I-Strange, kodwa konke okuphambene nendoda nowesifazane, kuxhomeke kakhulu komunye nomunye. Isibonelo, amantombazane amaningi asaba ukuthi indoda yakhe isaba ukushada, futhi uzama ukuzama ukumncenga ukuba athathe isinyathelo esibalulekile - ukudala umndeni nokushada, nakuba eminyakeni embalwa emshadweni, ingxenye enhle yale mibhangqwana ngeke isanelise ngesinqumo sayo, kanti abanye baze bashade " emasontweni. " Noma kunjalo, sizozama ukuqonda ingqondo yesilisa, ukuze sizwe kusuka othandekayo ngokushesha ukuphakanyiswa okuthandekayo kwesandla nenhliziyo.
Kungani amadoda esaba ukushada?
Ngokwezinga elikhulu, ukwesaba owesilisa ngomshado kusekelwe emangalisweni:
Inkolelo yenombolo 1. Umshado "uchitha" impilo yokulala. Iningi lamabhangqwana empeleni linenkinga yokuhlukahluka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kodwa lokhu kungabonakala njengesinye sezizathu zokuzama.
Empeleni. Ukuqhathaniswa kubheka ukukhululwa, ngoba umlingani ohlala njalo evumela ukuthi uphile ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngezifo ezihlukahlukene zocansi, futhi kukuvumela ukuthi ungathembeki ngokuqondene nezifiso zakho, uma oshade naye enomshado othembekile.
Inkolelo yenombolo yesi-2. Ucabanga ukuthi manje uzodinga ukusebenza izikhathi eziningana ukuze asekele umkakhe nezingane zakhe.
Empeleni. Abesifazane bayazi futhi ukuthi basebenze kanjani, kanti abanye (abesifazane abavelele ngempela) baze bakwazi ngisho nokuvimbela abashade nabo ngemali engenayo. Umndeni uyisisusa esihle sokuzuza izindawo eziphakeme zomsebenzi kanye nesimo esihle emphakathini: ekuqaleni indoda iyaqaphela ukuthi kumele ilwele phezulu, ibe ngcono, kuqala, kuye.
Inkolelo yenombolo yesithathu. Uyesaba ukuthi umndeni uzothatha kuye isikhathi sakhe esiyigugu samahhala.
Empeleni. Okufanele akwenze ngaphambi kwakhe, manje uzokwenza okungenani abantu ababili: ugeze izitsha, uhlanzeke endlini, ulungise, upheke, njll. Ngokusatshalaliswa okunekhono kwemithwalo yemfanelo, ungakhulula isikhathi "sokulala embhedeni", "ukudlala imidlalo," "ukubuka ibhola," ngisho nokuxhumana nomkakhe nezingane.
Ngakho-ke, umbuzo othi "amadoda afuna ukushada" uyiphendule engafanele, ayifunayo, kodwa ayesaba umthwalo wokuzibophezela nokuxolisa ngokweqile ngenkululeko yabo.
Amadoda afuna ukushada nobani futhi amantombazane abawaphi abafazi?
Bathi indoda ikhetha umfazi obukeka njengonina. Lokhu kuyiqiniso, kodwa hhayi kuwo wonke amacala, ake sibone.
Yimaphi amantombazane ashada?
- iqiniso lokuthi amantombazane ahlakaniphile kanye nobuhle kuphela abazithathela omkawo, abakwazi ukubopha isiphambano bese bhaka ama-pie amnandi - esikhathini eside esidlule aba yiqiniso. Bheka nxazonke futhi ubheke owesifazane oshadile ophelele: kukhona bambalwa kakhulu kubo;
- owokuqala ukushada yizintombi ezikhululekile kakhulu, ezizethembayo futhi ezinhle ezithandayo, azihlali nabo bonke abafana egcekeni, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo zinobungane futhi zivulekile ekukhulumisaneni. Uma owesifazane ekwazi ukuthola abantu kuye - kulula ukuba ashade;
- Abantu baka-PR - esinye isigaba samantombazane angakwazi ngokushesha "ukuphuma ngaphandle" eshadile. Abangakhanyeli ngengqondo, banesidingo esivela ngaphandle, kepha lezo zimfanelo abanakho, bayakwazi ukukhangisa ukuze indoda icabange: "Yebo u-Elena Elena the Wise uqobo lwakhe kusuka ezindabeni zezinganekwane ukuthi ugogo angifunde ebuntwaneni!".
Yiziphi abesifazane abangashadile?
Ukuphila komndeni ngokweqile ngokuvamile kuvame ukubandayo abakholelwa ukuthi badalwa kuphela izikhulu namakhosi. Esikhathini esifanayo, labo besifazane abathanda kakhulu inkululeko futhi abakwazi ukuyekethisa: akekho umuntu wangempela ozovumelanisa neqiniso lokuthi eduze kwakhe akuyona insikazi enesibindi, kodwa umlawuli wangempela ekhanda elihola futhi lilalele ukulalela.
Kuthiwani uma lo muntu engafuni ukushada?
Uma umuntu engakwazi "ukuvuthwa" kwisinyathelo esiyingozi, khona-ke udinga usizo kulokhu.
- Indlela yokukholisa indoda ukuba ishade? Okokuqala kuzomele uzame ukumkholisa, kodwa ngenxa yeziphakamiso ezifanele, thola izizathu zangempela zalokhu kuziphatha. Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa inkululeko yakhe? Bese utshela kaningana, mangaki amathuba avuliwe ngaphambi kwakhe emshadweni.
- Indlela yokwenza indoda ifuna ukushada? Uma umuntu ethandana kakhulu futhi esaba ukulahlekelwa ngumkakhe, khona-ke angamchazela ukuthi umshado ubaluleke kakhulu, futhi uma kuthatha isikhathi eside kakhulu ukuba "unqume", imigwaqo yakho ingahlakazeka.
- Ungamshayela kanjani indoda ukushada? Ukuphoqa emshadweni ukuvusa. Izindaba mayelana nokukhulelwa kwengqikithi yochungechunge lwethelevishini yaseBrazil -
kusuka kulesi sigaba, kodwa kuyindlela engafanele, njengoba amanga engakha ubuhlobo obujabulisayo. Ukushaya umuntu emshadweni kungaba nezimo zangempela kuphela: hhayi ukukhulelwa okuyiqiniso, ukusola okude isikhathi eside kumuntu othanda noma ukuncintisana okukhulu.
Noma kunjalo, naphezu kwesifiso esinamandla somshado, owesifazane kufanele akhumbule isaga esisodwa esihlakaniphile: "Ukushada akufanele kuhlasele, njengokungathi ukushada akufanele kuchitheke." Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi umshado akufanele ube ukuphela ngokwawo, kungaphezu kwakho konke, isizathu sokuchitha impilo yomuntu oyedwa.