Ngokusho kochwepheshe, insimu yamandla yabesilisa nabesifazane inomthelela omkhulu, uma nje kungakholelwa ukuthi amadoda anamandla alanga, kanye nabesifazane-inyanga, okufanele idambise futhi ipholile. Kodwa-ke, impilo injalo ukuthi owesifazane uchitha isikhathi esiningi amandla kunokuba athola. Ngakho-ke, esimweni esivamile esingokomzimba nesokwengqondo, ukubuyiswa kwayo kuyadingeka, futhi umuntu kufanele azi ukuthi ukwandisa amandla abesifazane. Kodwa okokuqala kubalulekile ukubeka ukuthi kungani abesifazane belahlekelwa amandla.
Sikulahleka kuphi amandla?
Izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi ukulahlekelwa kwamandla nokunciphisa amandla okuholela amandla okuholela ku:
- imibono ehlale ekhungathekile mayelana nanoma yiziphi izinkinga;
- ayifakwe ekupheleni kwalolu daba;
- ukukhathala okwanele, okuholela ekucindezelekeni , ukucindezeleka, ukufutheka kwentukuthelo, intukuthelo nokuhlukunyezwa;
- izazi zithi zilimaza amafilimu amantombazane okubuka ama-horror movie, ama-militants kanye nemikhaya ye-melodramas, kanye nezinhlelo zolwazi kanye nemibukiso yenkulumo yezombangazwe, ekhuluma ngezici ezimbi zokuphila;
- ithatha inani elikhulu lamandla isifiso sokukhwela isiteji somsebenzi ngazo zonke izindlela;
- ukukhulumisana nomndeni nabangane, abanobuthakathaka bamandla, futhi buthaka amandla abesifazane;
- okuthinteka kakhulu ngokudla okungalungile;
- Impilo enamandla iyanciphisa inani layo elincane.
Funda ukuqinisa amandla abesifazane, ungaxhumana nochwepheshe. Noma kunjalo, uma kungenjalo, noma unquma ukwenza impilo yakho ngaphandle kosizo olungaphandle, qaphela amathiphu azosiza ukubuyisela amandla wesifazane, umsebenzi nenjabulo yokuphila.
Yini eyenza ukwanda kwamandla?
Lo msebenzi udinga ukunakwa nokubekezela. Ukuze uphendule umbuzo wokukhulisa amandla abesifazane, amathiphu kanye nezincomo zabangokwengqondo kanye nodokotela bazosiza:
- Udinga ukuzikhokhela ngokwengeziwe ngokuya emakilasini ekuzivocavoca, ukubhukuda, i-yoga, futhi ungakhohlwa ngezinqubo zokusikwa;
- ukwandisa umbuthano wokuxhumana, thola abangane abasha ngemizwelo emihle, izinto zokuzilibazisa ezivamile kanye nezihloko ezimnandi zokuxoxa;
- Ukuze ube njalo esimweni: ukugijima ekuseni, ukuhamba epaki, isikwele;
- thola isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo ohlakaniphile-owesifazane futhi ngezikhathi ezithile uza kuye ukuze uthole iseluleko noma uthintane naye ku-intanethi;
- ukuhlanza indlu njalo, ukukhipha izinto ezindala, omagazini, amathoyizi athulile, izipho ezingadingekile, ngaleyo ndlela ekhulula indlela yokuhlanza amandla;
- noma kunokwenzeka, sisize abampofu; kanti akuyona umbuzo wokujola kwezimali okudingekayo: phatha umakhelwane omuhle ngamapayipi - futhi ukubonga kwakhe kuzokunikeza inkonzo ebalulekile ekugcwaliseni amandla;
- zithanda wena: funda ukudla kahle, buka impilo yakho nokubukeka kwakho.
Zonke lezi zinyathelo zizosiza ukubuyisela amandla abesifazane futhi zibe nempilo nempilo.