Ukungaqiniseki

Abaningi bethu, ngezikhathi ezihlukahlukene zohambo lwethu lokuphila, banqotshwa ukungavikeleki. Izibonelo zezici zalo zifaka okulandelayo:

• ukugwema izabelo ezinomthwalo wemfanelo;
• ukwesaba ukuhlekwa usulu;
• ukunganaki okuphakade nokubonakala kwakhe.

Izizathu zengqondo zokuziphendulela zivame ukutholakala ebuntwaneni noma ebusheni. Kulezi zinsuku zokuphila ukuthi umuntu uzwela kakhulu ukugxeka ekuqondiseni kwakhe, ngoba akakwazi ukwakha izithiyo zokuxhumana futhi uthatha konke ngezindleko zakhe. Naphezu kokuphuthuma okukhethekile ekukhuleni, inkinga yokuziphendulela ingavela ezimweni ezehlukene kulo lonke ukuphila.

Indlela yokunqoba ukwesaba ukungavikeleki?

Ngokwezengqondo zengqondo, ukungabi nokuzethemba kwabesifazane ngokuvamile akubhekiseli ekubukeni nokuthi yiyiphi intombazane azibona yona, kodwa lokho abanye abakucabangayo ngaye.

Ukuze unqobe umuzwa wokungaphansi, izincomo ezilandelayo zizokusiza:

1. Sivame ukudlulisa amehlo esikalini salokho okwenzekayo. Intombazane engaqinisekisiwe ilungele ukubalekela endaweni lapho amadoda amaningana ayengamnaki. Ezimweni ezinjalo, into esemqoka akukwesaba, ngoba uqinisekile ukuthi konke kuhambisane nokubukeka kwakho, futhi ekugcineni wonke umuntu umatasa ngezindaba zakhe, ngakho-ke ungakhokhi ngalokhu kakhulu.
2. Khumbula ukuthi sonke singabantu futhi singadonsa wonke umuntu. Uma namuhla le nkathazo yenzeke kuwe - ungadikibali. Woza ekhaya, uthathe ibhuku lokuphumula futhi ungacabangi ngalokho okwenzekile. Ngosuku olulandelayo uzobona ukuthi akekho okhumbula ngisho nalesi sigameko "esiyingozi" empilweni yakho.
3. Unganqikazi ukuzikhumbuza. Ukuphuma ekukhanyeni, ukuhlangabezana nabantu abasha, tshela ngawe. Kungaba okungcono kakhulu ukutshela indaba ehlekisayo.

Ngomqondo wokungavikeleki, kungcono ukulwa nezimo ezibucayi. Lapha isebenza isimiso esifanayo nanjengoko uzama ukufunda ukugebha ngokujula okukhulu, uma ufuna - awufuni, kodwa uzodingeka. Uma, ngokwesibonelo, wesaba ukukhuluma enkomfeni ngaphambi kwezibukeli eziningi, khona-ke udinga ukubheka ukwesaba emehlweni akho futhi uvumele ukukhuluma.

Ukuhlukunyezwa kwakho kwangaphakathi kungabonakaliswa futhi kungabi ngamazwi ngesimo sokuthi ungaqiniseki, okufaka izinto ezinjengokuthi:

• ukukhipha ngemuva kwekhanda;
• ukukhipha indlebe;
• isandla sibambe isigqoko ngemuva;
• Izikhali eziqondile nezintende ezivaliwe ngemuva.

Kufanele ugweme ukuthinta okunjalo, uma ufuna ukuthi unomqondo womuntu othembekile.

Ukungaqiniseki kwamadoda

Amadoda abhekana nokudideka okuhluke kakhulu kunabesifazane. Ubulili obubuthakathaka buyathinteka ukwabelana nokwesaba kwayo kanye okuhlangenwe nakho kwabantu abaseduze, kuyilapho abafana abanesibindi nabangenakufinyeleleka bazivala bona bese bazama ukunqoba nokuxazulula konke ngokwabo. Ukungaqiniseki emakhono abo omuntu akuyona nje isihloko esivaliwe, kepha futhi kukhona, ngoba emadodeni akuyona into engokwesiko ukuxoxa ngezinkinga zangaphakathi zomphefumulo, ngisho nabangane abasondelene nabo.

Ukungaqiniseki mayelana nobulili besilisa akudali indima enkulu njengabesifazane. Ingqondo yalabafana isebenza njengomshini, futhi zonke izinkomba zihlose ukuxazulula inkinga yamanje noma umphumela. Ukubukeka ngokobulili kungalingana nanoma yisiphi esinye isimo, lapho kuphela umphumela obalulekile, hhayi inqubo ngokwayo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, lona wesifazane uyakunaka kakhulu lolu hlelo, ngakho-ke ukuphikisana kobulili kuvela ngalokhu.

Into esemqoka lapha ukuqonda okushiwo ukuhlukana phakathi kwamadoda nabesifazane bese uzokwazi ukunqoba ukungezwani okuvela ngesisekelo sokungaqiniseki komlingani wakho kuwe.