Ukuhlukumezeka ngokuzenzakalelayo yisifo seziningi zomphakathi wanamuhla. Bambalwa abantu abakucabangayo, kodwa isizathu sokuthi umngane wakho oseduze uhlanganyela njalo nge-samoyedstvom noma ngezinye izikhathi ukulimaza ngokomzimba, ukushaya, ukuhlekisa umzimba wakhe, ukuzijezisa. Okubi nakakhulu ukuthi kokubili izingane nezingane zithandwa kulokhu.
Ukuziphendulela - kuyini?
Ukuhlukumezeka ngokuzenzakalelayo kwengqondo kubhekiswa nangokuthi ukuzenzekela ngokuzenzakalelayo noma "ukuphikisana nawe." Ukubheka leli gama, ungaqonda ukuthi lolu uhlobo lomsebenzi, izenzo ezihlose ukuzilimaza. Ezincwadini zesayensi yezesayensi, incazelo elandelayo yalesi simo ingabonakala: ukuhlukumezeka ngokuzenzakalela ukuziphatha okulimazayo okubangelwa ukuvuselelwa kobudlova, intukuthelo yedwa. Noma yikuphi umuntu oyedwa ongaqondi ukuthi akuvamile ukulimaza wena, ukuphazamisa inhlalakahle yomuntu. Endabeni ye-autoagressors, isimo sihlukile.
Ukuzenzekelayo - Izimbangela
Kunezimbangela ezilandelayo zokuzenzekelayo:
- Ngaphandle . Lokhu kuhlanganisa kokubili ubudlova obungokwenyama nangokwengqondo komuntu ozobe esenxusa ukuzilimaza ngokomzimba esikhathini esizayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izimbangela zangaphandle zokuzihlukumeza ukuhlukumezeka kukhona ukwephula inqubo yokuxhumana nomphakathi (ukuhlalisana). Ezinganeni, isisekelo sawo senziwa yizingxabano eziningi phakathi kwabazali, ukuhlazeka nokuxhashazwa esikoleni.
- Ngaphakathi . Ukuzikhukhumeza kuthinteka kubantu abanomzwelo, labo abanengqondo engaqiniseki, ubuntu obungenakuqhathaniswa obuvame ukubeka ithemba eliphezulu emphakathini. Laba bantu bajwayele ukuzwelana (uzwela), bancike ezizweni ezicindezelayo. Izazi zengqondo zithi kukhona ukuxhumana okuqondile phakathi kokuziphendulela nokuzihlonipha okuphansi.
- Biological . Ukuzenzekela ngokuzenzakalelayo kungabangela ukubonwa okubukwayo, okuhlolisisa, ukugula kwengqondo .
Ukuzenzekelayo ngokuzenzakalelayo - izimpawu
Inqunywa inani lezibonakaliso ezinjenge:
- ukuxhashazwa kwezidakamizwa, utshwala, ugwayi (lokhu kuhlanganisa noma yikuphi ukuxhomeka kwamakhemikhali);
- ukuziphatha okuncane okulimazayo (ukugwedla ama-crusts kusuka kwamanxeba, izindebe ezihlabayo igazi, njll);
- Ukuhlaselwa kokuzibulala ngokuzenzakalelayo kubonakala ngokuzama ukuzibulala, ukucasula, isifiso sokuba yedwa ngokwakho;
- isifiso esikwaziyo noma esingenalutho sokungena ezimweni eziyingozi empilweni (ezemidlalo ezedlulele);
- ukwenza ngamabomu izenzo ezokulahlwa ngumphakathi;
- ukwenqaba kokudla noma ukudla ngokweqile (ukuzidla kokudla);
- ukumangalelwa kuzo zonke izono zesintu;
- ukuhlazeka njalo komuntu siqu.
