Yiqiniso, akuyona umakoti oyedwa, ukugqoka indandatho ngezandla zokuthuthumela, engacabangi ngesehlukaniso, ukuthi umuntu omelele uzoba engathandeki kangangokuba ngeke afune ukubona noma ukuzwa. Kodwa nokho akuvamile, izibalo zale akhawunti ziyadabukisa kunalokho. ERussia, imibhangqwana engu-57% ihlukanisile, kuyilapho e-Ukraine inani lesahlukaniso liyi-48%. Yiziphi izizathu zokuhlukana kwemindeni, kungani isahlukaniso siphenduka ekusebenziseni okugcina ekuphileni okuvamile? Ake sizame ukuqonda izizathu zesehlukaniso.
Izimbangela eziyinhloko zesehlukaniso
Kungani imindeni ihlukana? Umbhangqwana ngamunye ohlukanisile unomlando ohlukile wokuhlukanisa, kodwa izazi ze-psychologist zikhomba izizathu eziyisithupha zokuhlukana komndeni, okubhekwa ukuthi yizona eziyinhloko.
- Uma sikhuluma ngezizathu zokwahlukana kwemindeni emisha, umugqa wokuqala ohlwini luzothatha isisusa esinjalo, njengoba ungenalo umshado. Ngokuvamile imibhangqwana enjalo inquma ukushada ngothando oluthandwayo. Futhi ukuthi abazi lutho ngempilo yomndeni. Ngenxa yalokho, ukungathandi ukulalela omunye umuntu, ukwenza ukuvumelana, futhi ekugcineni isehlukaniso.
- Enye, isizathu esingavamile sokuhlukanisa, yizidakamizwa zomunye womshado. Ukuphuza ngokweqile, ukulutha izidakamizwa, ukulutha komdlalo, konke lokhu kwenza ukuphila komkhaya kungenakulinganiswa. Futhi uma umlutha futhi engafuni ukuqeda umkhuba omubi, kunendlela eyodwa kuphela yokuphuma - isehlukaniso.
- Phakathi kwezizathu zokuhlukana komndeni ngokuvamile kuthiwa ubuphingi. Ukuguquka kungaqondwa, kuchazwe, kodwa kunzima ukuthethelela. Abaningi bamane nje abafuni ukubekezelela isimo sengqondo esifanayo somlingani futhi bahanjiswe ngesehlukaniso.
- Ngokuvamile abashadile banquma ukuhlukanisa ngenxa yokungabi nemali emndenini, ukungakwazi ukuthuthukisa isimo sabo sezezimali. Indima ebalulekile idlalwe ukungabi nemali yokunikeza umndeni indawo yokuhlala ehlukene - ukuhlala nabazali njalo kuvivinyo olunzima kubantu abashadile.
- Mhlawumbe uzomangala, kodwa lapho ebuzwa ukuthi kungani imindeni ihlukana, izazi zengqondo zithinta ukuthi abashadile babe nemibono ehlukile empilweni, ngamanye amazwi, abavumelani nabalingiswa. Lo umehluko ukhulunywa ngokukhethekile emnyangweni wabantu abavela emkhakheni wezenhlalo ezahlukene. Isibonelo, omunye wabashadile unemfundo ephakeme, umsebenzi omuhle, usetshenziselwe ukuphumula ezindaweni zokubhuka (ngisho nabasekhaya), ufisa ukufunda izincwadi zezingqondo. Omunye akazange azame ukungena eyunivesithi, uthanda ukumba egadini esikhundleni sezinsuku zokuphumula futhi akanakuqonda ukuthi yini engatholakala emakhasini amabhuku. Nakuba uthando lunabo, ukungezwani okunjalo akubonakali. Kodwa emva kwalokho, lapho imizwa ihamba kancane, kuyacaca ukuthi laba bantu abafani, ngakho-ke, luhlobo luni lomndeni?
- Futhi, izimbangela zesehlukaniso zingase zinganeliseki ngokocansi noma izinkinga zempilo, ikakhulukazi, ngezempilo yokuzala. Ngokuvamile, esikhundleni sokukhuluma nomchwepheshe wokuxazulula izinkinga, lo mbhangqwana unquma ukuhlukanisa.
Izimpawu zokuqedwa kokuqala komndeni
Ukubhujiswa kobudlelwane bomndeni akukwenzeka ngokuzenzekelayo, ukunganeliseki komlingani komunye nomunye kuthatha kancane kancane, usuku nosuku, kuze kube yilapho kuthatha isinqumo ngesahlukaniso. Ukuqonda kanjani ukuthi kukhona ukungezwani emndenini?
Ngokuyinhloko, kuyabanda ebusweni. Sikhuluma ngocansi - lo mbhangqwana uthanda ukulala ubuthongo obuhle ubusuku bonke. Uma sikhuluma ngokukhulumisana kwansuku zonke, khona-ke kukhona izinketho ezimbili ongakhetha kuzo: indoda nomkakhe abakhulumi kahle, bazibophezela emazwini omile, noma bathi njalo, kodwa kuphela ngezingane, izinkinga zansuku zonke, ngaphandle kokuzama ukuthola isihloko esifanayo sokuxoxa. Abashadile bayeka ukwabelana ngezinjabulo nezinkinga zabo, abafuni ukufunda okuthile ngomunye nomunye. Umakhelwane olala embhedeni ubhekwa njengesibili esicasulayo, okuyisikhathi esenza kube yimpumelelo yokuchuma kwempahla, isimo somuntu womndeni, izingane ezincane ezivamile.