Kwenzeke ukuthi umsebenzi wokugcina umndeni womndeni ungowesifazane, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kungaba nzima. Yiqiniso, empikiswaneni emndenini, bobabili abalingani bahlale bebeka icala, kodwa kunezikhathi lapho kubonakala khona ukuthi indoda ayizwa nje amazwi ayibhekiswe kuye. Khona-ke umbuzo uvela ukuthi ungathola kanjani ulimi oluvamile nomyeni ukuze unciphise inani lokungaqondani, ngoba izingxabano eziningi zenzeka ngokuqondile ngalesi sizathu.
Ungayithola kanjani ulimi oluvamile nendoda?
Ngaphambi kokucabanga ngokuphendula lo mbuzo, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuthola ulimi oluvamile. Yiqiniso, asikhulumi ngomkhawulo wolimi, kungenxa yokungakwazi ukuveza imicabango yomuntu kumlingani wakho. Iqiniso liwukuthi izinhlobo zokucabanga zesilisa nabesifazane zihlukile, ngakho-ke, nomaphi lapho sibona isicelo esivamile, indoda iyaqonda ukuhlukunyezwa okucasulayo. Kuyatholakala ukuthola ulimi oluvamile nomyeni wakhe, isoka langaphambili, noma yimuphi umuntu, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi ubona kanjani isimo, ukubuka ngokoqobo isimo esikuthakazelisayo ngamehlo akhe. Ake sibone isibonelo samacala ambalwa avame ukubuka okuhlukile kwezinto.
- Ngingenza konke ngokwami . Abesifazane banamuhla bayaqhubeka befuna ukuzimela ngokuphelele, futhi benza kahle, kodwa empilweni yomndeni, ukweqa ngokwezinga lekhwalithi kungase kungamukeleki. Indoda ingakwazi ukubona ukuziphatha okunjengomzamo wokumkhazamisa, ngisho noma owesifazane efuna nje ukwenza ukuphila kwakhe kube lula. Kulesi simo, umyeni uzizwa engadingekile, engaqondi ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba khona, uma ezama ukuzidelela njalo.
- Indoda iyinhloko yomndeni . Lokhu okunye okweqile, lapho abesifazane bavame ukuwa khona. Yiqiniso, ezinkingeni eziningi kukhona abameleli bobulili obunamandla abenza isinqumo sokugcina, kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele njalo kube njalo. Umfazi angase acabange ukuthi ukunikeza indoda yakhe i-blanche card ekuxazululeni zonke izinkinga, kumnika ukuzethemba, futhi uyibona njengesifiso sokumenza abe ngumthwalo wempilo kuphela emndenini.
- Khuluma kuleso cala . Izivunguvungu zivame ukuvela ngoba owesifazane uzizwa engenakwa amazwi akhe. Ngokusemthethweni, lokhu kunjalo, kunzima kakhulu ukuba amadoda alandele imigqa eminingana yokuxoxa, okuvame ukuthi abesifazane basone. Ngakho-ke, uma ufuna ukuxazulula le nkinga, khuluma ngokufaneleka ngokuyeka ukukhuluma imininingwane encane njengezicathulo zomngane omusha kanye nekati elimnyama elimnyama eliwela indlela yakho.
- Ngaphandle kwamacebo . Ubuchopho besilisa buhlela ulwazi olungenayo alukwenzanga njengowesifazane, ngenxa yalokhu, ukuthola indoda enolwazi oluvamile kunzima kakhulu. Umfazi angabuza umyeni wakhe amahora amahora okuthile
yenza imisebenzi yasendlini futhi umangale ngokungazenzisi kwakhe lapho engaqondi ukuthi kungani kufanele kwenziwe ngokushesha. Ngakho uma ufuna okuthile kumuntu, uchaze ngokucacile futhi ngokucacile ukuthi yini futhi nini okumelwe uyenze. Kodwa inkulumo ethi "ungabe ..." futhi "ngingathanda ..." kungcono kwesokunxele ngamacala angabalulekile.
Njengoba sibona, ngokuvamile, isizathu sokungaboni kahle ngukuhlukana phakathi kokucabanga kwabantu besilisa nabesifazane. Ngakho-ke, lapho usebenzisana nendoda, kufanele uhlale ucabangela lesi sici. Futhi esikhundleni sokukhathazeka ngokuntuleka kokunakekelwa kumyeni wakhe, mtshele ngokuqondile ngakho, ngaphandle kwamacebo.