Izinhlobo zokuzenzekelayo
Kuze kube manje, kunezinhlobo ezine zokuziphatha okulimaza okungavulwa (ukuzibulala) futhi kuvaliwe (isifiso sokuthola umsebenzi oyingozi, ukuthambekela kokuphuza). Ngendlela yokuveza, lezi zinhlobo ezilandelayo zokuziphendulela zihlukile:
- Ukuzenzakalela ngokomoya . Lapha, umuntu, ngaphandle kokuziqaphela ngokwakhe, uba yisimiso semigomo yakhe yokuziphatha, izimfanelo, ngenxa yalokho angase athuthukise ukuxhomeka kwezidakamizwa. Ngokuvamile, laba bantu basesimweni sokudakwa. Kubuye kwenzeke ukuthi lolu hlobo lokuziphendulela luhambisana nomhlanganyeli egrijini lenkolo lapho kungavunyelwe ukukhombisa imizwelo emibi.
- Physical . Lapha konke kucacile. Umuntu, uma engakwazi ukuphendula umoni wakhe, uyedwa wedwa uzilimaza, udlwengule umzimba wakhe. Uma ejwayele ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, uvame ukuzama ukufihla imidwebo yokushaywa ngaphansi kwezingubo ngemikhono emide, i-maxi skirts.
- Ukuhlukumeza ngokomqondo ngokwakho . Konke ongakuzwa kulo muntu ukuthi akakwazi ukwenza lutho, akakwazi lutho. Ingabe kukhona okubi okwenzekile? I-autoagressor izosho ukuthi yiphutha lakhe futhi akekho omunye. Uhlale ekhuluma ngokungazitholi kwakhe, ukwehlisa. Wazibandakanya ngokuzihlambalaza.
- Social . Laba abanye abantu ababi, labo abafisa ukuba yizinkumbi ezimhlophe, abaqashiwe emphakathini. Zizoziphatha kabi, futhi ngezinye izikhathi zivusa ukuziphatha. Lokhu kuzwakala kungavamile, kodwa umuntu onjalo uyajabula lapho abantu bengathokozi ngokuziphatha kwakhe.
Ukuzenzekelayo - ukwelashwa
Uma sikhuluma ngokuningiliziwe mayelana nokuthi singabhekana kanjani nokuhlukumezeka, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kufanele sikwazi ukuyihlola kahle. Lolu khetho lufanelekile uma kwenzeka izinhlobo ezihlukahlukene zokuziphatha okulimazayo (i- anorexia , i-bulimia, ukuphuza utshwala njalonjalo). Isazi (isazi sengqondo, isazi sezengqondo, isazi sengqondo sengqondo) siphulukisa isiguli, simema ukuba agcwalise imibuzo, adlulise izivivinyo ze-projective.
Ngokuphathelene nokwelashwa ngokwayo, indlela yomuntu ngamunye ifanelekile lapha. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi yini eyabangela ukuzenzekelayo. Into eyinhloko ukuthi umuntu aqaphele inkinga yakhe, ukuqonda ukuthi ibuhlungu izinga lokuphila kwakhe. Indlela enhle yokwelapha i-autodestruction ukufuna usizo ku-psychotherapist owenza ukwelashwa kwengqondo-yokuziphatha. Ngaphezu kokusebenza ngezimbangela zengqondo, isazi singachaza imithi (izidakamizwa zokulwa nokucindezeleka, i-antipsychotics).
Uma le ndlela yokwelapha kunzima ukuyisebenzisa, i-autoagressor idinga ukufunda indlela yokuveza imizwa yakhe ngendlela efanele. Ngakho-ke, kufanelekile ukubhala incwadi evuthayo, emva kwalokho kufanele iphulwe. Uma intukuthelo evela ngaphakathi ihlupha, ungayishaya ngokuphepha umcamelo, uphakamise. Funda ukugcwalisa ukungabi nalutho kwangaphakathi ngemimoya emihle, okuvelayo. Zizwe ngokwakho usizo. Funda ukuphumula (uxhumane nemvelo, ulalele umculo otholile).
