Ukuhlambalaza yizwi elingadingi ukucacisa. Cishe wonke owesifazane wesifazane okungenani kanye empilweni yakhe, kodwa wabona ukukhashelwa yindoda yakhe ethandekayo.
Ubuhlobo phakathi kobulili bunesihloko esiyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu futhi esinamathekisthi. Imfihlo yokuwa othandweni, ubude balobuzwa nokuqothulwa kwayo kwanamuhla akukaziwa futhi akufundwanga. Kulokhu kuxhumana ukuthi kunzima kakhulu ukuqinisekisa ukuthi noma ukuphikisa isitatimende "uma umuntu eshintshile, khona-ke akasawakuthandi."
Kulesi sihloko sizozama ukuphendula umbuzo othi "Kungani amadoda ashintsha abafazi?"
Kungani indoda eshadile ikopela umkakhe?
Amadoda athatha ukuhlukumezeka ngokuvamile avame ukuhlukunyezwa ubuhlobo obubandayo emkhatsini wabo. Uma engazizwa emukelwa emndenini wakhe, uzobe efuna amantombazane ehlangothini lakhe-amasonto ukuze aphinde azizwe "ehhashi."
Amadoda avame ukusho ukuthi ukuhlubuka kwakungeyona intando yakhe, ngoba kulo mlando onamahloni, utshwala, izidakamizwa nabesifazane kuthiwa babandakanyeka, okusolakala ukuthi baziphonsa entanyeni yakhe. Azikho izindleko zokukholelwa, hhayi izwi elilodwa! Indoda, ngokuba umuntu omdala owaziwayo, ngaphambi kokwenza noma yiziphi izenzo zakhe, ucabanga ngemiphumela ezoba nayo, ngakho-ke kholelwa ukuthi lo mcimbi ube "intando yengozi" engeke kwenzeke.
Kungani indoda ishintsha umkayo - izizathu
Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani umuntu engena ekuziphatheni okunjalo okungenakuhlonipha njengobuqili.
- Umkami walahlekelwa yinto yakhe yangaphambili. Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi owesifazane emva komshado uvame ukuqala ukubheka kancane. Akunjalo ngoba engathandi, kodwa ngoba unemithwalo yemithwalo yemindeni emisha emahlombe akhe futhi akanaso isikhathi sakhe, futhi amadoda awakwazi lokhu.
- Ngangithanda omunye wesifazane. Lokhu akukwenzeki ngisho nangenxa yokuthi owesifazane wakhe ulahlekelwa ngumkhwenyana wakhe, akayena onjengobudlova obuhle kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili, kunzima nje ukuba indoda ivumelane neqiniso lokuthi phakathi kwalezi zinhlobonhlobo zamakhosikazi amahle kufanele aphile impilo yakhe kanye nomunye.
- Azikho izihloko ezivamile zengxoxo. Uma umfana emva komshado ethola ukuthi akanakho okukhulumayo ikakhulukazi ngesigamu sakhe sesibili, ubheka "ukukhulumisana" okumnandi ohlangothini, bese ebuyela ngokuthula emndenini.
- Ukukhathazeka kobudlelwano obukhululekile. Amanye amadoda angokwemvelo akakwazi ukwethembeka kumuntu owodwa. Yebo, kodwa ungene emshadweni nomfazi othize futhi umbiza ngokuthi umkakhe, kodwa angeke aphuthelwe ithuba lokuba yedwa nomunye owesifazane omuhle.
- Izinsolo mayelana nokungathembeki komkakhe. Umlingani ngezinye izikhathi angabaza ukuzinikela kwesigamu sakhe sesibili futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo akayitholi indlela engcono kunokuphindisela kuye.
Kungani indoda ikhohlisa kumfazi okhulelwe?
Njengoba akuyona into ephathekayo, kodwa isifiso sokuthola ingane sivame ukuvela emantombazaneni kunabantwana futhi kusukela kulo mzuzu kuqala konke. Indoda, ivumela umkakho kanye nemigomo yezenhlalakahle, inquma ukuthatha isinyathelo esinzima njengokuzalwa kwengane, ngezinye izikhathi, ukuba ingalungiselele ngokuphelele lokhu.
Abesifazane, njengoba kwaziwa ngenxa yezinguquko ze-hormone emzimbeni ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, ngezinye izikhathi bangakwazi ukubekezela, banamahloni, ngokuvamile isimo sengqondo siyashintsha. Indoda, engaziqondi ukuthi yini eyenza lokhu kuziphatha kowesifazane kuthatha isinqumo sokuthi akasamthandi futhi ngokuvamile uzimisele ukumkhaphela.
Izazi zengqondo zincoma ezimweni ezinjalo, ubambe othandekayo ngeziqondiso ngalokho okumele akhuthazele ezinyangeni ezingu-9 ezizayo. Ungamnika futhi ukuthi afunde izincwadi ezikhethekile, ukuze aqiniseke ukuthi konke okulandelayo "izenzo ezingavamile" zinokulungiswa kwesayense.