Ngabe hlobo luni lwezingane manje, kwesokudla,
Akukho ubulungisa kubo,
Sichitha impilo yethu,
Kodwa lokhu akubalulekile kubo ...
I-Yu. Ukungena. Ingoma evela kumama / m "Abakwa-Bremen Abaculi"
Akulula kuba abazali - akekho ozophikisana nalokhu. Ngezinye izikhathi abantwana bethu basabela othandweni lwethu nasekunakekeleni, njengoba kubonakala ngathi, akufaneleki. Ukushaya kwabo, inkani, ukuxabana ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala sengathi asiziqapheli. Kodwa emva kwakho konke, akekho ingane enesizotha, futhi yonke imindeni ihamba ngezikhathi zokuthula ezinokuthula nezinkathi ezinzima, izinkinga. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi "ukujula" okunjalo kuyiphethini evamile yentuthuko.
Ngenkinga yokuqala kwengane, abazali bavame ukuhlangana ngokushesha - lapho ingane iphenduka unyaka ongu-1 ubudala (iminyaka yokucasula kwayo ingahluka kusukela ezinyangeni ezingu-9 kuya ku-1.5). Cishe zonke izingane esikhathini esizayo zibhekana nezinkinga eminyakeni emithathu, iminyaka engu-7 kanti, empeleni, ekukhuleni. Zonke lezi zikhathi ezinzima zihlotshaniswa nokuguqulwa komntwana esiteshini esisha sokuzimela, ukuvuthwa: ngonyaka ongu-1 ingane iqala ukuhamba ngokuzimela, eminyakeni emithathu - iphenduke ibe yi-interlocutor egcwele, njll. Amakhono amasha namathuba kufanele atholakale ngane, ukuba agcine ekhanda lakhe - kungokwemvelo ukuthi kuphela ezimweni ezingavamile lokhu kuhamba kahle futhi kungenabuhlungu.
Izimbangela zezinkinga iminyaka engu-7
Namuhla sizokhuluma ngenkinga yezingane iminyaka engu-7. Njengoba sekushiwo kakade, inkinga yeminyaka engu-7 ebantwaneni, njenganoma yimuphi omunye, inezizathu zayo. Ekuqaleni, lesi simo esibucayi sihambisana nokubunjwa kwengqondo yomntwana. Manje ingane yakho ayiyona indodana kuphela, umzukulu, njll, kodwa futhi umfundi, ofunda naye esikoleni. Inendima yomphakathi ngamalungelo akhe nemithwalo yemfanelo yakhe. Manje kuyodingeka akhe ubuhlobo nabangane bakhe, othisha. Esigodlweni sakhe sizovela, ngaphezu kwabazali, izibalo ezintsha ezigunyazayo (othisha). Uzoqala okokuqala ukuhlolwa kwamakhono akhe (amamaki esikoleni), angakhulumi ngokuvunyelwa kothando lwabazali noma ukungavumi kokuziphatha. Kuzodingeka enze ezinye izinto eziningi ezitholakalayo, kungakhulumi ngokuthola ulwazi olusha ngqo kwizifundo. Esikhundleni somdlalo njengomsebenzi oyinhloko ufika ekufundeni okuqaphelayo. Konke lokhu kuholela ekuguquleni ekuzileni nasekuziqapheliseni, ukuhlaziywa kwamagugu, ukuguqulwa kokuhlelwa kokubalulekile.
Izimpawu zenkinga iminyaka engu-7
Uma ingane yakho iphenduka iminyaka engu-7 noma engu-8 ubudala, futhi mhlawumbe, uneminyaka engama-6, cishe uzothola izimpawu zakhe ezicacile zenkinga yeminyaka engu-7. Inkinga engeyona isifo seminyaka engu-7 ine, kodwa, izimpawu ezithile. Isici esiyinhloko ekuziphatheni kwengane enenkinga yeminyaka engu-7 ukubonakala kokusebenza, ukuziphendulela, ukuphikisana, ukuhlukunyezwa komuntu. Ingane yakho ingaqala ukukhuluma ngamabomu, ngokwesibonelo, i-squeaky, izwi, ukuguqulwa kwesimo, njll. Ukuzikhethela kwezingane kulahlekile: manje ukuvuselela kwangaphandle akubangeli ngokushesha, ukusabela, ngokushesha, njengoba kwenzeka esikoleni sokuqala. Phakathi kwalesi sigameko kanye nokusabela kuyo, isikhathi sokubamba "ama-wedges ku", isakhi sengqondo sivela. Ingane iqala ukuhlukanisa abangaphandle nabangaphakathi, ingaqala 'ukuqapha' umhlaba wayo wangaphakathi,
Indlela yokunqoba le nkinga iminyaka engu-7?
Yini okufanele uyenze lapho ingane yakho inenkinga yeminyaka engu-7? Iseluleko esibaluleke kakhulu kunoma yisiphi isimo ukugcina ukuzithiba. Yebo, kunzima, uma kubonakala sengathi ingane ngehora, njengokungathi izama ukushayela abazali ngokuqondile. Kodwa noma kunjalo umsebenzi oyinhloko wabazali kulezi zinto akufanele "udonsa phansi inhlanzi", ugcine ukulinganisela kokunciphisa nokuqina. Ungazivumelisi izinkomba zomntwana, kodwa, uzibeke endaweni, zama ukungazivumeli ukuphuka, uthukuthele. Khumbula ukuthi ubunzima besikhashana, kanti ukungabi nandaba okwamanje kwengane yakho kuyindlela ephikisanayo nezinguquko eziqhubekayo ebuntwini bakhe, ukuthuthukiswa kwakhe.