Umndeni ungenye yezinhloso eziyinhloko zomuntu ngamunye, ngoba ngaleyo ndlela uchitha ingxenye enkulu yempilo yakhe. Bangaki abengeke babe nabangani bakho, akekho kubo ozofaka esikhundleni sokufudumala nokuthula lapho izihlobo zinikeza.
Iyini umndeni ongaphelele?
Namuhla, ngeshwa, kunzima ukumangaza umuntu onenkinga enjalo. Incazelo yomndeni ongaphelele kusho ukukhulisa ingane ngomunye wabazali. Lokhu kwenzeka ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene: ingane izalwa ngaphandle komshado, ukwehlukana kwabazali, isehlukaniso noma ngisho nokufa komunye wabazali. Yiqiniso, inketho enjalo ayilungele ingane, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kuyimthombo yenjabulo, inkululeko, injabulo engayikufezwa ngefomula yomndeni ejwayelekile. Ake sibone ngokuningiliziwe ukuthi luhlobo luni lomndeni olubhekwa njengengaphelele.
Izinhlobo zomndeni ongumzali oyedwa: omama kanye noyise. Ngokuvamile, umndeni ongakapheli umama usakazeka kabanzi. Owesifazane ohlelweni lokuthwala, ukubeletha, ukondla kubonakala sengathi uhlala nomntwana. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kwamukelwa ukuthi ukunakekelwa kwezingane kulele emahlombe abesifazane. Futhi ubaba uyakwazi ukuba ngumfundisi. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, ochwepheshe bakholelwa ukuthi ubaba uphenduka ekukhaleni nasekumamatheka kwengane, kanye nowesifazane. Umndeni kababa ongaphelele awuvamile kakhulu manje, ngenxa yezimo ezihlukahlukene. Obaba banomthwalo wemfanelo wokukhulisa ingane, kusukela esemncane, ngakho ukungabikho kwabo kwabonakala kakhulu. Kodwa kaningi basengabanikazi bokudla kanye nabathola imali, kunokuba bebefundisi.
Ukubeletha emndenini ongaphelele
Uma kunabantwana abaningana emndenini onjalo, lokhu kunxephezela ukungapheleli kancane. Ingane endala ingaba yisibonelo kwabancane, uma abadala beziphatha ngendlela efanele. Kuyaziwa ukuthi emindeni engumzali oyedwa, izingane zincintisana kakhulu futhi zithintana ngokomzwelo komunye nomunye. Abazali abakhulisa izingane emindeni engumzali oyedwa bafuna ukunikeza iseluleko:
- Khuluma nengane ulalele. Hlala naye njalo oxhumana naye. Kubalulekile ukuba avezwe lapho ekhuluma nge-enkulisa noma esikoleni.
- Hlonipha imemori yesikhathi esedlule ngenhlonipho.
- Msize ngamakhono okuziphatha ahambisana nobulili bakhe.
- Ungayishintshi imisebenzi yabazali abangekho ebantwini bezingane.
- Zama ukushada futhi uphinde uphile emndenini ogcwele.
Izici zomndeni ongumzali oyedwa
Emindenini eyizintandane, naphezu kokulahlekelwa othandekayo, amalungu omndeni asele abonisa ukuhlangana futhi alondoloze ubudlelwane bomndeni nazo zonke izihlobo ezisezingeni lomuntu oshonile. Ubuhlobo obunjalo buqhubeka futhi kungeniswa kumshado wesibili, tk. lokhu kubhekwa njengokujwayelekile.
Emikhayeni ehlukanisile, ingane ithola ukuhlukumezeka kwengqondo, umuzwa wesaba, ihlazo. Ngakho-ke, kubhekwa njengokwejwayelekile ukuba nethemba lomntwana lokubuyiselwa, ukuhlanganiswa kobuhlobo bukababa nomama.
Umndeni osemusha ongumzali ongabodwa ungakhiwa lapho ubaba engahambisani nokubeletha futhi wesifazane uthatha isinqumo sokukhulisa ingane yedwa. Khona-ke kukhona usongo ukuthi umama ongayedwa uzophazamisa umndeni wengane yakhe futhi ngeke afune ukuwabelana nanoma ubani.
Namuhla, ngokuvamile imibhangqwana esemisha ehlukumezekile ihlukanisa, ingacabangi ukuthi ingane yakho izokhula kanjani nokuthi kanjani
Izifundo zezici zengqondo zomndeni ongaphelele wokuthi izingane ezinjalo ezinjalo zijwayele ukwephula ohlelweni lwezinzwa, zinezinga eliphansi lokufunda, futhi zinezithunzi eziphansi.
Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokwenza noma yiziphi izinqumo mayelana nokubunjwa komndeni, cabanga ngokucophelela hhayi ngemizwa yakho, kodwa ngokuthi lokhu kuzothinta kanjani ingane. Ukubekezela nokuqonda kuphela imizwa yengane kungakha umndeni wangempela, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ubuntwana obujabulisayo.