Umshado, njengoba uyazi, uhlale umnandi futhi omuhle: ingubo emhlophe yomlobokazi, umkhwenyana othakazelisayo, umgudu we-champagne, ama-toasts abanobungane, udansa lomdanso. Kodwa-ke, inhlangano yomcimbi womshado ezinsukwini zethu "izimpukane" zibe ipeni elihle. Ngakho-ke, umakoti nomkhwenyana ongase abe nakho bavame ukukhetha: ukuhlela umshado ngokuvumelana nayo yonke imithetho yehlobo, noma ukucabanga ngendlela yokuhlela umshado ongabizi, nokugcina imali yento entsha emndenini omusha.
Kodwa, njengoba umkhuba ubonisa, ukhetho lwesithathu lungcono kakhulu - umshado ongathandekayo, lapho imali isuke ingahambelani, futhi wonke amasiko omshado ayabonakala. Kunezinketho eziningi zokwenza umshado onjalo, uhlala kuphela ukukhetha ukuthi iyiphi into efanele kuwe.
Ngakho, ungasindisa kanjani emshadweni?
- Ukuze uqonde ukuthi abantu banabantu abaningi - lokhu akusho ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuzijabulisa. Ungamemezi umakhelwane wakho omncane u-Valya no-Aunt Lyusya, ohamba nabo kanye ngenyanga ngenyanga yokufika, kuphela ukuze ungabacasuli. Futhi, asikho isidingo sokuthumela isimemo kumzala wakho wesibili, owaziyo kuphela kusuka ezithombeni. Umshado, okokuqala, iholidi lomndeni, ngakho-ke kufanelekile ukumema izihlobo nabangane abasondelene naye.
- Khohlwa isimiso: "ukuthi kwakungesibi nakakhulu kunabantu." Konke okufanayo ngeke uyithokozise, futhi iqiniso lokuthi uchithe imali yokugcina yokuthengwa komshado akunakwenzeka ukuthi uyakwazisa. Umthetho oyinhloko wokugubha umshado ungabizi - okokuqala, gxila kuwe, hhayi kwabanye. Cabanga ukuthi uhambo lomshado oluthandanayo, oluthola ngemali elondoloziwe, luzokulethela injabulo enkulu kunomdlandla wabalingani mayelana nemenyu yakho.
- Ngendlela, mayelana nemenyu. Iseluleko esiyinhloko salabo abanokuhlangenwe nakho kokuqala kokubamba umshado eshibhile ukuthi: "Ithebula lomshado kufanele libukeke likhangayo futhi lihlukile, kodwa lokhu akudingekile ukuthenga izitsha ezingu-150 ezahlukene ukuze ukwanelise okuthandwa yilowo nalowo kulabo abakhona.
- Ukuzikhethela kokudlela kungenye iphuzu elibalulekile emhlahlandlela owusizo kulabo abasanda kushada okuthiwa "Indlela yokwenza umshado ongabizi". Uma ufuna ukulondoloza imali, qaphela izikhungo ezisanda kuvulwa, ezingakaze zikwazi ukuheha "izivakashi" futhi zibeke amanani aphezulu. Futhi, cela ukuphathwa uma ungazithembi kunoma yiziphi izaphulelo namabhonasi.
- Kudingeka umphathi wesonto lomshado kumshado, kodwa akudingeki neze, ngaphandle kwalokho, izinsizakalo zakhe azithengi. Ngesinye isikhathi omunye wabahlobo bakho, onolwazi oluhle kakhulu futhi okwazi ukujabulisa isixuku, angakwazi ukubhekana nendima yakhe. Into kuphela ongayidingi ukuyikhohlwa kulokhu kuyimeko encane. Khetha kusuka emidlalweni emisha yemidlalo yomshado nemincintiswano, ukubeka imiklomelo yamahlaya futhi - qhubeka phambili!
Indlela yokwenza umshado wokonga futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ukulahlekelwa ...
Noma, ngamanye amazwi, yikuphi ngisho nangesifiso sokusindisa akufanelekile:
- Kumthwebuli wezithombe. Uma unomngane noma umngane othanda ukuthwebula izithombe - kahle kakhulu, ngosizo lwakhe uzosindisa imali enhle. Kodwa ulungele ukuthi ikhwalithi yezithombe ezitholiwe zingasetshenziswa kakhulu, noma kubi kakhulu - izithombe zingase zingasebenzi nhlobo.
- Ohambweni lomshado. Lapho ubala ukuthi ungahlela kanjani umshado ongabizi, ungawudluli futhi uwususe izikhathi zakhe ezithandekayo, ezithakazelisayo. Ngemuva komshado, zihlele okungenani uhambo oluncane lwezothando ezimbili. Akunjalo ngempela ukuthi kufanele kube uhambo oluya eMaldives noma eParis, ngisho noma liyiviki eliphansi kakhulu ezweni eligibela ibhilidi,
lapho ungakujabulela khona konke okujabulisayo kwesikhonyane. - Nge "shams" encane. Uma uphuphile ukuhamba kusukela ebuntwaneni esithwalweni esithweswa yi-troika yamahhashi amhlophe, noma e-limousine yama-chic - fikisa iphupho lakho, ngoba ke yena nomshado. Kulokho ongawusindisa kunalokho, ukuthenga izimbali zemishado kanye nezinye izinto zokuhlobisa, ezimi kahle kakhulu. Izimbali zonyaka ngeke zibukeke zibi nakakhulu kunezitshalo zendabuko, iminduze kanye nama-mimosas, futhi kuzokubiza kakhulu.
Kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu khumbula ukuthi umshado, okokuqala, iholidi lakho, ngakho yenza kube umcimbi ongasoze ulibalekele.