Ukuzitholela ngokwakho emehlweni abantu ngokuvamile kubonakala njengokungenwa kwe-intro, kodwa kukhona umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwalezi zenzakalo ezimbili. Ukuzitholela ngokwakho kuyindlela ecebisayo yokuzicabangela wena, lapho ukwehluleka kuphela kubhekwa futhi kuqondwa khona, futhi izici zobuntu nezikhwepha zinganakiwe.
Ukuzithakazelisa kwengqondo
Ukuze uqonde ukuthi uzinikezele ekutholeni, kuwanele ukunaka izibonakaliso ezilandelayo:
- Unendawo engafanele futhi ugxila ezintweni ezingalungile.
- Uhlale ucatshangelwa ngeziqephu ezingekho emnandi nokuhluleka.
- Uvame ukuzisola ngalokho ongakwenzi nalokho ongakwenzi ngendlela ongathanda ngayo.
- Uyesaba okuthile noma wesaba.
- Wena ngokuzenzekelayo uzitshele, bese ulungile, ngakho-ke uyaxolisa.
- Imicabango yakho ihlala njalo esikhathini esidlule (udinga ukucinga izixazululo hhayi izimbangela).
- Ukuhlaziywa kwakho akusho umgomo ocacile noma omuhle.
- Imicabango yakho ayihlose ukulungisa ukungaphumeleli - ubuhlungu nje ukuthi uyazi.
Uma uthola ukuthi lokho okuzijwayele ukukwenza, kubalulekile ukucabangela ukuthi ungayilahla kanjani inzalo yakho. Kuhlale kuphazamisa ukuphila okujabulisayo, okukhululekile.
Ungamisa kanjani ukumba?
Okokuqala, ukwakheka kokucabanga okuningi okukhonkolo kuzokusiza ukuba unqobe ukuzibulala. Ake sicabangele, yini ngalokhu okusemandleni ukwenza:
- phila okwamanje nekusasa, kodwa hhayi okwedlule;
- ukujwayela ukuthola izinzuzo kunoma yisiphi isimo;
- Ungazigxeki ngeze, kodwa ubeke imigomo evumela ukuthi ushintshe umkhuba ongathandeki;
- ukwakha izinto eziza kuqala nokuhlelwa kwempilo;
- yenza ukuzihlola ngokwakhayo, ucabange izinhlangothi zakho ezinhle, ugxile ekuphumeleleni nakho konke lokho,
yini ejabulisa wena; - ukuthuthukisa ubuntu bakho - funda ulwazi olusha, ufunde amakhono amasha;
- qiniseka ukuthi uthole isikhathi sokuziveza ngokwakho kanye nemisebenzi oyithokozile nokuthi ulungile;
- Ungabambeki esigabeni samaphupho - yenza okokuqala, kwesibili nazo zonke izinyathelo ezilandelayo endleleni eya emgomweni wakho.
Ukufunwa okufunwa yilabo abangakulungele ushintsho. Ngenxa yokuthi uvele ubhekana nokuhluleka kwakho noma uzibophezele, akukho lutho olwenzekayo. Kodwa uma uzinikela ekuthuthukiseni, isimo sizoshintsha ngesikhathi esifushane kakhulu, ngoba imicabango yakho izobe iqondiswe esikhathini esizayo kuphela.