Amaphupho abathandi bokuqala ajwayelekile. Kwezinye izimo, izindaba ezinjalo zibonisa kuphela izinto ezenzekayo mayelana nomthandi wangaphambili. Uma, emva kokuhlukanisa, sekudlule isikhathi esiningi futhi umphuphi usebuhlotsheni obusha, khona-ke ubuthongo bufanele ukuchaza. Kulokhu kubalulekile ukucabangela ezinye imininingwane zesakhiwo.
Kungani uthanda ukulala nobulili?
Kwezinye izimo, ukusondelana nomuntu owayengumthandi ephusheni kungase kuvele uma kunezinkinga ekusebenzelaneni nomthandi wamanje. Iphupho elinjalo lingaba yizinhlelo ezingalindelekile zekusasa. Uma ukuhlukana kwenzeka ngesenzo somphuphi, ubulili nomuntu owayengumfana ephupheni kungabonisa ukungabaza okukhona mayelana nokufaneleka kwesinqumo. Umbono ebusuku obusondelene nomuntu owayengumthandi wangaphambili ungasho ukuthi esikhathini esizayo maduzane uzokhokha izenzo ezenziwe ngaphambilini. Kwezinye izimo, isakhiwo sokulala esinjalo sibonakaliso sokuba khona kokungabaza. Mhlawumbe lo mphupho uzicabangela ukuthi akafanelekanga into engcono futhi engaphezu kwendodana yangaphambili.
Ngezinye izikhathi iphupho ngokuya ocansini nomuntu wangaphambili liyisixwayiso sokuthi empilweni yangempela kukhona usongo lokuphikisana nesoka lesimanje. Isimo singaba sína kakhulu, ekugcineni siholela ekuhlukaneni. Uma iphupho elinjalo liphupha owesifazane ngaphambi komshado, mhlawumbe, mhlawumbe, uyangabaza ngokufaneleka kwesinqumo. Ukuya ocansini nomyeni wangaphambili ephupheni kungabonisa ukuthi kukhona ukunganeliseki nokuzifihla izifiso zocansi. Esinye isakhiwo esinjalo singasho ukuthi maduzane kuyodingeka ukhokhele ukuzinikela
Abacwaningi banamuhla bakholelwa ukuthi uma kufanele ulale ocansini ephusheni nomuntu owayengumthandi, khona-ke, eqinisweni, kukhona isifiso esingenakwenzeka sokuba nalo muntu ebuhlotsheni. Uma imizwa mayelana ne-intima ne-ex-isoka yayimnandi, khona-ke umphuphi empeleni ulungele ubuhlobo obusha. Ukulala, lapho ubulili bubangele imizwa engathandeki, ixwayisa ngezinkinga, futhi maduzane kuzodingeka ukhethe ukukhetha. Ukuzizwa ubuhlungu ngesikhathi sokulala ngokobulili nomuntu owayengumthandi kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi ngandlela-thile angathonya impilo yesikhathi esizayo futhi, okokuqala, emsebenzini.