Kuyini ukwethembeka umqondo ohlanganisiwe ogcwele iziningi eziningi zokuphila kwabantu. Ngaphandle kokuthembeka kuwe, othandekayo, abantu, umphakathi, umsebenzi wabo kanye nombuso, umuntu akakwazi ukubhekwa njengomuntu ovuthiwe futhi akhule ngokomoya.
Kuyini ukwethembeka - incazelo
Ukuthembeka kungokwesigaba semicabango yokuziphatha nesimilo - kuyisici esihle esibonisa ukubekezela nokuguquguquka kwemizwa ebuhlotsheni, ukusebenza komsebenzi ezihlotsheni, emphakathini, eMlandland. Ubuqotho nokukhashelwa yizinhlangothi ezimbili zemali efanayo futhi uma ukwethembeka kukuthenjelwa, ukuhlala unomphela, ukuqina, ukungahambi kahle nokholo, khona-ke ukukhwabanisa ukwephulwa kobuqotho. Kukholelwa ukuthi izilwane ezincelisayo (izinja, amakati) nazo zingathembeka futhi zizinikele kubanikazi bazo.
Udinga ubuqotho kumuntu wanamuhla?
Ubuqotho nokukhashelwa yizici ezimbili eziphikisanayo, cishe njengokuhle nokubi. Indoda yanamuhla kakade ayinakuqondiswa yizimiso nezimiso zesikhathi esidlule, kanti nokho ukwethembeka yilokho okufunwa yilowo nalowo. Ukuthembeka nokukhohliswa akunakwenzeka ukuba ushiye noma ubani ongenandaba, ukuhlukumezeka ngaso sonke isikhathi kushiya impendulo yakho emphefumulweni. Umuntu okhohlisayo weka ukuthembela, uvale yena ngokwakhe, noma, nakakhulu, uqala ukuziphindiselela, ukuyihlonipha ngokusebenzisa nokumkhaphela.
Ingabe ukwethembeka kuhlale kuhle?
Kungani kukhona ukukhetha phakathi kokuthembeka nokukhwabanisa yizizathu ezithinta umuntu ukuthi enze lolu khetho. Lokho abantu abaqondiswa khona ngesikhathi sokukhashelwa noma ukukhwabanisa, kungaba ukuphelelwa ithemba noma ukusimama kokuzivikela lapho ebusongweni bokuphila, akekho owaziyo. Abantu bathanda ukulahla, bebheka kuphela iphuzu le-iceberg, bengacabangi ukuthi empeleni bethonya umuntu ukuba enze lokho, ngakho-ke noma ubuqotho buhlala buhle yini - impendulo yalo mbuzo iyohluka uma umongo wendawo uqobo:
- emndenini lapho omunye noma bobabili bomshado abangasithandani futhi baphile izingane - ukwethembeka kufana nomthwalo, esikhundleni sokujabula futhi, nakuba abanye;
- Ngokuvamile owesifazane noma indoda eye yaba ngumfelokazi ubeka isiphambano futhi uhlala nezinkumbulo zenjabulo eyedlule - ukuthembeka kanjalo akugcini njalo kududuza futhi kulungile.
Ukwethembeka othandweni
Lapho ababili bathandana, abanye bavele bayeke. Ngamabhangqwana amabili le nkathi yokuthokozana komunye nomunye ingathatha izikhathi ezihlukene. Uthando aluhlukaniswanga nezilingo, umuntu uyadlula ngaphandle kokuziguqula yena nabathandekayo, omunye umuntu unesidingo sokufakazela omunye ukuthi "Ngingakwenza ngaphandle kwakho!" Ukudlala ngemizwa ngokuhlubuka. Uthando luhlukile, ngezinye izikhathi ukushintsha akupheli ukuthanda, kodwa kunzima kangakanani ukukhohliswa. Yeka ukuthi ukwethembeka nothando kuxhumene kanjani - kule mibhangqwana enothando ethandana nabo abaye bahlala ndawonye iminyaka eminingi, phendula kanje:
- uthando nokuthembeka kuyahambisana;
- lapho isimo sibangela ukungathembeki, ukuzwa ukuthi kuyobangela ubuhlungu othandekayo kuyangikhathaza futhi akuvumeli ukuqhutshwa kwenkani;
- ukwethembeka othandweni kubondla abashade noma abantu abanothando ngokomoya, benza konke okuphelele.
