Kuyini ukuphikisana, nokuthi ngabe ukuthethelela lokhu - abantu ababhekene nokukhashelwa balahlekile futhi bahlehliselwe ithemba. Ukuthethelela noma cha - konke kuxhomeke esibangelweni salokho okwenzekile, nokuthi bangakanani abalingani ababazana, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ubuhlobo ngeke bube bufanayo.
Kuyini ukuphikisana - incazelo
Ukuhlambalaza kuyincazelo ye-polysemy: ungashintsha izwe, ama-comrades, izimiso, wena noma othandekayo wakho, kodwa njalo leli gama liphethe umthwalo we-semantic ofanayo - ukwephula ukuthembeka nokuqonda, izifungo nezithembiso. Izinkolo eziningi zenkolo ziqaphela ukuhlubuka njengesinye sezono ezinkulu kakhulu . Umuntu ngamunye unomqondo wakhe wokungathembeki ngokusekelwe ekuhlangenwe nakho okudlule.
Kuyini ukuphikisana ebuhlotsheni?
Ukuphikisana othandweni akukwazi ngokuzwa abantu abaningi emhlabeni wonke. Ubuhlungu bokukhungatheka kwenza umuntu akwazi ukuzwa lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho okubi futhi ashiye ukushicilelwa kobudlelwane obulandelayo. Ukwehluleka ukuthembela kumuntu wobulili obuhlukile. Ubuqili ebuhlotsheni buhlale buzwa njengokungathembeki nokukhohlisa, futhi noma yikuphi isizathu, kuhlale kubuhlungu kumuntu oye washintsha kuye.
Yiziphi izimbangela zokungathengiswa nokukhonjwa?
Ziyini izizathu zokungathengi kanye nokukhwabanisa okuvame kakhulu phakathi kwengxenye ebuthakathaka naphakathi kobulili obunamandla? Ngenxa yocwaningo lwezo zombili, izimpendulo ezilandelayo zivela:
- impilo yokulala ngokobulili, ukungabi nokuhlolwa kokulala;
- "Amanoveli enkonzo" okuholela ekukhuleni komsebenzi;
- ukugcina isimo phakathi kwabalingani bebhizinisi;
- inkinga yobudala obuphakathi, lapho ukulahleka kwencazelo kwenzeka, konke okuye kwahlala - ukwehla kwamademesheni futhi amadoda nabesifazane bafuna izincazelo ezintsha;
- ukukhula kwezinzwa;
- i-sexogolism (ukuziphatha okuthembekile okuthembekile).
Ukuphinga
Kuyini ukwethembeka nokukhohliswa ubudlelwano bomshado - amadoda nabesifazane kaningi abavumelani. Amadoda ashadile akholelwa ukuthi ubulili ngaphandle kwemizwa nezibopho akuyona ukuphikisana, kodwa ukususwa kwezingxabano, futhi ngokujwayelekile kubonakala ngokwezakhi zofuzo. Izizathu zokungathembeki komfazi ziyingozi kakhulu, ngoba abesifazane banamathuba amaningi okuhlala bethembekile futhi bajabule ukuzinza. Uma ukukhwabanzeka kwenzekile, khona-ke lesi yisikhathi sokuzindla nokubhekana neqiniso: yini engalungile ngobuhlobo?
Izimpawu zokuphinga
Izibonakaliso eziningi zokungathengi zihlobene, futhi ungasho njalo ukuthi umlingani uyashintsha, kodwa lezi zinguquko kufanele zixwayise, kungcono ukuzinaka. Izimpawu zokuhlubuka:
- isithakazelo esilahlekile ebuhlotsheni obukhona, umndeni;
- umlingani uqala ukucasuka kaningi;
- "I-Hangs" ku-smartphone;
- ucingo luyeka ukulala endaweni ephawulekayo futhi inkumbulo isuswe unomphela;
- ukubambezeleka okuqinile ngemva komsebenzi;
- ukunakekela ngokucophelela ukubukeka, i-narcissism phambi kwesibuko;
- ukuhamba kwezebhizinisi zesikhathi eside;
- ukuthola ubufakazi obuqondile (ezinye izinto zabantu ezitholakala emaphaketheni, imoto).
Indlela yokusinda ukukhohliswa?
AmaSoviet ukuthi ungathethelela kanjani ukuhlubuka okukhulu, kodwa konke kunomuntu ojulile, ukuthi abanye bazosebenza, abanye bazobangela ukulahlwa. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi imizwa emibi ngenxa yokukhaphela: ukuphelelwa yithemba, ukuhlazeka, ukudumala, mhlawumbe inzondo nokudelelwa, intukuthelo kufanele iphile ngokugcwele, ibanike indawo, futhi lokhu kuthatha isikhathi. Uma ubuhlobo bufanele ukulwa, kubalulekile ukuphuma kancane kule mizwelo kancane kancane, isinyathelo ngesinyathelo ukunikeza ubuhlobo ithuba lokuzalwa kabusha, ukukhumbula iqiniso elilula ukuthi noma ubani angakwazi ukuhamba.
Yikuphi ukuhlubuka okungeke kuxolelwe?
