Amantombazane avame ukucabanga impilo yabo yomndeni yesikhathi esizayo. Naphezu kobudlelwane obuhle emindenini eminingi, labo abangakatholi, banethemba lokuthi bazobe behlukile, kanye kanye nokuphila. Uthando olungcono emangcwabeni umqondo wokuthi izazi ze-psychologists zithi zingabonakali kakhulu, ngakho kwenzeka njalo ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuthola injabulo yomuntu emshadweni wokuqala.
Izibalo zemishado ephindaphindiwe ensimini yezwe lethu ibonisa ukuthi imibhangqwana engaphezu kuka-30% ayikwazi ukugcina umshado wayo wokuqala. Izinkinga zivame ukuvela ngemuva kokushaywa yothando lomshado nomunye umlingani womlingani, eqiniswe ngesisekelo sezinkambiso zansuku zonke, abe ngumane ongenakubekezela.
I-Psychology yokushada kabusha
Ngokusho kwabantu abangazange bawenze emshadweni wokuqala, ukubhalisa kabusha komshado kuvumela ukuxazulula zonke izinkinga futhi ngokuvumelana nezibalo ezimweni eziningi lokhu kuyiqiniso, njengoba imishado ephindaphindiwe ishaya kahle.
Izinkinga zengqondo zokushada kabusha
Imishado ephindaphindiwe inezinhlobo eziningana, ezibhekene nezinkinga ezihlukahlukene:
- Imvelo yokuqedwa kobudlelwane bangaphambilini. Ubuhlobo bomndeni bokuqala bungaba yigugu kubo bobabili bomshado. Ukushicilelwa kwesikhathi esedlule, uhlobo lwe-cliche ebuhlotsheni bomndeni, kuvame ukuholela ekuqedeni komshado ngokuphindaphindiwe.
- Ukuba nesipiliyoni sobuhlobo bomndeni. Izingxabano emndenini zingavela ngesisekelo sokungazilungiseleli komunye womshado womndeni.
- Umehluko phakathi kweminyaka phakathi kwabalingani.
Ukuhlukanisa nokushada kabusha
Njengoba kungase kubonakale sengathi, ukushada kabusha nomyeni wangaphambili kungaphumelela kunomyeni oyinhloko, ngoba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi abantu bahlakaniphile futhi babuyekeze izindinganiso zabo, bayaqonda izindleko zamaphutha ezenziwe ngaphambilini futhi bathathe izifundo ezithile ezivela ekuphileni.
Ukushada kanye nezingane
Izingane ezisuka emshadweni odlule, awuboni ukuhlukana kwabazali nokungena emndenini womuntu omusha. Ingane kufanele izwe uthando lwabazali bobabili, okufanele banikele ngokulinganayo ekukhuliseni kwakhe.
Ekukhuleni, ingane idinga umndeni oqinile futhi oqondayo, ngoba ngalesi sikhathi ukuziqaphela nokwaziswa ekuqondeni kobuchwepheshe kanye nokuphila komuntu siqu kuyomiswa ngokuqinile. Okuhlangenwe nakho okungathandeki komunye wabazali kungakwazi ukuhlala phakade engqondweni yomfana osemfanekisweni womndeni ongajabuli, futhi ukungafuni ukuzuza kungokwakhe.