Uma sihumusha igama elithi "uhlamvu" kusukela esiGrekini sasendulo, sizobe sithole incazelo yesikhathi. Lesi isici esihlukile, isibonakaliso, isibonakaliso, amaGreki asendulo aqonde kahle kakhulu abiza lesi simo. Umlingisi ushiya impendulo yayo kuwo wonke umcabango, isenzo, igama. Eqinisweni, liyiqembu lezimfanelo zobuntu ezigxile ezizibonakalisa ngokwazo kusukela ekuzalweni. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, umlingiswa awuyona impahla yangasese, kodwa owutholayo.
Izakhi zabantu zikhula ngesisekelo sesimiso sezinzwa zangasese (ubumnene), indawo yokuhlala, ukukhuliswa, nezici zomzimba zomuntu.
Mhlawumbe, ngisho nangaphambi kokuba kuvezwe umqondo othi "uhlamvu", abantu bazama ukuhlukanisa uhlobo lomlingiswa umuntu analo. Iminikelo yokuqala ebalulekile ekutadisheni kwethu ukuziphatha kwethu kanye nomlingiswa yenziwa odokotela bamaGreki kanye nabafilosofi baseGreki, udokotela uGalen, ngaleso sikhathi uSigmund Freud, uCarl Jung, futhi manje abalandeli - T. Dobson, E. Wagle, K. Hurley nabanye.
Ukufuna izici zomlingiswa
Ukuze unqume izici zomlingiswa womuntu, kubalulekile ukunikeza impendulo ngokwezimo ezine zokuhlola:
- ubuhlobo bomuntu kuye;
- isimo sengqondo kwabanye abantu;
- isimo sengqondo sokusebenza;
- ubuntu obunamandla.
Izimo zokuzibona zibizwa ngokuthi ukuzihlambalaza noma ukuzihlonipha, abanye abantu bangazibonakalisa njengobugovu, ukunganakwa, ukunyanyisa, umusa, ukuzwela. Ngokuqondene nomsebenzi, ubuvila, inhlangano, umsebenzi onzima, ukungabi namuntu, ukuzithoba, ukunemba, njll. Ubuntu obunamandla - konke kubuhlungu bokuzikhandla okuthile noma ukuntuleka kwalo, kanye nesiyalo, ukubekezela, ukuzimisela.
Isigaba samanje
Izikhathi zengqondo zemiqondo zinikeza ukwahlukaniswa okusha, okungavamile kwalokho abantu abakuthandayo emvelweni. Uhlobo lomlingiswa lunqunywa ngumbalo onamaphuzu ayisishiyagalolunye - ama-enneagram, ekugcineni, sithola izinhlobo ezingu-9:
- umbonisi;
- Umsizi;
- ukuphelelisa;
- i-wrestler;
- i-individualist;
- i-romantic;
- umlindi wokuthula;
- umlandeli;
- umshayeli.
Kungani, eqinisweni, singabe sinesithakazelo kangaka kulolu hlobo lomlingiswa wethu? Amakhulu eminyaka, futhi ngisho nezinkulungwane zeminyaka yokuqapha umuntu ngomuntu ofanayo, kwaholela ekubeni siqaphele ukuthi kuphela ngokuziqonda kangcono, ngokufunda nokunquma ukuthi umlingiswa womuntu ungaba yini, sizokwazi ukuthuthukisa ukuqonda kwethu kwezwe.
Ama-accents emvelo
Izakhiwo zomlingiswa womuntu azikwazi ukulungiswa yi-innate temperament. Abantu abanoma yiluphi uhlobo lwesistimu yezinzwa bangathuthuka ngokwabo noma banqande izimfanelo ezifunayo, noma kunjalo, abantu abahlukene banikezwa ubunzima obunzima.
Enye into - ukugxila. Lezi ezinye izici zobuntu eziye zathuthuka ngokweqile. Ngenxa yalokhu, umuntu unenkinga emphakathini, ikakhulukazi uma ukugcizelela kubonakala futhi kubonakala kubo bonke. Izimo ezimbi kakhulu zokugxila kungokwengqondo, okungukuthi, ukuphazamiseka komlingiswa obuhlungu. Futhi lesi yisizathu sokufaka isicelo kwisazi sengqondo.
Iziphakamiso ezithandwa kakhulu:
- ukungahloniphi kahle - imimoya ephakeme, ayikho ingqondo yokulinganisela, amandla ayishaya ngomthombo, ayikho ingozi yengozi;
- kususwa - isidingo esengeziwe sokuxhumana, ukungabi nkululeko nokuhleleka kwenhlangano;
- i-dysthymic - ngamanye amazwi, i-pessimist, igcinwe, ithule, igweme izingxabano nokucindezeleka ;
- kungeniswa
- umuntu "wangaphakathi" ngokwakhe, ongathandeki futhi ohoxisiwe; - i-cycloid - iphila emjikelezweni, lokhu kuthinta kokubili ukuxhumana nokuzizwa;
- ukukhathazeka - ukungavikeleki, ukungabaza, ukungasebenzi;
- ukuzwela ngokweqile ngokomzwelo , ukukhungatheka, ukukhathazeka;
- ukuhamba phambili - ukufuna izinto ezincane;
- ukubonisa - ukufisa kuphakathi kokunakwa;
- ukuhleleka - kalula "okuvuthayo", ukulungele ukungqubuzana necala lokuqala.