Kuyini ukuphinga okungenakuthethelelwa? Ucwaningo lwezenhlalo lubonisa ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka nokukhaphela kwababaningi kuyafana, futhi ukukhwabanisa kunzima ukuthethelela nokukhohlwa, ngoba ukutshengisa "umthengisi ngelinye ilanga - ukukhaphela futhi" kuzinzile. Ngenxa yocwaningo lwabesifazane nabesilisa, ukuphinga akuhambisani nokuthethelelwa uma:
- ukuze umlingani ahambe "ngakwesokunxele" ngokulandelana kwezinto;
- imizwa iphelile, futhi ukukhwabanisa akuyona inkinga, kanti lo mlingani uzwa umuzwa oqinile ohlangothini;
- umlingani nokungathembeki kwakhe uzama ukuveza umuzwa wecala futhi uphawule konke okunye kwesigamu.
Indlela yokuvimbela ukuhlubuka?
Ungakugwema kanjani ukukhwabanisa ebuhlotsheni benhliziyo ethandekayo? Akekho umbhangqwana oshadile ongenalutho kulokhu, ngisho noma umshado uzinzile, ngokusekelwe ekuthembeleni, othandweni nokukhathalela - ukuqubuka okungazelelwe kwesifiso kungabhubhisa ngokucophelela ngaphezu kweminyaka yobuhlobo. Izazi zengqondo ziqinisekile ukuthi izincomo nemithetho elandelayo kunganciphisa ingozi yokuhlubuka:
- Gcina ukuheha . Iqiniso elilula ukuthi abaningi bakhohlwe. Bobabili abesifazane nabesilisa abayeke ukulandela ukubukeka kwabo, izingubo zokugqoka kanye nama-tights athulwe ngeke bangeze noma yikuphi ukukhanga.
- Izithakazelo ezivamile . Yini ehlanganisa. Ukuzibandakanya okuhlangene - kubalulekile ukuthola umsebenzi ojabulisayo kokubili - kukhuthaza ukusebenzisana okukhulu.
- Yiba esimweni sokuxoxisana . Khuluma, buza, unake umlingani wakho, wabelane ngeminjabulo yakhe kanye nosizi - ungabi nandaba.
- Ukuhlukahluka ngokocansi - ukungabikho kwalokhu kwenza ubudlelwane buvuseleleke. Ungakwazi ukuletha okuthile okusha nokusha kocansi, into esemqoka akumele ukwesabe ukuzama.
- Thembela kumlingani wakho . Umhawu omncane eminganisweni enengqondo kungaba mnandi kumlingani - ubona ukuthi abamkhathaleli. Ama-scandals avamile ngesisekelo somhawu angashukumisela umlingani ukuba athengise kwangempela.
Amabhayisikobho mayelana nokuphinga
Ukushintsha komuntu othandekayo kuseyisivivinywa: umuzwa womhlaba ongaphansi komhlaba ulahlekile, konke okwakubonakala kungenakunyakaziswa ngaphambili, kuyaqina nokuthi ubuhlobo buzokhula kanjani buxhomeke kubo bobabili bomshado. Indlela yokubhekana nobuhlungu nokudumazeka? Lokhu kungasiza ukubuka kusuka kumaphuzu okubuka ahlukene futhi uqonde ukuthi kungani kwenzeka amafilimu ngokuphinga:
- " Omunye Umama ." U-Kate Jennings ukholelwa ukuthi yena nomyeni wakhe uBilly babesilisa abashadile abajabulayo, bahlangana ngesikhathi besesikoleni. Kodwa umcimbi ongajabulisayo okwenzekayo futhi uKat uthola ukuthi umshado wabo noBilly ungamanga kusukela ekuqaleni: sonke lesi sikhathi umyeni wayenezixuku eziningi kanye nomunye umndeni ngakolunye uhlangothi.
- I-Loft . Ubuhlobo bomshado obushadile buqhuma abangani abahlanu ngenxa yokuzibandakanya ngokocansi, ngoba lokhu baqasha indawo yokuhlala futhi banqume ukuthi bazothatha izintambo zabo lapho. Inkohliso ayikho into eholela enhle.
- " Okungalungile / okungathembeki ". Ukuphila komndeni okujabulisayo uConnie Sumner uqhuma lapho ehlangana ngengozi nomfana osemusha futhi umhlangano wabo uba yintando enobudlova. U-Edward ungumyeni kaConnie, uqala ukumsola futhi anqume ukumlandela.
- " Ilungelo" lokushiya "/ Les infidèles ». Kuyini ukuphikisana? Izindaba eziyisithupha, ngayinye ngayinye eveza indlela yokuphinga ngendlela yayo.
- " Intengo yokuhlukumezeka / ukuphazamiseka ". Ukuphila kwe-agent yezokukhangisa uCharles Shayn iyingqayizivele futhi ifana ne "Usuku lweGroundhog": indlu isebenza. Ukungabi nenjabulo, indodakazi yesifo sikashukela - konke lokhu kuholela ekuhlanganiseni ukuthi umhlangano wamathuba noLucinda othakazelisayo endleleni eya emsebenzini uqhuma uCharles ukuba amkhaphele, kodwa kuzodingeka akhokhe ngokugcwele.