Izingane, yiqiniso, izimbali zokuphila, kodwa kunzima kangakanani ukukhula kwazo! Ngokuvamile ungabona ukuthi umama uzama kanjani ukuchaza okuthile kumntwana, kodwa kubonakala sengathi akayikuzwa futhi uyaqhubeka engacabangi futhi engenangqondo. Yilokho okufanele ukwenze uma ingane ingalaleli abazali nhlobo?
Kungani ingane ingalaleli abazali?
Ucabanga ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze nengane ehlukumezayo, ebeka izinto ezimbi kuye. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ufunge, cabanga ukuthi kungani ingane ingakulaleli, mhlawumbe lokhu kuyiphutha lakho? Phela, ukuziphatha kwengane ukuphendula kwakhe ezweni elikuzungezile, kuhlanganise nawe. Nazi amaphutha avamile kakhulu abazali abawavumelayo emfundweni, okuholela ekubeni ingane encane kakhulu.
- Kungani izingane zingalaleli abazali bazo? Abawazi nje ukuthi ubani ozolalela - umama wenqabela okuthile okumele akwenze, kodwa ubaba uvumela (noma ngokuphambene nalokho).
- Ingane ayifuni ukukulalela, ngoba ufuna okuningi kuye futhi ungabonisi nokuthi kufanele akwenze kanjani. Ingane nje ayikwazi ukuthi yini oyifunayo kuye, futhi usamfungile.
- Uhlale umvimbela konke, ngaphandle kokuchaza ukuthi kungani kungenzeki. Ingane, eqaphela ukuthi ayikwazi ukwenza lutho, ngaphandle kokuthi ukuhlala eduze komama wayo nokubukela i-TV noma iwindi, kuzokuqala ukumelana nayo. Uma nje eqala imibhikisho enjalo, itholakala kumntwana. Ezinye izingane zingakwazi ukuchitha amahora zihlezi endaweni eyodwa, zidwebe i-landscape sheet, futhi zikhona nabantu abangenalutho abangabonakali, okungabonakala, kungaba emaceleni ahlukene efulethini.
- Ucabanga ukuthi uchitha sonke isikhathi sakho samahhala nengane yakho? Ingabe kunjalo? Mhlawumbe ubhekene nokungabikho kokunakekelwa kanye nama-vagaries akhe namasu amancane angcolile azama ukukhombisa ukuthi ulahlekelwa kanjani.
Kuthiwani uma ingane ingalaleli?
Manje sesicacisa ukuthi kungani ingane ingalaleli, kuyacaca ukuthi kufanele ukwenze nokuthi kanjani ukubhekana nengane engalaleli.
- Ungalahli umyalo womunye nomunye. Uma wenqabele okuthile kumntwana, khona-ke umyeni wakho (ugogo nomkhulu, obakazikazi, omalume) akufanele bavumele ingane ukuba yenze. Uma kungenjalo, ingane izoqonda ukuthi ukuvinjelwa komzali kungavinjelwa - kungani ulalela umama wakho uma ubaba evumela konke?
- Uma udinga ukulalela kusuka kwengane, funda futhi uqinise izwi lakho. Zama ukugcwalisa izithembiso zakho, futhi uma utshele ingane ukuthi awukwazi ukuxazulula into kuye, bese uzingelela wena. Ingane ngeke ikwazi ukukuhlonipha, futhi ngenxa yalokho, ngeke ilalele, uma wena ngokwakho ungazihloniphi wena nezinqumo zakho.
- Ungalokothi ulahlekelwe intukuthelo yakho, ungamemeza ingane. Okokuqala, ngeke uzuze noma yini ngokumemeza, kuphela ozoyethusa ingane bese ikulethela izinyembezi. Futhi, okwesibili, uma i-vagaries yengane ingumzamo wokwenza ukunaka kwakho, ngakho-ke ngokuphendula kwakho uqinisekisa nje ukuqagela kwakhe - uma umama engilalela, kuphela uma nginamahloni, khona-ke ngidinga ukwenza lokhu kaningi.
- Awudingi ukulawula zonke izinyathelo zengane (ungahambi lapho, ungenzi, kodwa udinga ukudlala nomshini ngakho, kodwa kungenjalo). Yebo, imidlalo ehlangene nabazali iyadingeka enganeni, kodwa masizimele. Qala ukudlala nosana, bese umnika inkululeko.
- Funda ukulalela ingane, hhayi konke okushiwo izingane ezingenangqondo nemicabango. Ingane yakho ingumuntu, ngisho noma encane kakhulu, ngakho kufanele futhi uyihloniphe. Futhi abazali, ikakhulukazi uma lo ngumntwana wokuqala emndenini, bevame ukungazinaki lo mzuzwana, benqabe ingane yonke into engenzeka, bengachazi lutho kuye, bathi, bancane okwamanje, abaqondi lutho. Mhlawumbe akakaze akhulume ngamazwi efilosofi, kodwa izinto zokuqala zingaqondakala futhi uma umama engamvumeli ukudlala, ukudweba, ukubeka lezo zinto azithandayo, khona-ke ingane izoqonda ukuthi ayithandi futhi izobe ingenangqondo nakakhulu. Futhi mhlawumbe uzoqala ukukulalela, kodwa uzokhulela i-morose, esikhathini esizayo uzoba nezinkinga zokuxhumana, futhi uyomangala "ukuthi ufika kanjani ezinkimbinkimbi eziningi kangaka?". Futhi konke kusukela ngesikhathi lapho enquma khona isikhathi eside ukuthi akekho omthandayo futhi akekho olindele okuhle kuye. Yiqiniso, kuyo yonke ingane ayinakukwazi ukuzibandakanya, kodwa ukukhawulela kakhulu, akuyona iqiniso.