Ukuhlukumeza okuzenzakalelayo kwengane
Ukuzithokozisa kwezingane kungaphathwa ngokunakekelwa, ukukhathazeka nokuthanda kwabazali, abantu abasondelene kakhulu nomntwana. Uma uqaphela ukuthi ingane iqala, isibonelo, ukushaya ikhanda lakhe ngokumelene nodonga, ukuziqhenya, ungambonisi ukwesaba kwakhe. Lapha kulungile ukukhuluma ukuthi ubani owamcasula, udweba abahlukumezi, ababonise ngesimo esingenangqondo. Le ndlela ayikusizi? Lapho nje ingane iqala ukuzilimaza, mnike ububele futhi anakekele. Ukuze ulondoloze ingane ekuziphatheni okulimazayo, kumdumise kaningi, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - ungahlanganyeli ekumenikeleni .
Ukuhlukumeza okuzenzakalelayo kwabaselula
Ukuzihlukumeza okuzizwayo noma okungazi lutho kubonakala kwentsha ephikisana nokucindezeleka okuphansi kanye nalabo abanokungazinzi ngokomzwelo. Kuyafaneleka ukukhuluma nentsha, ukucacisa ukuthi ufuna ukumsiza. Yilalele. Into esemqoka ukunaka ingane isithunzi sayo, amandla omlingiswa (khombisa ndawonye ukwenza uhlu lwezimfanelo ezinhle). Kubalulekile ukucacisa ukuthi angakwazi ukuthembela njalo ekusizeni abantu abadala.
Ukuzenzekela ngokuzenzakalelayo kubantu abadala
Ukuzenzekelayo, ukwelashwa kubantu abadala abangaqhubeki kalula, njengasesikoleni zasenkulisa izingane noma intsha, kunganyamalala. Ekuqaleni ukukhulumisana nomqondo we-psychotherapist, uma kungelula ukusebenzisa, khona-ke ngesikhathi sokuhlaselwa kobudlova kunconywa ukugcina idayari, uzungeze nabantu abazosiza ukubuka impilo yakho ngenye indlela. Kuyafaneleka ukubukeza isimo sengqondo ngenkinga yethu, ukuthatha imithwalo yempilo yethu siqu futhi sikholwe ukuthi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isimo asibonakali kanjani, singalungiswa.
Ukuvimbela ukuzenzekelayo
Uma ukwelashwa ngokweqile akuyona icala lakho, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi ube nokuziphatha okulimazayo, ngakho-ke kufanelekile ukuthatha ukuvimbela kwawo. Udinga ukufunda indlela yokuveza kahle intukuthelo yakho, ukwazi ukuvikela umbono wakho. Uma imizwelo emibi ekhulayo, uqondise kabusha ukuba bahlanganyele ekudaleni, ezemidlalo (shaya isikhwama sokukhwabanisa ngemuva kosuku olunzima ukusebenza, phumula kwi-yoga).
Ukuzenzekelayo - izincwadi
Ukuzenzekela ngokuzenzakalelayo, izincwadi ezizosiza wonke umuntu ukuba azi ngokuningiliziwe ukuthi uyini nokuthi ungayiphatha kanjani, ukuziphatha okulimazayo okungakhulunywa kakhulu:
- " Indima nendawo yenkinga yokuzimela emindenini yeziguli ezinokwethenjelwa ngokweqile " umlobi uMerinova A. Uzofunda ngalokho umshado "ophuza utshwala" nokuthi izihlukaniso zithinta kanjani umuntu ohlukile.
- " Intombazane. Ukusuka ekuzibhubhiseni kuya ekuzikhuliseni. "U-Ilatova A. Umlobi usho ukuthi ukukhishwa kwemoto kungakwazi kanjani ukubhubhisa impilo yentsha.
- " Izindlela zokuzivikela" uMcWilliams N. Lapha uzozicacisela ukuthi kungani ukukhiqizwa kwempahla kubonakala njengendlela yokuzivikela yengqondo.
- "Ukuzitika ngokuzenzekelayo, ukuzibulala nokudakwa ngokweqile " uShustova D. Le ncwadi izokusiza abasebenzi bezenhlalakahle nezakwelashwa, izazi zengqondo, abavame ukubhekana nalezi zinkinga.