Nsuku zonke sibhekana nabantu abahlukene, izimo, ngaphandle kokuziqaphela, ukuzihlola futhi, ngokuvamile, akusiwo umbono wethu, isimo sengqondo, kodwa ubandlululo olubekwa umphakathi.
Ubandlululo ludlala indima ebalulekile empilweni yabo bonke abantu. Zithinta umqondo, isimo sengqondo kokuthile, kumuntu.
Imithombo yengqondo yokubandlulula ichaza ubandlululo njengendlela yokubandlulula ngomuntu, njll, ngokusekelwe kubulungu bakhe esigabeni esithile noma eqenjini. Imithombo eyinhloko yobandlululo yindawo yomphakathi kanye nomndeni wesintu. Okokuqala, abazali bafaka engqondweni isimo sengqondo, lapho umqondo wakhe wabanye uvela khona, ngaye ngokwakhe. Ukukhula, umuntu akabuyekezi ukubukwa okufakwe kusukela ebuntwaneni, futhi usebenzisa impilo yokudala, ebuhlotsheni nabanye.
Izinhlobo zobandlululo
Emphakathini, kuvamile ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwezinhlobo ezihlukahlukene zokubandlulula:
- Ubulili. Ubuhlanga bobulili obuhlobene nobulili. Lokhu kungenye yezobandlululo ezivame kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, ngokusho kocwaningo, ukucwaswa okunjalo ngokobulili amadoda asetshenziselwa ukubhekisela kumqondo ozwakalayo, ukuphazamiseka. Ukubandlulula ngokobulili kubandakanya inkolelo yokuthi amadoda aphumelela kakhulu ebhizinisini noma ukuthi umsebenzi wesifazane ulinganiswa ukuthi uphansi kunamadoda.
- Ubandlululo lukazwelonke. Lena yinto yomphakathi-yengqondo, ekhonjiswa ngento ehlanekezelayo ngokuqondene nomhlanga owodwa kuya komunye. Ukubandlulula okunjalo kungenye yezindlela zokubonakalisa i-ethnocentrism. Benza imisebenzi yokuhlola. Ukusebenza kwabo kusiza ukugcina ibanga eliphakathi kwabantu abamele izinhlanga ezahlukene.
- Ubudala. Inkinga ngalolu hlobo lokubandlulula ukuthi umuntu ubonakala ngabanye ngokusebenzisa i-prism of stereotypes, ebonisa, isibonelo, ukuthi abantu abasha bakholelwa ukuthi abantu abaneminyaka yobudala abakwazi ukuhlanganyela ekusebenzeni okusebenzayo, futhi abadala asebekhulile bakholelwa ukuthi abantu abasha abanandaba.
- Umndeni. Ubandlululo oluphathelene nesimo sengqondo somuntu kuye, ekubukeni kwakhe noma ekuziphatheni kwakhe (okuvela kuzo izinkinga), ezenzakalweni (ukukholelwa ekukholelweni izinkolelo, njll), ekudleni, njll,
Kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi noma yimuphi owesifazane ngaphandle kokubandlulula, njengendoda, ibonakala ekhangayo nakakhulu. Ngemva kokukholwa ngezinkolelo-ze ezihlukahlukene, ukwethemba imibono eminingi futhi ukwenqaba ukwakha iphuzu lomuntu siqu, isibonelo, ngokuphathelene nanoma yibuphi ubuzwe, umuntu angabheka ukuthi uyisiphukuphuku, umuntu angahle alahlekelwe ngumuntu ngamunye.
Isizathu nokubandlulula akukaze kube nesisekelo esivamile sokuvela, ngokwemvelo, ingqondo yomuntu, ukuqonda kuhlanzekile, kodwa ngokuvumela izinkolelo-ze ukuyiqondisa, umuntu uhlambalaza umbono wakhe wezwe.
Uma umuntu efunda ukugcina, qhathanisa ulwazi olwamukelwe, luzindle ngalo futhi luhlaziye, luqinise konke ngempawu ezibonakalayo, bese luhlanganiswa nolwazi olutholakalayo, umuntu uya ezingeni eliphakeme lokuphila - izinga lokucabangisisa. Ukuphila kwakhe kukhululekile ekubandlululweni.
Indlela yokuqeda ubandlululo?
Ungasusa ingqondo yakho ngezindlela eziningana:
- Funda ukuhlukanisa imbewu kumakhoba, ukuthuthukisa ukucabanga okudala, ukuhlanganisa ingqondo nemizwa.
- Ukuthuthukiswa kokucabanga okuvumelanisa (isici sokubona kwezingane).
- Ungahlolisisi imicimbi, abantu. Yeka izahlulelo zesigaba.
- Thuthukisa ukuguquguquka kokucabanga.
- Ungakwazi ukushintsha ukugxeka kokuzigxeka.
- Funda ukubuka iqiniso ngokoqobo ngethuba eliphumelelayo lokuthuthukisa amakhono akho.
- Thuthukisa intuition yakho ngokusungula oxhumana naye ngokwakho.
- Funda ukulalela izwi lakho langaphakathi.
- Thola izinhlangothi ezinhle ku-negative.
Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi ukuqeda ubandlululo, uhlanza ulwazi lwakho, isimo sakho sengqondo kwabanye, ngaleyo ndlela uthuthukise ubuhlobo empilweni.