Kukholelwa ukuthi abantu abanamandla kuphela abahloniphekile bangabathethelela. Ngokwengqondo kwengqondo kuthiwa ukukhulula ukuhlambalaza umuntu uzizwa ekhululekile, futhi kuyasiza isimo somuntu siqu sengqondo. Ukuqala ukuqaphela inqubo yokuthethelela kuyoba nzima, kodwa esikhathini esizayo kuyoba nomkhuba omuhle.
Amathiphu ekuphenyweni, ukuthethelela izono
Ngokuvamile umuntu ugxila kakhulu ekuhlambalaleni ukuthi ukuphila kwakhe kuthola imibala ekhanda. Umthwalo onjalo awuvumeli ukuphila okuvamile nokujabulisayo. Yingakho ekuqondweni kwengqondo kukhona izigaba ezinikezwe icala nokuthethelela. Phakathi kwazo zonke imininingwane ekhona, kunezeluleko ezithile:
- Kudingeka ucabange ngesimo endaweni enokuthula futhi uziqonde ukuthi yini ezoba ukuphila uma uqhubeka ukhubeka. Ukuvuthwa kuyonakalisa, futhi kuzothinta izigaba ezahlukene zokuphila.
- Buka isimo kusuka ohlangothini bese uphendula imibuzo ethile, isibonelo "Iyini imbangela yecala?", "Yini engamjabulisi emazwini nasezenzo zomunye umuntu?", Njll. Kuyafaneleka ukuqonda ukuthi yiziphi izintambo ezingadonsa umonile, ngoba lezi zibuthakathaka. Ukuhlaziywa okunjalo kunconywa ukuthi kwenziwe ngokubhala.
- Qala ngamazwi okuthethelela, okumele kuthiwe kuqala kuwe. Ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuphindaphinda amagama, isibonelo, "Mina, ngivumela ukwehluleka" kuzokwenzeka ngemuva kwesikhathi esifushane ukuzwa ukukhululeka kwangempela. Ezingqondweni, into esabekayo kakhulu ukuthukuthela komama ongavumeli umuntu ukuba akhe umndeni ojabulayo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi lo muntu unikeze impilo futhi amthethelele okungenani ngenxa yalokho.
- Ukuqonda indlela yokubhekana nokuhlambalaza, kufanelekile ukukhuluma futhi indlela enjalo eyaziwa ngokusebenza kwengqondo - thatha izimo ezinzima ekuphileni njengesifundo esiphila ekuphileni. Yenza iziphetho ezithile futhi udwebe ekuhlakanipheni kokuphila, okuzovumela esikhathini esizayo
gwema zonke izinkinga. - Ukulwa nokucasuka, usebenzisa amahlaya. Kuyinto ikhono lokuhleka yedwa elizobhekana nakho konke ukunganaki okwenziwe emphefumulweni. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kuzokufundisa ukuphatha impilo lula futhi kungabi yinto encane.
- Ezingqondweni, ukuze unqobe umuzwa wokufutheka, zinike iseluleko esinjalo - qonda ukuthi abantu bavame ukucasula abanye ngokungazi kahle futhi mhlawumbe isimo sakho sisuka ngqo kulokhu. Lesi simo ngenxa yokuthi bonke abantu bahlukile futhi wonke umuntu uyabona lokho abakushoyo noma abakwenzile ngendlela yabo. Ukuze uhlele wonke amaphuzu futhi uqonde isimo, kungcono ukuthatha umhlukumezi engxoxweni engagwegwesi futhi uqonde izinhloso zakhe, kanye nokuveza umbono wakhe.