Abanye abamele ngokushesha bahlonipha isitayela sabo esiyisisekelo sokugqoka, bekhetha ukuthi yini efanelekile kubo ngesimo noma into elula kakhulu. Kodwa ngokuvamile amantombazane akuthola kunzima ukuthola isitayela sabo ezingutsheni, ikakhulukazi kubantu abasha, ngoba esemncane, uhlale ufuna uhlobo oluthile lokuhlolwa nokushintsha. Kodwa kubalulekile hhayi nje ukuzama, kodwa ukukwenza ngokuhlakanipha. Into eyinhloko ukuthi isitayela ongeyithandi noma siwazwela, kufanele ukuthi sondela kuwe, sikuhlobise. Ngakho wazi kanjani impendulo yombuzo, yisiphi isitayela sezingubo ezifanelana nami? Ake sihlole.
Ungakhetha kanjani isitayela esifanele?
Sinezwi elivame kakhulu "ubuhle kudinga ukudela", kodwa kusadingeka ukucabangela ukuthi kuwufanele yini ngenxa yobuhle ukudela. Emva kwakho konke, ungakwazi ukufeza ukuheha futhi ngaphandle kokudela okukhulu, uma wazi ukuthi kanjani. Ngakho-ke, isimo esiyinhloko sokukhetha isitayela sokugqoka esifanele siyinto elula. Uma uzizwa ukhululekile, uzobe usuvele ubheke okuhle.
Futhi, uzibuza ukuthi ungakhetha kanjani isitayela, cabanga ukuthi uhlala kuphi futhi uthanda ukuthini, ngoba isitayela sakho esembathweni kufanele silingane nendlela yokuphila. Okusho ukuthi, uma uchitha isikhathi esiningi emsebenzini, qiniseka ukuthi kunezinto eziningi ezembathweni lakho esitayela lebhizinisi , ngoba ukugqoka ijaji elifanayo sonke isikhathi akusijabulisi neze. Cabanga ngokuthi uchitha kanjani isikhathi sakho sokuzilibazisa. Uma uthanda ukuhamba epaki noma iholidi elikhuthele, khona-ke uzobe ulingane nentsha yamahhala noma isitayela semidlalo. Futhi uma uthanda ukuya emaphathini ngesikhathi sakho samahhala, isitayela sesigqoko sakho kufanele sibe sesifanele: wesifazane, enhle futhi ekhanyayo.
Okokugcina, kufanele ngitshele ukuthi kungukuthi ukuphendula umbuzo ukuthi yisiphi isitayela esingangifanele. Phela, isitayela sakho sikuveza, izwe lakho elingaphakathi. Ngakho-ke, uma ungabaza futhi ungayazi ukuthi yisiphi isitayela sezingubo ozikhuthele kakhulu, khona-ke hamba ukuyothenga, zama izinto ezehlukene, uphenduke phambi kwegumbi lokugqoka futhi unake ukuthi yiziphi izingubo ozithandayo kakhulu.
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