Izazi zengqondo zisho ukuthi ukuthinta kungasho okuningi ngomzwelo womuntu kunamazwi akhe, ngoba kaningi senza ukunyakaza komzimba ngokungacacile, kumshini, ukuhambisa ukuzwa kwangaphakathi, futhi asikwazi ukuwalawula njalo. Ngakho-ke kuyasiza ukwazi ukuthi iziphi izenzo ezishoyo, isibonelo, izandla, ukuze uqonde ukuthi i-interlocutor yakho ivulekile kangakanani, ivulekile, ithule noma ijabule, njll.
Yenzani ukuzithokozisa kwezandla nezintende?
Izandla zomuntu cishe zibonakala njalo. Futhi bahlale benaka kakhulu kubo esimweni sokuxhumana. Uma umphikisi wakho ecindezelwe imizwelo eqinile, izandla zakhe nezandla zakhe akunakwenzeka ukuba ziphumule, mhlawumbe, uzothatha okuthile ezandleni zakhe, ukushaya okuthile, izinto ezithintekayo, izingubo zakhe, izinwele, njll. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi yiziphi izenzo zomzimba ezikhuluma ngazo, ukuze uhumushe ngendlela efanele ukuziphatha komuntu womuntu, ungagxila emagama kuphela.
Isenzo sokuqala esingasho okuningi ngomuntu kungukubambisana ngokubambisana. Uma engumuntu ohluphayo, uzokwelula isandla sakhe kuqala, aphendule ngesandla sakhe phansi. Ukufuna ukubonisa inhlonipho ekhethekile kanye nokuzikhandla, abantu bayelula isandla, bebheke phansi nombambo. Ukuncintisana, okungahambisani nokuphikisa, cishe, kuzokunika isandla, kuphenduke phansi. Ngomuntu ongenalondekile, obuthakathaka, isandla sizohlushwa futhi siqondile, futhi ukuxhashazwa kwesandla kubuthakathaka.
Ezinye izenzo zomzimba nezisho zawo:
- abantu bavame ukusakaza izandla zabo ezinhlangothini bese babonisa izandla zabo - uqotho futhi uvulekile ekukhulumisaneni;
- ukuwela izingalo kanye nezintende zezandla, ngokuphambene, khuluma ngokuqapha futhi hhayi ukulungela ukuxhumana;
- Izintende ziphanyeke omunye nomunye zikhuluma ngokuzikhukhumeza komuntu ophikisayo;
- izandla emaphaketheni, ikakhulukazi uma umuntu ehlezi ngesikhathi esisodwa - isibonakaliso sokuhlukunyezwa nokucasula;
- izandla ziyahamba, umuntu njalo ebopha izinwele zakhe, ethinta ubuso bakhe, njll. Uzama ukuqamba amanga;
- indoda imboza umlomo ngesandla sayo - ayivumelani nawe, kodwa ayiqapheli ukuphikisa;
- ukuqondana, izintende ezicindezelayo komunye nomunye - isibonakaliso esinenjongo futhi esiqinile ekukhulumisaneni kwabantu;
- Izintende zisezintendeni zetafula - umphikisi ulindele ukuthola ukwesekwa kuwe;
- ama-brushes ama-half-bent - i-interlocutor ayifuni ukungqubuzana , ilungele noma yikuphi ukuyekethisa kokuxhumana;
- Isandla esisodwa sibamba esinye isici - umuntu akaqiniseki ngezenzo zakhe namagama, kodwa uzama ukuzidonsa ndawonye.
Ukuthinta okuvame kakhulu kweminwe nencazelo yawo
Kukhona okuthiwa ukuthambekela kwamazwe omhlaba, okuqondwa kahle ngabantu abavela emhlabeni wonke. Futhi ngokuvamile bawasebenzisa ukuze banqobe umkhawulo wolimi. Noma kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuthi usebenzise ngokucophelela ukuzithokozisa ngeminwe, ojwayele amaYurophu, isibonelo, Muslim kanye namanye amazwe. Emva kwakho konke, lapha bangaphathwa njengezinhlamba.
Ngakho wonke uphawu owaziwa ngokuthi "Kulungile" - isithupha esinezintambo kanye nomunwe wenkomba - ngokuvamile kubonisa ukuvunywa. Kodwa eBrazil nakwamanye amazwe ase-Arab, kusho ukusho kobudlelwane obuseduze futhi kuyamcasula. EJapane, lesi senzo kufanele sizwakale njengombuzo othi "Ngakanani?".
Incazelo yeminye yezenzo ngeminwe yakho:
- evaliwe iminwe "yokukhiya" - ukuveza ukungavumelani ngokuthula ngamagama akho, noma ngabe lowo muntu ngenkathi ehleka, qiniseka ukuthi uzolahla isinqumo sakho;
- iminwe efakwe enqabeni - isibonakaliso sokuvimbela ukuhlukunyezwa, isitha sakho kungenzeka sichithe noma yimiphi iminithi;
- imiphetho ehlangene yeminwe eyenza indlu - isibonakaliso sokuzethemba kwe-interlocutor ngokwakho, ibona umqondo wokuphakama, futhi amazwi akho akhipha ukumomotheka okunciphisa.