Uma owesifazane ehlukanisa, kunzima ukuba aqaphele, akholelwe ukuthi angajabula futhi. Izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi abesifazane bacindezeleka ngemva kwalokhu, ngoba lokhu kuyindlela yokuzivikela yomzimba. Yilokho, kanjalo, i-psyche yezinsikazi izivikela ngokwayo ezweni elingaphelele langaphandle. Sizozama ukuqonda ukuthi singajabula kanjani ngemva kokuhlukanisa nokuthi kungenzeka yini ukuthi sithandane futhi.
Indlela yokujabula - iseluleko se-psychologist
Ake sinikeze izibonelo zezincomo ze-psychologist kule ndaba:
- Funda ukuthethelela futhi uvumele ukuhamba. Wena, ngisho noma ungazi, kodwa qhubeka ngaphakathi kwakho ukuhlambalaza okucindezelayo. Qonda ukuthi uma uthethelela bonke labo obahluphekile, uzokwenza ngcono impilo yakho. Ukuthuka kungabhubhisa umzimba wakho. Ososayensi baye bafakazela ukuthi kukhona ukuxhumana okuqondile phakathi kwemizwelo emibi ephindwe ngaphakathi, nomdlavuza. Ukuphila kwakho kuyobe kukhanya uma uvumela ukuhamba kwezikhalo zakho. Kunezindlela eziningi zokusiza ukuqeda izikhalazo. Isibonelo, enkolweni umthandazo, ekuzivocavoca kwaseMpumalanga kungukuzindla, futhi kubantu kuyindlela yokubhala ukuhlambalaza ephepheni, bese uyishisa. Ukhetha ukhetho lokukhipha okubi, kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.
- Vula emhlabeni. Abesifazane abasinda emshadweni, ngesibindi bathi akukho nhlekelele, akukho nhlekelele. Lokhu kungukuqala kwesikhathi esisha empilweni. Into eyinhloko ukunquma izinto eziza kuqala. Qaphela konke okukude okukuphuphile. Hlangana nabantu abasha.
- Kholwa othandweni. Ungaphiki ukuthi isahlukaniso kubesifazane abaningi singathinta kabi, futhi bayeka ukukholelwa othandweni. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi impilo yakho ibonisa imicabango yakho. Kholwa othandweni bese uzophinde uvele empilweni yakho.
Ungaba kanjani umfazi ojabule?
Ngemuva kokuthi uqaphele ukuthi usaphila ngendlela ophupha ngayo isikhathi eside, uzizwa ujabule, cabanga ngamathiphu wokuthi ungajabula kanjani othandweni.
- Ungagxili ngokuphelele ngokugcwele kwakho othandweni. Ngisho noma ushadile futhi, ukuze ungaphindi amaphutha akho, ujabule futhi akuhlobene nokuthandayo. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ungumlutha walolu thando, sebenzisa ukuqeda ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa.
- Ungazami ukushintsha umyeni wakho. Qonda ukuthi wonke umuntu uphelele ngendlela yakhe. Thola izingongolo ngeziphambeko zakhe. Futhi-ke, uma uyeka ukudala ikhanda elengeziwe kumuntu wakho ngezinhlamba zakho, uzofuna ukuba yilokho ofuna ukuthi abe khona.
- Ungabi nomhawu. Umhawu yikubonakaliswa kobunikazi, kodwa ngokuqinisekile akuyona yothando. Uma umsola ngempela into enengqondo, mtshele ngokukhululekile lokho okukushayozayo futhi okukukhathazayo.
Ukujabula emva kwesahlukaniso kulula. Into esemqoka ukuthola amandla okunqoba ibhande elimnyama empilweni yakho. Thatha upende ngesandla futhi udale amacwecwe okuphila okuqhakazile ngokwakho.