Ukufuna ukuhlambalaza umuntu ngenxa ye-chauvinism maqondana nokuphila komndeni, sithukuthele: "Yebo kunguDomostroy abanye". Kodwa ingabe isimo sengqondo kule ncwadi siyakufanelekela, mhlawumbe ezimweni zomphakathi wanamuhla, ezinye izeluleko zayo zizofaneleka?
Domostroy: Indaba encane
Igama eligcwele lesikhumbuzo sezincwadi zaseRussia lithi "Incwadi Ebizwa ngokuthi i-Domostroy." Kukholelwa ukuthi umsebenzi umphumela womsebenzi ohlangene wezizukulwane eziningana. Nakuba inguqulo edumile kakhulu yeSyvester ehloniphekile - umvume we-Ivan the Terrible. Kamuva, "Incwadi ebizwa ngokuthi i-Domostroy" yabuyekezwa yi-hieromonk yaseMoscow yaseCosdov Monastery, futhi kamuva nguHegumen Karion ngekhulu le-17. Kulomagazini, zonke izinguqulo ezazikhona ngaleso sikhathi zahlanganiswa.
U-Domostroy waqukethe imithetho yokuhlonishwa kwe-tsar (isikhulu), etshela ngokuphathwa komnotho, wakhuluma ngokugcinwa kwemithetho yenkolo, kwakukhona nomyalezo ovela kubababa kuya endodaneni. Futhi iningi lazo zonke izimfundiso zikaDomostroi ngokuziphatha komkayo, indoda kanye nezingane emndenini zidumile. Lezi ziqondiso zibangela ukusabela okuqinile, abesifazane abaningi bababheka ngokucophelela futhi bazwelana ngobuqotho nabesifazane babo ababehlala ngalezo zikhathi. Kodwa ingabe okhokho bethu bafanele ngempela ukuzwelana, noma sasithatha izintonga futhi asikwazanga ukuqonda lokho okushiwo?
Imithetho ye-Domostroi yemindeni yanamuhla
- Incwadi ithi umfazi onomusa, othule, osebenza kanzima ungumqhele kumyeni wakhe, umenza abe nobuhle obuhle. Kodwa akunjalo? Ngemuva kwamadoda amaningi aphumelelayo yibafazi babo abahlakaniphile. Yiqiniso, ukuze abesifazane besimanje babe semthunzini womyeni ophumelelayo bangase babonakale bengamukeleki, kodwa ukusekela umyeni wakhe akusho ukuthi ngeke uphumelele emkhakheni wakhe, into esemqoka ukukhetha ilungelo lakhe.
- Kuqoqo lwemiyalelo kukhona amathiphu okuxhumana nsuku zonke mayelana nomndeni. Ezweni lanamuhla, le mfundiso iyadingeka - mhlawumbe hhayi zonke izinsuku, kodwa okungenani kanye ngesonto ukukhuluma ngemisebenzi yasekhaya kanye nesabelomali kufanelekile. Ngakho-ke ungabona ngempela ukuthi ubani othengisa abasebenzi endlini.
- U-Domostroy uyala umkakhe ukuba axhumane nalabo abathandwa yindoda, futhi bevakashele ukugcina ingxoxo emnandi futhi baqaphele ukudakwa. Zonke izeluleko zinengqondo, ngaphandle kokuthi ukuthola imvume evela kumyeni kungabamba owesifazane wesimanje. Nakuba ukucela umyeni wami imvume yokuhlangana nabangani kuyindlela enhle yokuhlehlisa ukuqhosha kwamadoda. Imvume indoda yonke iyafana (uma kungekho ukuthambekela okucindezelayo), futhi ngemva kombuzo onjalo umqondo wokubaluleka kwayo kuyokwandisa ngokuphindaphindiwe.
- Futhi encwadini kukhona izincomo zokungalahli abantu oxhumana nabo, hhayi ukusakaza inhlebo futhi ungasho amagama amabi. Futhi iseluleko esihle - ukuhleka nokulimaza okuncane akujabuli muntu, futhi idumela lomthandi wamahemuhemu angcolile abantu abambalwa kakhulu empilweni kuyasiza.
- U-Domostroy weluleka ukuba angahlali emcimbini futhi angahlukumezi adakwe. Futhi la macebiso awunalo iqiniso - imihlangano ende kakhulu nabanikazi ngumthwalo, futhi sonke siyazi ukuthi yini evame ukuqeda zonke izinhlobo zamaqembu ezinkampanini nemikhosi enomsindo. Ama-Scandals, ukuhlubuka, izikhathi zokuhlebezela nokuhleba - konke lokhu akudingekile kunoma ubani, ngakho-ke udinga ukushiya leli holide, kuze kube yilapho liphenduka kusukela ekuzijabuliseni libe "ukuxoshwa."
- Kukhona namathiphu ekungenisa izihambi, le ncwadi iyala ngokucophelela ukwamukela wonke umuntu, ukukhuluma nomuntu wonke nento okumele uyijabulise. Futhi akusona yini isisekelo sabo bonke amasu okuxhumana anamuhla? Yiba nobungane, thola igama lomusa nokumamatheka kuzo zonke izivakashi, futhi abantu bazokubonga.
- Uma umyeni ebona ukuthi ipulazi liyinkimbinkimbi, kungumsebenzi wakhe ukufundisa umkakhe. Uma eqonda konke, khona-ke bonga futhi ubonge, futhi uma umfazi engalandeli amagama omyeni wakhe, kufanele ajeziswe. Futhi ukujeziswa, ukuthethelelwa,
kodwa emva komunye nomunye ububi abuphi futhi baphile othandweni nokuvumelana. Leli phuzu leDomostroi lenza kube ukungavumelani okukhulu, kodwa ngokwenza isaphulelo okwesikhashana futhi uguqule iseluleko kwezimo zanamuhla, sithola isincomo ukuze sikwazi ukubona amaphutha ethu futhi sivumele amaphutha kwenye. Futhi ekuxazululeni izinkinga, ukuhloniphana kanye, nakanjani, uthando kufanele lusize.
Kuvela i-Domostroy kanye nemikhaya yanamuhla inganika izeluleko eziningi eziwusizo, futhi ukukhukhulwa kwezimfundiso ezingabonakali. Futhi kulabo abakholelwa ngenye indlela, umlando kufanele ukhunjulwe - ezikhathini zezimpi eziqhubekayo kanye nezikhwama zemingcele, kwakungeke kube ngenye indlela, ngaphandle kokuba owesifazane onesibopho sempi angenakuthathwa njengenhloko yomndeni, ngakho izwi lomyeni wakhe lalingujuqu. Kodwa emindenini lapho isimo sengqondo sasinembile, abashadile banquma ndawonye, ngakho-ke isifiso "Iseluleko nothando".