Ngeshwa, cishe kuwo wonke umndeni kunesimo lapho abazali abanamahloni bezwa ukuthi ingane yabo enhle kakhulu, enesizotha futhi enesizotha ayijwayelene kuphela namazwi angcolile, kodwa futhi iwasebenzisa ngempumelelo. Yiqiniso, emndenini lapho ulimi olungcolile luyisici senkulumo engxoxweni, leli qiniso ngeke lishaqise. Kodwa nasi abazali, okwakukhona ukuthi i-taboo lexicon ingaphansi kokuvinjelwa, kungase kube namahloni. Yini okufanele uyenze, indlela yokunqanda ingane ukuba ufunge ngayo umlingani? Okubaluleke kakhulu - ungesabi futhi uzame ukushisa lokhu kukhishwa kwe-chadushka yakho oyintandokazi "ngensimbi eshisayo". Emzabalazweni wokuhlanzeka kolimi, abazali abakwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kokupholisa nokuqamba, kepha iyiphi indlela yokukhetha incike, okokuqala, ngesikhathi somntwana.
Ulimi olubi - ukuxazulula izinkinga
- Ingane eneminyaka emibili noma emithathu ingakayiqondi incazelo yezingqalekiso ezishoyo, ivele iphinde ibuyele lokho ayekuzwa njengesiprotho. Yingakho indlela engcono kakhulu yokulwa nolimi olubi ngalesi sikhathi ukuwukhathalela ngokuphelele. Ngaphandle kwalokho kufanele ugxile ekuhlukunyezweni, chaza incazelo noma ukwesabise ingane ngesijeziso esibucayi - konke lokhu kuzoholela emthethweni ohlukile, ngoba isithelo esivinjelwe, njengoba wazi, sinomusa. Cishe, ezinsukwini ezimbalwa "igama elibi" ngokwalo liyophela enkulumweni yomntwana.
- Ingane eneminyaka engu-4 kuya kweyisikhombisa iqala ukusebenzisa umatshina njengendlela yokuheha. Uyazi kakade ukuthi lamazwi amabi, akakwazi ukukhulunywa, kodwa uyaqhubeka enza kanjalo. Kule minyaka, sekulukhuni kakade ukuthambisa umntwana ukuba afunge, kepha umthetho oyinhloko wokuphumelela, njengangaphambili, ukuzola komzali. Kungcono ukuqala ngengxoxo eyimfihlo ngenkulumo encane, mcele ukuthi achaze incazelo yamazwi ayisebenzisayo kangaka. Masizame ukwenza ukuthi itholakale kuye: uzokutshela noma ukudweba. Cishe, ingane ngokwayo ayiqondi lokho akushoyo. Ngakho-ke, ungakhohlisa - esikhundleni senkulumo ecashile ngezwi elifanayo futhi elivamile, njengokungathi ulungisa ingane. Uma ukhetho olunjalo lungenakwenzeka, khona-ke kuyadingeka kalula futhi kalula ukuchazela ingane incazelo yeziqalekiso, kugcizelela ukuthi la mazwi ayamcasula futhi angeke athi kanjalo.
- Lapho uneminyaka eyisishiyagalombili noma eyishumi nambili, amagama "omdala" abe ngumntwana umzamo wokujoyina umhlaba omdala, ukhule emehlweni abo, athole inhlonipho evela ontanga. Kule minyaka yobudala, abazali kuzodingeka babe nzima kakhulu, ngoba igunya labo phakathi nalesi sikhathi lincane kakhulu. Kodwa ngisho nangalesi sikhathi ungakwazi ukulwa nolimi olubi: chaza ingane ukuthi iziqalekiso emlonyeni wakhe zibukeka zingenangqondo futhi ziyingane, ukuthi inzalo nenhlonipho kubangelwa kuqala nalabo abakhuluma ngokuhle nangendlela efanele, hhayi lowo olwa. Ungafaka futhi uhlelo lwezinhlawulo: ngoba wonke amazwi afunga ingane kufanele afunde inkondlo, futhi uma kungalaleli - ukulahlekelwa imali yepokhethi, ukuhamba noma imidlalo yekhompyutha. Uma ithebhu iba
ingane isho ukukhipha intukuthelo nokufutheka, okokuqala, abazali kufanele babonise ingane ukuthi bayayiqonda imizwa yakhe, ubuhlungu bayo, kodwa lokhu akumniki ilungelo lokufunga, ngoba kunezinye izindlela zokuveza imizwelo. - Kwabaneminyaka eneminyaka eyishumi nambili noma eyishumi nesishiyagalolunye ubudala, lo mat uyeka ukuxhumana. Umfana usevele eqonda ngokucacile incazelo yegama ngalinye futhi uyisebenzise kuphela uma kunesidingo, ezama ukungawasebenzisi esikoleni nasendlini, uvele udlulele esakeni . Ukumisa intsha kuhlushwa futhi ukuhlakanipha okuncane kuzosiza enkampanini yabangani: abazali kufanele bamtshele (ngokuqondile noma ngokungaqondile) ukuthi, ngokwezazi ze-psychologists, kuphela labo abangathembeki ngokwabo futhi abanenkinga yokuphila ngokocansi abanomlutha ongadingekile wokusebenzisa ulimi oluhlambalazayo.