Umlobi we-theory of psychoanalysis, uSigmund Freud, wakhathalela kakhulu amaphupho. Uma ukholelwa inkolelo yakhe, amaphupho angasitshela okuningi ngabo, futhi ukuhumusha kwabo okuqondile kuzosiza ukubhekana nezinkinga. Amaphupho asemayelana nomuntu kanye nokuqonda kwakhe.
Ingqondo engazi lutho (noma engaziqondi) ine-IQ engaba ngu-10 000:
- uyazi konke owaziyo;
- uyazi ukuthi awukwazi nalokho owaziyo.
Ukungazi kahle ngephupho kunomtshela umuntu ulwazi olwenzayo esikhathini samanje sokuphila kwakhe. Amaphupho mayelana nabantwana nokukhulelwa, njengombuso, akhombisa:
- ukuthuthukiswa kwemicimbi;
- ukuvela kwemicabango namasu amasha;
- noma isimo esithakazelisayo empeleni.
Ukuthi ukukhulelwa kwakho kubonakala kanjani?
Amaphupho okukhulelwa - hhayi into engavamile nje kuphela kwabesifazane, baphupha ngamadoda. Kumele kuqashelwe ngokushesha ukuthi empilweni yomuntu ngamunye kufika isigaba (ikakhulukazi kwabesifazane, nakuba kunjalo) lapho ecabanga ngokuba ngumzali, futhi lokhu kuthinta okuqukethwe kwamaphupho akhe. Ngesikhathi abangane beshada futhi beba nabantwana, abantu baqala ukuguqula impilo yabo yezenhlalakahle neyabo siqu kulezi zingokoqobo. Noma yikuphi ukukhulelwa kwencwadi yokuphupha phakathi nalesi sikhathi kubheka kokubili isifiso nesifiso sokuba nomndeni wakubo.
Uma owesifazane ekhulelwe, futhi empeleni usesimweni, khona-ke iphupho libonisa ukukhathazeka kwakhe. Njengomthetho, ku-trimester yokuqala ngamaphupho ngokukhulelwa kubonakala:
- izidalwa ezincane;
- izilwane ezingenalutho;
- izimbali;
- isithelo;
- amanzi.
I-trimester yesibili igcwele ukwesaba ngokungabi ngumama omuhle kanye nethuba lokucindezeleka nengane nokubonakala kwakhe. Ekubelethweni kwezintathu zokubeletha kanye nokuqothulwa kobuhlungu kuqale kwenzeka ukuthi into enhle ingenzeka kumntanakho. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, izidalwa ezinkulu zivame ukuvela emaphupheni owesifazane okhulelwe:
- imikhomo;
- izindlovu;
- ama-dinosaurs.
Ibhuku lephupho lokukhulelwa ephusheni kanye "nomakhelwane nama-giant" kubonisa njengendlela yokumisa umzimba - izinguquko emzimbeni, ukukhula kwengane ngaphakathi kwabesifazane. Kodwa uma ungesimweni, futhi abangani futhi abanalo umndeni, ukukhulelwa kusho ngoku:
- Ukufeza. Ukukhulelwa kufanekisela izinhlelo kanye nethemba elivuthiwe kumuntu futhi ekugcineni liphumelele.
- Ukuthuthukiswa noma ukuqedwa. Ukukhulelwa ephusheni kuvame ukukhombisa isikhathi eside sokulinda esidingekayo empilweni, kanti manje isigaba sokukhonjwa siphelile. Ukukhulelwa kusho ukwakheka nokuthuthukiswa kwekhono elisha lomuntu ngamunye.
Ukukhulelwa kwamabili kubonakala kanjani?
Ukulala mayelana nokukhulelwa kwamawele kungasho ukuthi yizinto eziphambene nazo, kubalulekile ukuthembela ekuhlangenwe nakho kwakho siqu:
- Ukubeletha amawele noma amawele ephusheni kusho umqondo wokuthula empeleni, ukulinganisela komphefumulo nokugcwala kokuphila.
- Ukulindela amawele kufanekisela ukulandelwa kwesigameko noma ukungqubuzana. Uma usebenzela iphrojekthi, ke kungenzeka ukuthi usuke ubheke phambili emibonweni ephikisanayo ngomphumela wayo. Mhlawumbe othile empilweni yakho ukholelwa ukuthi ungcono kunakho, futhi ukhathazekile kakhulu ngalokhu.
Ukukhulelwa kwentombi kubonakala kanjani?
