Ngeshwa, amagama ama-parasites ngesiRashiya yinhlekelele yesikhathi sethu. Kunzima kakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi kusho ukuthini lapho inkulumo yomuntu ingcolile ngamagama anjalo. Abantu abaningi banalo mkhuba: uma i-interlocutor ngesikhathi senkulumo isebenzisa inqwaba yamazwi ezinambuzane, khona-ke umuntu wesibili, esikhundleni sokuthola incazelo yalokho okushiwoyo, uqala umdlalo othakazelisayo: bala inani lamagama anjalo. Amazwi angama-parasite aphuli nje kuphela ukuzwakala komlomo, kodwa futhi aphule umqondo womuntu. Siphakamisa ukuthi ngokushesha uqale ukulwa nomkhuba omubi futhi uzijwayele emagama ama-parasites.
Uhlu lwamagama ezinambuzane
Sakha "i-hit parade" yezibonelo zamazwi ezinambuzane. Uma usufunde, kuzoba lula kuwe ukuhlaziya isilulumagama sakho: njengokungathi; ukukhuluma kahle; ngale ndlela; ngokuqondile; Kuqondile; njengoba bethi; njalo njalo; ngithi; eqinisweni; njengeyakhe; ngomusa; ngakho lapha; mfushane; ukuthi ungathini; ubona; uzwa; uhlobo; eqinisweni; ngokujwayelekile; ngokujwayelekile; ngandlela-thile; I-FIG. e-horse-radish; ngokusemthethweni; manje; okufana; kuphela; Lapha; eqinisweni; Yebo; cha; konke lokho; ngokujwayelekile; lokho; lokhu; lokhu kungcono kakhulu; i-eshkin cat; Kuhle; Awu, lapha; Linganisa; i-prikol; kusho.
Futhi akulona uhlu lonke lwamagama ezinambuzane, ngakho zama uzame ukuqapha inkulumo yakho.
Ungasusa kanjani amagama ama-parasites?
Okokuqala, ake senze isithombe somuntu ogama lakhe ligcwele amagama ama-parasites. Mhlawumbe lokhu kuzokwenza ucabange futhi uqaphele amagama akho. Uma umuntu esebenzisa ama-parasites njalo enkulumweni yakhe, yena:
- Iqala ukucasula i-interlocutors futhi ingaba mnandi kwabanye.
- Yakha isithombe somuntu ongaqiniseki ngamandla abo. Inkulumo yakhe ifana nomfula ongasho lutho.
- Uvame ukudideka enkulumweni yakhe siqu. Uma uletha inkulumo yakho ngokuhlelekile, khona-ke imicabango yakho izocaca futhi ifinyeleleke kwabanye.
- Uma ufuna ukudala umsebenzi omuhle, ukwazi ukuhlala emphakathini, wenze abantu abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo, bese ulwa nama-parasites enkulumweni yakho. Lawa magama angeke abe yisithiyo kuphela, kodwa futhi anikeze izimfihlo zakho.
Uma ucabanga ngokujulile ngalokhu okushiwo ngenhla, kuyobe lula kuwe ukuthi ulwe namazwi ngama-parasites. Futhi, ungakhohlwa mayelana nokungahambisani kohlobo "aaaaa", "eeee" nangomqondo wokusebenza osebenzayo. Zama ukugqamisa inkulumo yakho ngalezo zinto bese uqala ukusebenza kuso.
Uma unquma ukuhlanza inkulumo yakho ngokucophelela, udinga ukucabanga ngentengo yegama ngalinye. Phela, kwezinye izimo, enye ye "eeeee" yakho noma "efana" ingadala umsebenzi othembisayo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi othandekayo ongakwazi ukukhathazeka ngokulalela okungapheli "ku-FIG.".
Izazi zengqondo zinikeza le ndlela yokuqeda amagama ama-parasites: uma ubona ukuthi usho leli gama futhi, engeza okuthile okungenangqondo, isibonelo, "imbali" noma "umnsalo". Ngikholelwa, uzobukeka uyisiphukuphuku ngesikhathi esifanayo, okusho ukuthi uzokwazi ukuzithiba .
Futhi senze iseluleko esizosiza ekulwa nalesi sitha:
- Zama ukushintsha indlela yokuphila evamile, zilawule njalo uzibonele.
- Funda kabanzi. Kubandakanya, ngokuzwakalayo.
- Yenza izinyathelo enkulumweni yakho. Ukuphazamisa kuzokwenza inkulumo yakho ibe nzima kakhulu.
- Lapho ukhuluma, bheka i-interlocutor yakho.
Ngemuva kokuthi usule inkulumo yakho yamasks ngendlela yamazwi aphikisayo, ukukhulumisana nawe kuyoba mnandi kakhulu futhi kuyadingeka kakhulu, isibalo kuyo yonke into, ngenxa yokunqoba okunjalo, ukuzethemba kwakho kuyobe kuphumelele kuphela.