Ngaphambili, wawuziqhenya ngesimo sakho somshado, futhi manje epasipoti yakho kuyoba khona uphawu mayelana nesahlukaniso? Lesi akusona isizathu sokungena ekucindezelekeni! Ngemuva kwehlukaniso, ukuphila kuqale nje. Kodwa, ngeshwa, akubona wonke umuntu oqaphela leli qiniso. Owesifazane, isehlukaniso kumyeni wakhe kuyisiyaluyalu lapho ithemba, amaphupho, ikusasa kanye nokholo enkantolo kubonakala. Kodwa-ke, kukhona nethuba lokulungisa isimo sakho sengqondo empilweni, noma kunalokho-ukubheka ngenye indlela. Yilokhu esizozama ukukwenza.
Ukuphila ngemva kokuhlukaniswa nomyeni wakhe
Ngombuzo othi: "Ungasinda kanjani isahlukaniso sowesifazane?" Izazi zengqondo zanamuhla zihlangana cishe nsuku zonke. Inkimbinkimbi yonke ihlezi kuphela kumuntu wesifazane. Abamele besilisa ababuthakathaka bavame ukuhlushwa ukuthobeka, ukuhlubuka nokushaya iminyaka eminingi. Kodwa uma iphela ngesahlukaniso sokulondoloza, ukucindezeleka kuqala ngemuva kokuhlukanisa, ukunganaki nokungafuni ukuqhubeka. Lesi simo sidinga ukulungiswa, futhi ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka! Into yokuqala okumele uyikhumbule yilezi zindaba zangempela mayelana nalokho okwenzeka kubantu, ezinyangeni eziyisithupha kuphela emva kokuba owesifazane abuyele emuva ngemva kokuhlukanisa:
- cishe unyaka nonyaka ngemva kokuhlukana kwamadoda kudlula ukucindezeleka, futhi abesifazane ngalesi sikhathi bajabule ngenkululeko yabo, kanti abameleli bobulili obunamandla bazizwa bebuhlungu futhi bengenalutho;
- ngokwezinye izazi ze-psychotherapists, indoda eya kwesinye owesifazane, ngemva kweminyaka engaba ngu-3, iqala ukuzisola ngesenzo sakhe namaphupho okubuyela kumuntu wangaphambili;
- emadolobheni amakhulu, cishe wonke umuntu wesithathu ohlukanisile naye ushade naye, futhi wonke umuntu wesine uyaphupha.
La maqiniso kufanele acabangele lokho. indlela yokusinda ukukhaphela nokuhlukana nomyeni wakhe. Kodwa uhlezi ngezandla eziboshwe, ngemuva kokuhlukaniswa nakho akukhuthazwa. Uma nje imibhalo emva kokuhlukaniswa yamukelwa, le ndawo ihlukaniswe, igama lezinsikazi liphinde lishaye epasipoti, futhi izingane zivikelekile ngokuphepha, yisikhathi sokucabanga ngawe othandekayo.
Ngakho-ke, ake siye phansi ezenzweni ezisebenzayo njengokukhohlwa indoda emva kwesahlukaniso:
- Yiba nesineke esanele futhi uqaphele ukuthi konke kuthatha isikhathi. Ikakhulukazi ukukhohlwa zonke izikhalazo nokuxazulula imizwelo emphefumulweni.
- Hlela ukuhlanza jikelele futhi ulahle konke okungenani okukukhumbuza ngomyeni oshonile. Ngisho noma kungumgogodla wakhe noma isihlalo sakhe. Mhlawumbe isikhathi esithile ngaphandle kwemisebenzi evamile siyozizwa singenalutho, kodwa maduzane kudlule.
- Ungazivali. Abesifazane abaningi bahlukana nomyeni wabo othandekayo ekuziqhenyeni okuziqhenyayo, bepheka ngenxa yabo yokungabi nandaba nokuzizwa. Thola intombi engakwazi ukukhala noma ekuhleleni kakhulu ukulila okungokoqobo kubhulogi. Khumbula ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi izinyembezi zisisiza ukuba zilulame futhi zilulame.
- Uma ungacindezelekile isikhathi eside ngemuva kwesahlukaniso, zama ukuphatha usuku lwakho ngezinto ezahlukene. Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, thola isilwane esihle. Kuqinisekisiwe ukukuphazamisa emicabangweni edabukisayo bese uthatha sonke isikhathi sakho samahhala.
- Qaphela ukuzethemba kwakho. Mhlawumbe, akayena esimweni esihle kakhulu ngemva kokuhlukanisa. Hamba u-stylist onguchwepheshe ozokuthatha ikhabethe entsha nesithombe esisha. Ukubuyekeza kwangaphandle kuzothinta isimo sangaphakathi. Into eyinhloko ngesikhathi esisodwa iphikelela njalo ukuthi wena unhle kunazo zonke futhi ungenakuphikiswa.
- Ziqaphele ukuthi isahlukaniso akusona ukuphela kokuphila, kodwa ekuqaleni
into entsha futhi enhle kunaye ngaphambili. Lesi yisikhathi sokunakekela umsebenzi kanye nezingane, ekugcineni, ukwenza lokho okuphusheni noma lokho indoda yangaphambili engakuvumeli ukuba uyenze. Qonda ukuthi uyinhloko yokuphila kwakho futhi ukhululekile ukwenza cishe konke! Manje akukho okuvinjelwe kuwe!
Futhi ekugcineni, into ebaluleke kakhulu. Uma usulungele ubuhlobo obusha, ungabesabi. Ukushisa kuyashiya izibazi, kodwa hhayi ngokuphila komuntu siqu. Ukukhetha kwakho okusha akufanele okungenani kube into efana neyaphambilini. Vumela lokhu kube umuntu ohluke ngokuphelele. Futhi-ke uzovula ikhasi elisha lencwadi ebizwa ngokuthi "Ukuphila Kwakho", okuyinto ezoba yiyona bestseller.