Ukuhumusha iphupho lokukhulelwa ephusheni lentombazane engakaze ibe khona ekuthandaneni ngokusondelana ngezindlela ezahlukene:
- Ukukhulelwa ephusheni njengophawu lwento entsha - imibono emihle kanye nezinhlelo zokudala, kuhlanganise nentombi.
- Isibikezelo sokulahlwa okuthile nokuthukuthela kwangaphakathi.
- Isifiso sokuthola okungenakwenzeka (kubhekisela eqinisweni lokuthi ukukhulelwa ngaphandle kwesenzo sokukhulelwa akuyona into engokoqobo).
- Ukuya esikhathini (ukuhlupheka ebusuku emathunjini ngaphambi kwenyanga kungabangela amaphupho okukhulelwa kunoma yimuphi ummeli wesigwebo esithandanayo).
- Uthando, ukulindela ukusondelana nabathandekayo kanye nokwesaba kwangaphakathi "kwezindiza".
Ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa kubonakala kanjani?
Uma unesimo sokukhulelwa, kusho ukuthi maduzane isigaba esisha sizoqala empilweni - ebuhlotsheni noma emsebenzini. Lezi zinguquko zizohlola ikhono lakho lokuzivumelanisa nokusebenza esimweni esisha. Kungaphinda kubonise ukwesaba kanye nokukhathazeka kwangempela ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona isimo esithakazelisayo.
Kungani uthanda ukufunda ngokukhulelwa?
Ukuze ufunde ngokukhulelwa ephusheni kusho:
- Ezinye izici zokuphila komuntu siqu zikhula, kodwa awungakakulungeli ukucabangela lokhu.
- Ukwesaba izibopho ezintsha, ezihlelwe esikhathini esizayo esiseduze.
Kungani ukuphuma kwegazi kwenzeka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa?
Njengomthetho, ukulahlekelwa igazi ephusheni kusho ukukhulelwa ngokomzwelo nokuhlupheka. Amaphupho anjalo angasetshenziswa uma izinto zingalungile ebuhlotsheni nabangane, izihlobo ngisho nozakwabo - uma lezi zinkinga zokuxhumana zikhubaza. Abesifazane bangaphupha ngokuphuma kwegazi:
- ngaphambi noma ngemuva kokuya esikhathini;
- ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.
Esimweni sesibili, ubulili obuhle bukhathazeka kakhulu ngalokho amaphupho egazi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, ngoba imicabango ngokwemvelo iqondiswa embi - mayelana nokukhulelwa kwesisu okungenzeka. Kodwa-ke, iphupho lokugaya ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa akusiyo njalo imbangela yokukhathazeka. Ifanekisela:
- ukwesaba ukukhulelwa kwesisu komama wesifazane;
- ukukhathala ngokomzwelo kusuka enkingeni ekusebenzelaneni nomuntu;
- izifo.
Ukukhulelwa okubandayo kubonakala kanjani?
Uma ukukhulelwa kungumntwana ofile, lokhu kungasho ukukhathazeka ngezinto ezingahambi kahle, njengoba kulindeleke. Ukukhulelwa okufriziwe ephusheni kufanekisela ukuthi omunye umsebenzi onzima owenziwe uzolahla ukuhluleka nokukhathazeka ngakho. Uma kwenzeka iphupho elifanayo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa - lokhu kuyinto evamile, phakathi ne-trimester yesibili, ngokuvamile ukukhubazeka nokukhulelwa okubandayo.
Kuthiwani ukukhulelwa nokubeletha?
Uma uphupha ukuthi ukhulelwe futhi ukuzalwa kuseduze, noma inqubo yokuzalwa iphupha, khona-ke leli phupho lithatha ukuthi umuntu uthuthukisa umbono omusha, iphrojekthi ezobona ukukhanya. Iphupho lapho wena noma othile obeletha khona kungasho ukuthi:
- isimo sengqondo esisha kunoma yini;
- imibono emisha, ukuqala;
- ukuboniswa komcimbi omkhulu futhi obalulekile.
Ngisho namaphupho alolu hlelo uheha ingane yangaphakathi yomuntu, njengokungathi ikhuluma ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ikhule futhi iqhubeke phambili. Amaphupho okubeletha kusenesikhathi asho:
- ukulungele imizamo emisha;
- futhi ukukhathazeka ngebhizinisi elingapheli.
Amaphupho mayelana nokuzalwa komuntu ongeyena umuntu athi:
- Ukwesaba okungenangqondo kwempilo yengane engakazalwa;
- mayelana nokukhathazeka ukuthi angase abe nezinkinga zokuzalwa.
