Kuyinto emangalisa kakhulu uma owesifazane ehle futhi ephumelelayo, futhi amadoda edelela kuye, njengonochoko. Wonke umuntu ucabanga ukuthi ngempela uyinhlanzi enamandla, ngaphandle kwalokhu, engathandi muntu, kodwa lokhu kuyimbono ekhohlisayo, konke kuphutha ngokuphelele. Eqinisweni, abesifazane abanjalo bagqoka imaski evikelayo, ngaphansi kwayo ilele umuntu osengozini futhi othethelelayo odingwa uthando.
Isizukulwane sesimanje
Eminyakeni embalwa eyedlule, abesifazane abazange bacabange ngesidingo sokwakha umsebenzi nokuzimela ngokuzimela okuthile. Ukusekelwa kwabo kwakungamadoda aqinile, abanikeze ikusasa elikhululekile. Kodwa isikhathi sishintsha, futhi isizukulwane ngasinye sihluke kulelo langaphambili. Namuhla, abesifazane abaningi benqabe ukwenza okuningi ukuze bakhe umsebenzi, kulokhu, ngisho nomndeni ubuyela emuva.
Ngicabanga ngani ngamadoda?
Kunombono owodwa othakazelisayo, ovamile, ongachaza ukuziphatha "kobulili obunamandla" nombono wabo - "Indoda ayesabi owesifazane onamandla, unamahloni ukuthi akaphumelelanga njengoba yena". Kulokhu, ukuziphatha kowesifazane kubaluleke kakhulu, ngokuqondile ukuthi uziphatha kanjani, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhomba ukuphakama kwakhe phezu komuntu. Ngenxa yalokhu, umlingani uzovame ukuphatha impumelelo yakho, futhi uzozimela ngokuzimela ukuze afinyelele phezulu. Kodwa uma umuntu obusondelene naye ezwa sengathi "i-violin yesibili," ubuhlobo bakho buzophela.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi lomdanso
Ezweni lanamuhla, kunabesifazane abaningi abaphumelelayo abangakwazi ukukhokhela imoto ebiza kakhulu, izindlu, izingubo zomklami, kodwa akekho ozilindele ekhaya. Zilungele ukunikeza konke, uma nje kuphela kwakukhona ihlombe eliqinile elisondelene.
Yisiphi isizathu?
Abesifazane abaphumelelayo banamkhawulo kumbuthano wamadoda abafinyelela kuwo, ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukungena kuwo. Ngokuyinhloko, isiqubulo sowesifazane onjalo sizwakala kanje: "Akekho indoda yangempela yangempela." Abesifazane abaningi abaphumelelayo bafuna indoda efundisiwe enomsebenzi omuhle kanye ne-akhawunti yasebhange emangalisayo. Ngalokhu kuziphatha, uphoqa inombolo enkulu yamalungu obulili obunamandla, ngisho noma ungazi ukuthi ingaba lihlombe elifanayo ongayethemba ngenkathi enzima. Ngakho-ke, ukuze ulungise lokhu, kubalulekile ukubuyekezwa izinqubo zokukhetha nokunciphisa izidingo zayo. Ngenxa yokuhluleka okuqhubekayo, lona wesifazane uqala ukusebenza ngisho nakakhulu futhi akukho cishe isikhathi esisele ekufuneni ingxenye yesibili yesikhathi.
Izinketho ezikhona zokuthuthukisa ubuhlobo:
- Abamele abaphumelelayo bobulili obunamandla, ikakhulukazi isithembu , futhi balindele ukuthi umuntu onjalo uyokuthanda kuphela. Owesifazane ophumelelayo akayithandi nhlobo, bafuna ukuba yedwa.
- Uma umuntu ehola ngaphansi kwakho, khona-ke kungase kube khona izinsolo ukuthi ukhathazekile kuphela ngemali. Ngesisekelo salokhu kunenqwaba yezinkathazo, kanti ubuhlobo buyeka ukuyeka.
- Enye indlela yokuthuthukisa ubuhlobo uthando. Ukuwa othandweni nowesifazane kusenjalo ngokufanayo nesimo sesigamu sesibili,
kodwa ngenxa yomsebenzi wabo, awukwazi ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ebuhlotsheni futhi ekugcineni bavele bangene lutho.
Isiphetho
Yini okufanele uyenze, indlela yokuxazulula le nkinga? Okuwukuphela kwithuba ukuguqula ngokwakho, udinga ukuhlola zonke izinto eziza kuqala futhi uqonde ukuthi yini oyifunayo empilweni. Uma umgomo wakho ukuba uphumelele futhi uwedwa, bese uqhubeka nomoya ofanayo, kodwa uma ufuna ukuthola umuntu ozoba nawe, kuzomele uguqule wena kanye nezidingo zakho. Ngokunciphisa izimfuno zakho futhi uqaphela ukuthi umsebenzi awubalulekile nhlobo, uzokwazi ukuthola umuntu ozokukwenza ube umuntu ojabule kakhulu emhlabeni.