Ingane iyazamazama ikhanda

Omama abaningi abaqaphele baqala ukwesaba, ukuqaphela izingane zabo ukuziphatha okungavamile ngaphambi kwabo. Esinye sezizathu zokukhungatheka kwabazali ukuthi ingane encane igubha ikhanda. Ngifuna ukuqinisekisa ngokushesha umama nobaba: lokhu kuziphatha kubonakala kunabantwana abancane kuze kube ngu-3 ubudala. Lo mphumela ovamile uqala phakathi kwabantwana abancane abaneminyaka eyizinyanga ezingu-5-7 futhi bangahlala ezinyangeni eziningana neminyaka.

Kungani ingane igubha ikhanda?

Ochwepheshe, njengoba umthetho, shayela izizathu eziningana:

• Ngakho-ke, umntwana, uzama ukunciphisa, ukunyakaza okuphindaphindiwe kwesigqi kunomthelela ekuphumuleni kwakhe, ngokuvamile lokhu kwenzeka ngaphambi kokulala noma emva kwe-flash of anger;
• lowo omncane uphenduka futhi unyakaze ikhanda lakhe ukuze aziphazamise ezinkundleni ezingathandeki, ezifana nobuhlungu bezinyosi noma indlebe;
• ingane izama ukuheha abazali;
• Ezimweni ezingavamile kakhulu, lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sesifo sokuthuthukiswa, isibonelo, i-autism.

Ungamsiza kanjani umntwana?

Okokuqala, abazali kufanele bathole ukuthi kungani ingane idonsa ikhanda lakhe, bese-ke, ngemva kokuqeda isizathu, cabanga ngendlela ongakugwema ngayo ukuphindaphinda lokhu kuziphatha emntwaneni. Uma ingane iqhuma ikhanda lakhe ephusheni noma lapho ilele, ingasisiza ngokubeka umkhosi othile wokuhlwa: ukugeza okuphumuzayo, ukufunda inganekwane noma ukulalela umculo othulile. Futhi, ngenkathi ulele, ungayishaya unyawo noma unqamule, uzosindisa futhi ngenkathi ugoqa ikhanda lakho ephusheni.

Ingane kaningi ikhinyisa ikhanda ngenxa yokuntula ukunakwa kwabazali, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuthi unelungelo. Gwema zonke izinto zakho ezibalulekile futhi udlale nomntwana, zimbambe njalo futhi usho ukuthi uyayithanda kanjani. Uma lokhu kungakusizi, zama ukugxila ekuziphatheni kwengane futhi ungammangazi, mhlawumbe uyabuhlungu nje. Esimweni esinjalo, vimbela ingane ekulimazeni, uqiniseke ukuthi kuye akungekho izinto angayenza ukulimala. Labo abazali abanomntwana oshayina ikhanda ngaphambi kokulala bazokwazisa ukuthi uhlolisise ngezikhathi ezithile isikhala somntwana sokuba khona kwezikhwama noma izikhwama ezihamba phambili, kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi awugubungi ingane ngemisamo nezingubo zokulala, lokhu kungabangela ukwesatshiswa komzimba, ama-bumpers amancane amancane afakwe ezinhlangothini cribs.

Uma ingane yakho iqhuma ikhanda layo ngokungenandaba, ayifuni emizamweni yakho yokumphazamisa kulo msebenzi, engafuni ukuxhumana, ayigxile ukubukeka, khona-ke lokhu kungaba yisizathu sokubiza udokotela, ukuze akhiphe ukuthi kungenzeka ukwephulwa ekuthuthukisweni kwakhe. Amacala anjalo angavamile kakhulu, ngakho ungakhathazeki kusengaphambili, kodwa ubonise ukunakekelwa nokukhathazeka okwengeziwe ezinganeni.