Uma ukholwa yizimangalo zezinzwa zezinzwa, khona-ke izindlela zokuphuma ekucindezelekeni zibekwe kuwo wonke umuntu. Ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kudinga usizo lomuthi, kepha singashintsha izingqondo zethu, indawo yethu, ukudla kwethu, kanye namaphethini ethu okulala.
Abantu abaningi banamuhla banenkinga yokucindezeleka. Lesi simo singenza ukuphila kwethu kungabi nalutho futhi kungenasiphelo. Izinkulungwane zabantu emhlabeni wonke ziyazibuza umbuzo othi "Yini okufanele uyenze ngokucindezeleka okukhulu?" Isimo esibuhlungu siqala ngokungenakuqondakala, kodwa kancane kancane siyagijima sibe yisimo esiqhubekayo futhi kuba nzima kakhulu ukuba umuntu abuyele esimweni esihle. Ngokumelene nalesi sizinda, kukhona ukukhathala, ukunganakwa , ukungathandi ukwenza okuthile futhi uvame ukuvuka ekuseni. Mhlawumbe, wonke umuntu wazibonela lokhu. Ake sihlangane ndawonye ukuthi senzeni uma kukhona ukucindezeleka.
Ukucindezeleka kwamadoda
Kuwo wonke umuntu, ukucindezeleka kungabonakaliswa ngezindlela ezahlukene. Abanye badabukile futhi bahoxisiwe, abanye bayathukuthela futhi bahlukumezekile, abanye baya emsebenzini futhi baphuze utshwala obuningi. Izimbangela zingaba yizinto ezihlukahlukene - ukwehluleka emsebenzini, empilweni yomuntu siqu, isiphetho seminyaka ephakathi. Ngeshwa, amadoda akwazi ukuzifihla kahle, ngakho-ke ngezinye izikhathi kungase kube nzima ukunquma ukuthi ngabe unecindezelekile noma cha. Kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi amadoda ahlupheka ngokucindezeleka kanzima, ngoba baphoqeleka ukugcina konke ngaphakathi kwabo. Owesifazane kulula ukuhlanganyela nokuhlupheka kwakhe, angakwazi ukuxoxa nomngane, ukukhuluma, ukukhala nokuthula.
Izibalo zisitshela ukuthi iningi labantu abazibulalayo liyingxenye yesilisa yabantu.
Indlela yokukhipha umuntu ngaphandle kokucindezeleka?
Zama ukukhuluma nomuntu futhi uqonde inkinga yakhe. Uma usondelene ngokwanele, ngokuqinisekile uzokwazi ukunquma imbangela yombuso onjalo uqobo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukwesekwa kwamadoda kubaluleke kakhulu, iseluleko esinobungane kanye nokuzibandakanya okuhlangene.
Ukucindezeleka kwabesifazane
Abesifazane banamathuba amaningi okuzwa ukucindezeleka ngoba banokukhathazeka kakhulu futhi bakhathazekile ngezinto ezibonakala zingenasidingo. Ukuhlambalaza okulula kungahle kube yinkinga yokucindezeleka, ukucindezeleka nokunganaki. Owesifazane uthonya kakhulu kokubili ngaphakathi nangaphandle. Ukuqhaqhazela nokucindezeleka okuqhubekayo nakho kudala ukucindezeleka. Abesifazane abaningi baphoqelelwe ukuba baphile futhi bakhulise izingane ngesikhathi esifanayo. Kuyaqondakala ukuthi imali yesondlo kungenzeka ukuthi ayanele, kufanele ulondoloze kukho konke futhi kuqala kokunye. Futhi kwabesifazane - kuphazamiseka kakhulu. Kulokhu, amanye amadoda azibuza lo mbuzo: "Yini okufanele yenze uma umfazi ecindezelekile?" Kulesi simo, udinga ukukhuluma nomthandi wakho bese uzama ukukuqonda. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yikuphi, kufanele uthole ndawonye isixazululo kule nkinga.
Kuthiwani uma ukucindezeleka kwaqala?
Kunezinhlobonhlobo eziningi ezihlukahlukene zombuso ocindezelayo ukuthi abantu abahlukahlukene bahlupheka ngezindlela ezahlukene. Uma ukhathazekile ngenkinga, zama ukuhlela usuku lwakho bese unikezela ngokukhethekile isikhathi saso. Into esemqoka kule nqubo ukulandela ngokucacile uhlelo lwakho ngokuqaphela ukuthi isikhathi esikhethekile sinikezwe injabulo nesisombululo sombuzo.
Yini okufanele uyenze ngesikhathi sokucindezeleka?
Qinisekisa ukwenza imidlalo, ungabhalisa kumdanso, uthathe ishazi epholile, ulalele umculo wakho ozithandayo futhi ufunde imisebenzi oyikhonzile.
Omunye umuntu omkhulu wathi isenzo ngumuthi omuhle kakhulu. Ezimweni eziningi, ukwesaba kubangelwa ukungenzi lutho, ngakho-ke, zenzele ndawonye futhi uqhubeke nokuqiniseka ngokugcwele ukuthi ngesikhathi esifanayo ungakwazi ukubhekana nezinkinga zabo ngokufanayo.