Kwenzeka ukuthi ekuphileni okuhlangene kukhona ukushaqeka okukhulu. Futhi, naphezu kokuthi abesifazane bagxila kakhulu ekulondolozeni umndeni, ngezinye izikhathi bacabanga ukuthi lezi zinsuku ngeke ziholele kunoma yini. Uma usuvele wenza imizamo yokwakha ubuhlobo obuqinile emndenini, kodwa awuzange ulethe imiphumela oyifunayo, noma unomunye umuntu, uma kunjalo, kungcono ukuhlukanisa. Kodwa kuthiwani uma enye ingxenye yakho ingakholelwa ukuthi umshado wakho usuphelile? Indlela yokuhlukanisa ngaphandle kwemvume yomyeni?
Ake sibone ukuthi kungani indoda engafuni ukuhlukanisa. Kunezinketho eziningi, nansi ezinye zazo:
- Ngoba unomatasa kakhulu umuntu futhi unelisekile ngokuba khona endlini yenceku yamahhala ngesimo sakho.
- Ungumuntu obuthakathaka, ukwaneliseka kwakhe kuxhomeke ekubeni khona kwesidlo esishisayo, ukuhlanzeka kwendlu, ukuhleleka kwezinto ezivamile, ngezwi elilodwa udinga induduzo oyinikezela ngokucacile.
- Udinga ubulili njalo.
- Kusukela ebuntwaneni, umyeni wami wafundiswa ukucabanga ngokuziphatha okubi kwehlukaniso, uyazisa isimo somuntu womndeni.
Sasizibonele izizathu zokwehluleka kwamadoda ukuvumela ukuba owesifazane ahambe. Futhi manje, ehlomile ngala maqiniso, ungacabanga ngecebo lakho elibizwa ngokuthi "Indlela yokuhlukanisa ngaphandle kwemvume yendoda?"
Amathiphu ambalwa okuthola isehlukaniso
Okokuqala, zama ukwenza konke okuphambene nalokho, okungukuthi, ukuthola imiphumela ehlukile. Oshade naye ufuna ukuhlanzeka nokududuzeka, amenzele ingulube yangempela egumbini lapho echitha isikhathi sakhe noma ehhovisi. Yeka ukupheka, ungamphatha ngobuqili, ungazami ukwenza uthando kuye, nakuba okulandelayo, okungadingekile ukuthi uthi, uzimisele ngokuqinile ukuthi lo muntu akahambisani nawe njengomlingani wakho. Kunoma yikuphi, ukuze uqonde ukuthi ungahlukana kanjani uma umyeni ephikisana naye, kufanele uziqonde wena ukuthi kungani ethanda kakhulu kulo mshado futhi ubonise ukuthi awukwazi ukumnika lokho akufunayo. Kodwa-ke, esimweni esilandelayo, uma oshade naye isahlukaniso, kungumkhuba wokuziphatha okubi, kungcono ukuthi ungasebenzisi lezi zindlela ezingenhla, ngoba ungakwazi futhi uvumelane naye. Isibonelo, ungamemezeli impilo yakho, kufaka phakathi isehlukaniso. Enhliziyweni yakhe, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi amaphupho akho ahlukanise isikhathi eside, ngakho-ke kungani uphazamisa ubuhlobo uma ungaba nabangane?
Indlela yokwenza isehlukaniso uma umyeni esejele?
Ukwahlukanisa ngaphandle kwemvume yendoda, kungaba yinkinga uma kwenzeka ukuthi oshade naye abe ezindaweni ezingekho kude. Ngenhlanhla, lolu daba lwacatshangwa yizinhlangano zomthetho nakwabesifazane, futhi kulokhu kunelungelo lokuthola inkululeko eyifunayo. Kule ndaba, iningi lazo zonke "inhlanhla" kulabo besifazane abahlanganiswa nempilo yabo iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-3. Kulokhu, ungahlukanisa futhi ngaphandle kwemvume yendoda yakhe. Into edingekayo kuphela ukufaka isicelo kubhalisi. Kwezinye izimo, "izifiso" zomyeni ziyacatshangelwa futhi, uma engafuni ukwahlukanisa, ungayifinyelela enkantolo kuphela.
Futhi uma ungafuni ukuletha lolu daba enkantolo? Ngingakwazi yini ukuhlukanisa ngaphandle kwemvume yomyeni wami uma esejele?
Ngingakwazi yini ukuhlukanisa ngaphandle kwemvume yomyeni wami?
Noma kunjalo, awukwazi yini kuphela ukufaka imibhalo yesehlukaniso, kodwa nokuhlukanisa ngaphandle kokuhlanganyela komyeni wakhe? Mhlawumbe kunezinye izindlela ongabe usungumama wamahhala futhi ungachithi isikhathi sakho namandla ukuze uthinte "ingxenye yakho yesibili"?
Impendulo: Ezikhathini eziningi, cha, ngaphandle kokuthanda kwakhe nokuvuma kwakhe ngeke kusebenze, kodwa ungaqiniseka ukuthi iphuzu lomlingani lihambisana neyakho, okungukuthi, udinga ukuba indoda yakho ihlukanise. Indlela yokwenza lokhu owaziyo kakade, kusalokhu ukufisa wena inhlanhla nje!