Abesifazane abaningi ebuhlotsheni ngezikhathi ezithile ukucabanga ukuthi umyeni uthembekile yini noma usathola injabulo ohlangothini. Ngifuna nje ukusho ukuthi akufanele uziphakamise ngokuqamba amathekisthi angekho, ngoba lokhu kuzokwenza kube nzima kakhulu inkinga. Kunezindlela eziningana ukuthi ungafunda kanjani ngokungathembeki komyeni wakhe ngasese, ukuze kuthi uma kwenzeka ukusola okungenalutho kungabhubhisi ubudlelwano nabathandekayo. Izazi zengqondo zincoma ukuthi ungazitholi konke lokhu zibe mania, ngoba ngeke kuholele kunoma yini enhle.
Ungafunda kanjani ngokuhlubuka?
Ngisho noma umuntu enethalente lomdlali, uma kwenzeka ubuhlobo ohlangothini, ukuziphatha kuyashintsha futhi akunakwenzeka ukungaqapheli. Kubalulekile ukuthi ungalimazi umkhuhlane futhi uqonde isimo, kungenzeka ukuthi izinguquko zokuziphatha zihlobene nezinye izinkinga.
Amathiphu wokuthi ungabona kanjani ukuhlubuka:
- Uma lowo oshade naye engenakudlula ukulalela isici esithandana naye, futhi isibalo sobusuku obuthandekayo sehlile kakhulu, khona-ke, mhlawumbe, uhlangabezana nezidingo zakhe nomunye owesifazane. Kwezinye izimo, ukungahambisani okunjalo kungaba umphumela wezinkinga zempilo.
- Uma ucabanga ukuthi ungafunda kanjani ngokuhlukunyezwa, kufanelekile ukukhuluma ngesinye isizathu, okubonisa ukungathembeki - umyeni uvame ukuba engekho ekhaya, ngenkathi esungula izizathu ezingavamile. Amadoda amaningi ahlangana nabanye besifazane ohlelweni oluthile, okungukuthi, ngesikhathi esifanayo.
- Uphawu lokuyimfihlo komlingani wakho. Isibonelo, uma ngokuzumayo othandekayo eqala ukufihla ifoni, acime kakhulu amanethiwekhi abo omphakathi futhi ahlale eguqula amaphutha, ngakho-ke, cishe unento yokufihla.
- Esinye isici, ukuthi ungabheka kanjani ukuhlubuka - bheka ukubukeka komuntu othandekayo. Ezimweni eziningi, amadoda ahamba ohlangothini, aqale ukukulandela kangcono. Isibonelo, isikhathi eside ukukhetha lokho okufanele ugqoke, ungalokothi ukhethe umququphu noma ongafanele umbala. Uma umyeni
Angizange ngikwenze ngaphambilini, kusho ukuthi kukhona okushintshile futhi kubalulekile ukuyiqonda. - Emadodeni ashintsha, kunezinguquko ezinhlokweni. Oshade naye uhlale ecabanga ngento ethize, engene ngaphakathi kwakhe, futhi uma ebuza okuthile, uqala ukuthukuthela nokucasula, lokhu kungabonisa ukungathembeki.
- Kumele futhi kuthiwe ngezibonakaliso ezicacile ezibonisa ukuhlubuka - izicathulo zomlomo, izinwele zezinsikazi, iphunga lamafutha nezinye izinto.
Ekusola kwakhe kanye nokuhlolwa okuphenywayo, into esemqoka akumele ingaphezu kwalokho, ngoba uma othandekayo engashintshi, ukungazethembi okunjalo kungaholela ekuhlakalweni okubucayi ngisho nokuhlukanisa.