimo nezimbangela zokulutha utshwala, owesifazane akanalo ilungelo lokukhohlwa ukuthi uyindodakazi, umfazi, umama. Ngisho noma konke kubi emndenini, umuntu akufanele alahlekelwe isithunzi sakhe somuntu. Kumele sizame njalo ukuthatha isimo ngaphansi kokulawula.
Izimbangela ezinokwenzeka zokudakwa ngokweqile kwabesifazane
Izazi ze-Narcologists zithi kunzima kowesifazane ukulawula inani elidakiwe, ulahlekelwe ikhono lokubona iqiniso, wabeka imingcele. Ngokuyinhloko, lezi zimfanelo ziwuphawu lwazo zonke izidakwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubulili. Kodwa owesifazane, futhi, ubonisa isici esingokomzwelo esingamvumeli ukuba acabange ngokwengeziwe.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, izinga lokubekezela ngokweqile kwabesifazane liphansi. Ngakho-ke zonke izinkinga. Futhi imizi ihlupheka kakhulu, njengoba kungekho lutho olubi kakhulu kunomama ophuzo oludakayo. Abesifazane abaningi bayaqonda ukuthi basemjikelezweni ononya. Umbuzo wukuthi ungaphuma kanjani kuwo, nokuthi ngabe kungenzeka yini. Yiqiniso, konke kungenzeka. Kodwa kuyoba nzima kakhulu, kuzoba khona ukuhluleka, ukucindezeleka , i-hangover syndrome. Lokhu ukuthuthukiswa kwemvelo kwemicimbi. Into eyinhloko akufanele ukuphule futhi ungashiyi.
Esinye sezimbangela ezivame kakhulu zokuxhomeka kunzima futhi, ukunganeliseki empilweni, ngisho noma owesifazane eshadile, unabantwana. Kukhona umzamo ongaphumelela wokubalekela izinkinga, kusuka kuwe ngokusizwa utshwala. Kodwa lokhu kungukukhohlisa nje. Ukucima ukudabuka nokuphelelwa ithemba ebhodleleni kuyindlela engafanele kakhulu. Futhi ukuze uphume kule gehena elidakayo, kuzothatha intando engavamile, umzamo, izindlela, izindlela, amasu. Isici sokugcina sithi usakwazi ukuphuma.
Odokotela-izazi ze-narcologists bavame ukubhekana nenkinga yokudakwa ngokweqile kwabesifazane emva kweminyaka engama-35 kuya kwengu-40. Mhlawumbe lokhu kungenxa yenkinga yobudala obuphakathi, uma owesifazane eqaphela ukuthi leso sikhathi asikhoxiswanga, ukuthi intsha ishiya, futhi ngayo ubuhle, impumelelo nobulili obuhlukile. Nakuba, uma uqale ukuphuza, owesifazane akakwazi ukusiqaphela ukuthi uphenduka kanjani owesifazane ogulayo osekhulile manje. Kuleli phuzu, ngenye indlela, owesifazane uzoba nombuzo - indlela yokuyeka ukuphuza yedwa.
Ungamisa kanjani ukuphuza abesifazane?
1. Owesifazane ohlukumeza utshwala anganciphisa kancane kancane ukunciphisa umthamo we-vodka, njengoba nje owesifazane ekwazi ukuyeka ukuphuza ubhiya ngokwayo. Ngokuqondile - kancane kancane!
2. Ngesikhathi sokuphulukana nengozi ehlotshaniswa nokuxhomeka kotshwala, kubalulekile ukuthi umuntu osondelene uzithole esondelene, njengesekelo.
Usizo lodokotela alubalulekile nakancane ekunqobeni ukulutha. Yiqiniso, lapha ukuphikisana kuqala. Ukuphoqa owesifazane ukuqala ukwelashwa akulula kakhulu. Unesizathu sakhe salokhu:
- akafuni ukubekezelela "ilineni elingcolile endlini";
- Asikho isifiso sokuxoxa ngezinkinga zabo nomuntu ongaphandle;
- besaba ukuhlazeka nokungaqondani;
- kubi kabi odokotela;
- ayiboni inkinga yangempela.
4. Ukwelashwa okuphelele ngaphandle kokuhlola kuyadingeka.
5. Izindlela zabantu zokulwa ezifana nokwenza umama wokusiza nge-chamomile, kepha azikwazi ukulwa nokugula kwangempela kokudakwa.
Ungakuyeka kanjani ukuphuza utshwala owesifazane?
Ukuphuma okuvela esimweni esinzima - kuphela ngosizo lwezokwelapha izidakamizwa. Kukhona izindlu ezikhethekile zokubheja ezibhekana nale nkinga.
Izazi zengqondo zeluleka ekwenzeni ukwelashwa ekudakwa ngokweqile ukuze kubuyekezwe umjikelezo wabangane babo, ngokungenabuhlungu ukuphula zonke izixhumanisi ezinonya, ukuthola abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo, mhlawumbe "nabafowethu nodadewethu". Kukhona amacala lapho uthando olungalindelekile lusiza ukuba umuntu aphuze ekuphuzeni. Ngokuvamile, okuhlangenwe nakho okuqinile ngokomzwelo (okuyiqiniso, okuhle) kungavimbela ukuphuza utshwala kubantu besifazane.