Uma ukuphila nomngane wakho womshado, lapho ungakabi khona isikhathi eside, awuzange ujabule, kanti kanye nomqondo wokuba uphansi kophahla olulodwa naye kuyinto enengekayo - yisikhathi sokuba owesifazane ashiye umyeni wakhe. Akudingekile ukuba uhlanganyele ekutholeni ukufuna ukuthola isizathu esiyiqiniso sokuvela kwesifiso esinjalo, ngoba imizwa yokucima, cishe kungenzeka, ayivuselelanga. Kungcono ucabange ukuthi kuhle kangakanani ukuphuma kumyeni wakhe.
Ngokwezibalo, kwabaningi besifazane, isikhathi esivela emvelaphi yemicabango esihlokweni esithi "kanjani ukuhamba nomyeni wakhe?" Ngaphambi kokuba usebenze empilweni yangempela kuthatha inyanga kuya ngonyaka. Ungazami ukunyamalala empilweni yakhe ngobunye ubusuku - lesi sinqumo esingenangqondo singabangela izinkinga ezinkulu esikhathini esizayo. Ngisho noma ucabanga ukuthi akukho lutho olungabuyiselwa emuva, ngaphambi kokugcina unquma ukuthi ushiye umyeni wakho, cabanga futhi ngesidingo sangempela sekhefu. Khuluma nomlingani odelelekile ngezinkinga eziqoqiwe. Kodwa, uma umuntu engafuni ukwenza noma yini ukuze abuyisele isifiso sangaphambili, uphakamisa isandla sakhe noma awuhloniphi, akufanele umgcine.
Indlela yokuthola amandla okubalekela kumyeni wakhe?
Ngokuvamile, abesifazane basalokhu bashadile "bengabi nabubele" noma ngaphansi kwethonya lesikhungo sabo sokubeletha esibelethweni. Akufanele uzwe ukushaywa, ukuhlazeka kanye nokunganaki okuvamile, ngoba, njengoba ucabanga, umyeni wangaphambili akakwazi ukuhlala yedwa. Akudingeki usebenzise impilo yakho ngokuhlinzeka ngokuphila komuntu owangaphambili. Isikhathi senziwa njalo njalo ngonyaka ngomshado nomyeni ongathandeki kungaba ngumnyaka wenjabulo yangempela nomlingani ofanelekayo.
Uma uhlushwa imibuzo mayelana nokuthi ungabalekela kanjani kumyeni wakho, qala ngokuhlelwa kahle kwezempilo yakho. Ingabe ungumama wendlu futhi uncike ngokuphelele kumlingani wakho? Ngaphambi kwesahlukaniso, zama ukuthola umsebenzi ngemali eyothola imali, okuzokuvumela ukuthi uvikele ukuphila okunethezeka. Yenza ikhadi lesikweletu, lingangena ngezikhathi ezinzima kakhulu. Funda ukuhlela izindleko - akudingekile ukuba uchithe ezinyangeni zokuqala emva kokuhlukanisa wonke umholo wezimpawu zezimpawu noma izingubo. Mhlawumbe kuzodingeka uqashe indlu, ngakho ngokuthenga isikhwama sakho ozithandayo, "D & G" kuzodingeka ulinde.
Ungasuka kanjani kumyeni wakhe, uma sekukhona noma uzobe ingane?
Lapho kukhona izingane ezincane, izinqubo zesehlukaniso zenziwa ezinkantolo. Kungcono ukuxazulula inkinga ye-alimony kusengaphambili - yenza isivumelwano esisodwa ngokusebenzisa izinsizakalo zommeli ochwepheshe. Uma "isigamu sesibili" sizokwesaba esiphethweni sakhe, sihlanganise necala lokufuna ukubuyiswa kwe-alimony.
Ngisho noma owesifazane eshiye ukukhulelwa komyeni wakhe, uzokhathazeka isikhathi eside ngemizwa engokomzwelo mayelana nokufaneleka kwalokhu kukhetha. "Ungasuka kanjani kumyeni, uma kukhona ingane?" - Lo mbuzo uvame ukucelwa hhayi kuphela ngabameli, kodwa futhi nabangokwengqondo. Yebo, ithemba lokuba umama ongashadile luzosabisa noma yimuphi intombazane. Ungesabi, kumlingani wangaphambili ukukhanya akuzange kuhlangane nomgqa. Funa usizo oluvela emndenini nabangani. Lapho ingane ikhula, ungayithathi ekhanda lakhe ukuhlambalaza uyise, imhloniphe ngenhlonipho, noma, okungenani, ngokuzivimbela. Unganaki ukulahlwa kukagogo emnyango,
Ungaphunyuka kanjani kumyeni womashiqela noma utshwala?
Uyabulala, ubeka ukuphila kwakho engozini, kodwa awukwazi ukuthi unquma kanjani ukushiya umyeni onjalo? Ngemuva kokunye ukuphikisana, vakashela i-Bureau of Forensic Medical Examination bese ucela ukubhala iqiniso lokushaya. Uma usumtshela ngesifiso sakho sokuhlukanisa, cishe uzokuzama ukusongela ngobudlova. Yisho ukuthi ubhala isitatimende emaphoyiseni bese unamathisela isiphetho sesazi kuye - ukuvelela kwalowo muntu kuzosheshe kwehlise.
Kodwa uma umyeni wakho evame ukuhlanganiswa nengilazi, akufanele ube nokungabaza nokucabanga ngendlela ongayithola ngayo kumyeni wesidakwa. Njalo kunjalo lapho kufanele wenze ngokushesha. Qoqa izinto, uvimbele ama-akhawunti ajwayelekile kanye nezindleko zokuthutha kanye nempahla yomuntu siqu kanye nokuhamba phambili - kubazali, buddies, ekugcineni, ehhotela. Umuntu obhekene nokulutha utshwala noma izidakamizwa akunakwenzeka ngokuphelele.