Ukuthembeka ebuhlotsheni
Ubuqotho nobungane buhlobene kanjani? Kakhulu kakhulu - ubungane bangempela akunakucabangeki ngaphandle kokuthembeka nokuzinikezela. Isenzakalo esingavamile kakhulu, lapho ubungane bedlula ukuhlolwa kwesikhathi futhi abantu bangabangane bokuphila - lesi isipho esibalulekile okufanele sithandeke. Ukuthembeka kumngane:
- Sondelani ngezikhathi ezinzima;
- ukukhombisa ukwethembeka nokukwazi ukugxeka ngokwakhiwa ;
- yibaqotho;
- ukubonisa ukuhlanganyela okusebenzayo, usizo oluhlanganyelana, uma usizo ludingeka.
Ukuthembeka emalini
Kuyini umsebenzi nokuthembeka, ingabe kukhona okuhlanganisa lezi zici? Ubuqotho kanye nomsebenzi kuhambisana nazo zonke izigaba zokuphila komuntu. Abantu bahilelekile emisebenzini ehlukene yomphakathi:
- umndeni womndeni;
- umngane;
- isakhamuzi sasezweni lakhe;
- ochwepheshe emkhakheni othile;
- ilungu lomphakathi.
Futhi ngayinye yalezi zindima ihilela, ngaphandle kwezikhathi ezimnandi, ukugcinwa kwezibopho ezithile, izenzo eziqondiswa yizimo zokuthi kufanele zifanele kanjani. Ukwethembeka emsebenzini kulezi zindawo kubonakala ngezindlela ezahlukene, kodwa ngokujwayelekile kuyisifiso sokuvumelana nawe kanye nalawo mazinga angakashintshi amakhulu eminyaka:
- Emndenini, ukwethembeka emsebenzini kuyavezwa kahle eBhayibhelini, ukuxhuma ngomshado, owesilisa nowesifazane besethembisayo ukuba babe "usizi nenjabulo", ukuphatha ndawonye umnotho nokukhulisa izingane.
- Ukwethembeka ezweni lakubo kanye nezwe kuthatha umsebenzi uma kwenzeka ukuqhutshwa kwezempi noma izimo eziphuthumayo ukubonisa ukuthanda izwe nokusiza, ukuvikela izwe lakubo ngisho nokulahlekelwa kwempilo yabo.
- Ukwethembeka kanye nomsebenzi womphakathi kuhloswe ngumuntu ozokwenza ngcono impilo yabantu, isimo sezinto eziphilayo ngokusebenzisa izenzo ezithile, izenzo, nokutholakala.
- Ukuthembeka phakathi kwamazwe ahlanganyelwe kusuke kunesibopho nesibopho sabaholi bomunye nomunye: usizo oluhlangene ezimweni ezinzima, ukusizwa ekuthuthukiseni izimboni.
Ukuthembeka kulo msebenzi
Ukuthembeka komsebenzi womuntu kuhilela uthando lomuntu okhethiwe nokuzinikezela. Kukhona imisebenzi eminingi, ngaphandle kokuthembeka nokuzinikela okungekho iphuzu lokuba kulokhu okukhethekile. Isibonelo, icala lezokwelapha lidinga ukubuya okukhulu kwamandla omuntu, isikhathi, udokotela omuhle akayona eyakhe. Abantu abasebenza ngokwethembeka abazicabangi ngokwabo ngaphandle kwabo, bavame ukubhekwa ngokweqile, abantu abanjalo kuthiwa yizinkanyiso zendlela ekhethiwe kanye nakho konke ukuphila kwabo abazinikezela kule ndlela. Inzuzo yomuntu lapha idlala indima yokugcina.
Ukuthembeka kuwe
Kuyini ukwethembeka kuwe? Emakhulwini eminyaka adlule, lokhu kwakusho ukuthembeka ngokweqile kumigomo kanye nobuhle bomuntu, ukuthembela ekuziphatheni komuntu wangaphakathi, umuntu akakwazanga ukwenza ngendlela ehlukile futhi eqondiswa yimigomo yangaphakathi, futhi namhlanje kunabantu abanjalo. Kodwa ukuzithoba kuwe akuyona nje kuphela ukuhlonishwa kwabantu abalungile, kukhona labo abayiqiniso kubo ngokwabo ekuboniseni kwabo okubi kakhulu - kungaba ngobuqili, ukukhohlisa, ukusetshenziswa kwezindlela ezingavumelekile ezitheni zabo.
Uzibonakalisa kanjani ubuqotho kuwe:
- Uhlelo lomuntu siqu luyisiqondiso kubantu izenzo nezenzo;
- Asikho isidingo sokufakazela othile kumuntu;
- izinkinga zixazululwa ngokuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo, hhayi ukugwema;
- kukhona isivumelwano sangaphakathi ukuthi wonke umuntu ukhululekile ukwenza njengoba ebona kufanelekile ngaphandle kokukholelwa;
- zihloniphe wena nabanye.