Lolu hlobo lokulala luvame kakhulu kwabesifazane abakhulelwe ku-trimester yesibili. Uma kungekho ukukhulelwa kwangempela, iphupho elinjalo libonisa ukwesaba kokwenza isinqumo noma ukwesaba imiphumela yalokho okwenzile kakade. Esikhathini sokuzama ukunqoba ubunzima empilweni nokufeza intuthuko yomuntu siqu, amaphupho anjalo angaphupha. Isibonelo, uma ukuzalwa kwe-monster kuphupha, kusho ukuthi amandla angaphakathi okudala kufanele akhule futhi akhule. Kodwa kukhona ukungabaza ngokukhulula le "monster" ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi abanye bayakwahlulela futhi ngeke bamukele imibono yakho.
Ukukhulelwa komama kubonakala kanjani?
Lapho ukukhulelwa komunye umuntu kuphupha, lokhu kubonisa ukuxhumana okukude nalo. Uma owesifazane okhulelwe ephupha, kusho izinto ezintsha kanye nezinguquko empilweni. Ukukhulelwa komama wakho ephusheni kusho ukuthi:
- izimo ezihle zokufeza uhlelo;
- ukubonakala kwabathengi endleleni yokufinyelela umgomo;
- ukuthembela ekusizeni othandekayo esimweni esinzima.
Ukukhulelwa kukadade kubonakala kanjani?
Ukukhulelwa ephusheni kuvamise ukufanekisela ibhizinisi elingapheli - into esondela ekupheleni. Uma umuntu ephupha ukuthi udade ukhulelwe, lokhu akusho ukuthi uhlobene ngokuqondile nencazelo yokulala. Udade ephusheni ubonisa ezinye izici zobuntu bomuntu ophuphayo. Uma uhlanganisa zonke lezi zinto ndawonye, iphupho elinjalo liwuphawu lwebhizinisi elingapheli emkhakheni othile wokuphila komphuphi. Ungakwazi ukucacisa ububanzi ngokuqonda ukuthi yini enye efana nodadewethu, ngaphezu kwezibopho zomndeni.
Enye incwadi yephupho ithi ukukhulelwa kukadade ephusheni kungasho ukuthi:
- ukuthengwa kwempahla;
- ulwazi olusha;
- ukuhlonipha abanye.
Ukukhulelwa kwentombazane kubonakala kanjani?
Iphupho mayelana nokukhulelwa kwentombazane kuyisimangaliso esihle:
- uma umama ebone indodakazi yakhe ekhulelwe ephusheni, kusho ukuthi uzohlangana nomuntu ozolile futhi onothando kakhulu;
- Uma ubaba enendodakazi esimweni, khona-ke lokhu kuyathembisa inhlalakahle yakhe empilweni yangempela.
Ngakho izincwadi zephupho ziphendula lo mbuzo, ukuthini ukukhulelwa kwiphupho lendodakazi kusho ukuthini kubazali bakhe. Uma ephupha ukuthi indodakazi yakhe ibeletha, mhlawumbe empilweni yakhe maduzane kuzoba nezinguquko eziphawulekayo:
- uma intombazane izalwa, izinguquko ezimnandi empilweni yakhe;
- uma umfana ezalwa, bahlanganyele ebhizinisini elibalulekile futhi elinenzuzo.
Kungani intombazane ekhulelwe iphupha?
Umbuzo wokuthi ukukhulelwa komngani noma ex ukuphuphayo, kufisa amadoda amaningi, kepha akusizi ngalutho ngamaphupho anjalo namantombazane abone owesifazane okhulelwe elele ebuthongweni. Uma umuntu ephupha ngokukhulelwa kwakhe, khona-ke iphupho lisho isifiso esingenasici sokubuyisela ubuhlobo. Uma elindele ingane kusuka kwenye, kusho ukuthi lo wesilisa uzilahlile futhi wamukela ukuhlukana kobudlelwane.
Uma intombazane iphupha ngowesifazane okhulelwe onomngane wakhe, kutuswa ukuba ucabange ngezici ezintathu zobuntu bakhe - ungayichaza kanjani le ntombi ngamagama amathathu? Ingqondo engazi lutho isebenzisa lezi zici ukukhombisa ukuthi le ngxenye yakho ilungiselela into entsha. Isibonelo, umngane ovela ephusheni ukhululekile, uvulekile futhi unomoya wokungenisa izihambi. Lezi yizingxenye zobuntu ezikhula futhi zilungiselela ukuvusa, zizibonakalise ebhizinisini elisha.