Abantu abaningi babhekene nalesi simo lapho ikhanda liqonda ukuthi ubuhlobo buvele buvele buvele, kodwa imizwa ayisashiywanga. Kulokhu, kubanda kuzokusiza. Imikhosi elula izokwenza kube lula ukuhlukumeza ubudlelwane futhi uqale impilo entsha. Kubalulekile ukulandela yonke imithetho, ngoba umkhosi ungaba nemiphumela emibi.
Ngizipholisa kanjani?
Njengoba i-lapel ithathwa yedwa, ayikwazi ukubhekwa njengomlingo omnyama. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi umkhosi uheha amabutho amnyama futhi uma ungazivikeli ngaphambili, lokhu kungabangela imiphumela engathandeki. Kudingekile ukuya esontweni, ubeke amakhandlela amathathu kunoma imuphi imifanekiso bese ufunda imithandazo enjalo: "Baba wethu", "Jabulani, Theotokos", "Isibonakaliso Sokholo" kanye nomunye umthandazo ku-saint wakho.
Ukuchitha i-lapel imise enyangeni ephikisayo ngezinsuku ezifanele ubulili bayo, okungokwesifazane ngoLwesithathu, ngoLwesihlanu nangoMgqibelo, nakubantu bonke abanye. Kuvinjelwe ukwenza umkhuhlane ngokwakho, uma uthando lomlingo lusetshenziswe ngaphambili. Kubalulekile ukwenza umkhuba, uma kube nokuhlukana, kepha imizwa ebuhlungu yahlala. Thatha ikhandlela lesonto nezinwele zakho kanye nomuntu owayengumthandi wangaphambili. Ngobusuku bokuqala emva kwenyanga egcwele, faka amakhandlela amabili, uwakhanyise bese ushisa ilangabi ngalinye elangabi. Ngemuva kwemizuzu embalwa, khipha amakhandlela uwayeke kuze kufike ubusuku obulandelayo. Phakathi kwamabili, usakaze amakhandlela ibanga ukusuka komunye nomunye bese ubese uvula futhi. Phinda lezi zenzo izinsuku eziyisikhombisa. Kubalulekile ukuthi ngobusuku bokugcina amakhandlela ashisa ngokuphelele. Ekuseni ukumboza i-wax esele ku-rag bese uyiphonsa kunoma yimuphi umthombo, uthi la mazwi:
"Angifuni uthando oluthe xaxa ngalolu daba
Angifuni ukulala ebusuku.
Manje ngizokhululeka
Ngizobe ngikhululekile phakade
Futhi uma ngifuna-khona-ke ngizokwenza ukuthi ubani othandekayo
Futhi ngizothula inhliziyo yami
Kulokhu iNkosi uNkulunkulu, uJesu Kristu, ingifakazela! Amen! "
Uma umkhuhlane ngokwawo ulungile, khona-ke ngeke kube nemiphumela. Uma kungenjalo, ukuhlupheka kungakhuphuka nokuhlukumeza kanye nenzondo yalowo owayengumdala angavela.
Ukupholisa kusuka kumphikisi
Ukuthanda ukhohlwe omunye wesifazane, ungaqhuba umkhuba olula. Kulokhu kudingeka ube nesithombe, iphakethe lasawoti, amakhandlela amathathu, indwangu yetafula, indwangu kanye nentambo yoboya, bonke abamnyama. Ekamelweni lapho umkhosi uzokwenzeka khona, akufanele kube khona amadivaysi kagesi. Beka itafula nesihlalo phakathi nendawo ekamelweni. Ngehora lesikhombisa ekuseni, ngena ekamelweni bese wenza usawoti uzungeze itafula kanye nesihlalo sesihlalo. Yenza konke ngokushelela. Ngemuva kokungena embuthanweni, akuvunyelwe ukushiya kuze kube sekupheleni komkhosi . Itafula libekwe ngendwangu yetafula, ibeke amakhandlela enxantathu ukuze bobabili bahambe ibanga elifanayo, kanti okwesithathu kusekude futhi kubheke enyakatho. Khanyisa amakhandlela ngendlela yewashi. Esigodini esijulile, faka i-clop clop, phezu kosawoti ongathuli kanye nesithombe sompikiswano ubheke phansi. Bese uthi la mazwi: "Njengoba ngikugcobile, kusuka kumngane wami othandekayo uyeke, ngakho-ke akudingeki ube naye, ungamthandi, ufisa ukungashisi, unike wonke umuzwa kasawoti. Usawoti - solonitsa, ungudadewethu, uthando (igama lomphikisana), thatha, lipholile inhliziyo yakho nomphefumulo wakho. Usawoti wokuzizwa uyothatha, (igama lomphikisana) ukuthula uyazi. "Thela usawoti omncane esithombeni. Thatha isithombe sezintandokazi zakho ezifakwe esitsheni, kodwa ubheke phezulu, uthi la mazwi:
"Mthandi wami, othandekayo, ungabi nawe (igama lomphikisana),
INkosi iyinceku kaNkulunkulu,
Uzwa ukumubuyisela emuva, uthando ngaye ukuba uphole phansi,
Akudingeki ngikhathazeke ngesifiso sokuthola, noma isifiso, noma ukuthambekela, noma inkathazo yenhliziyo kusukela manje kuze kube sekupheleni kwamakhulu eminyaka.
Vumela iqhwa lokuxhumeka kwakho ngokuphenduka kwakhe,
Oh ukunganaki nokubandayo kuzophuka. Yiba njalo. "
Kukhona usawoti omncane phezulu. Bese ugoqa indwangu ukwenza okuthile kubonakale njengemvilophu. Sibophe ngentambo bese uyigumbule ngokuqhubekayo uthi:
"Okuhleliwe, ngeke kuzalwe kabusha, kusukela ezweni lokuphila phakade kuze kube phakade."
Umkhuba uzoba namandla akhethekile uma ungcwaba imvilophu emathuneni.