Isikhungo samanje somshado sisenkingeni. EYurophu, basebenzela izinyunyana ngaphansi kwenkontileka yomshado, bashintsha emishadweni yezivakashi, futhi amaphesenti omhlaba wonke wokuhlukanisa ahluka kusuka ku-60 kuya ku-80%. Intsha yanamuhla ayiqondi ukuthi kungani kudingekile ukushada, futhi ikhetha ukuhlala emshadweni womphakathi (noma kunjalo, lesi sinyathelo ngokuvamile singabantu). Futhi ngempela, kungani abantu beshada?
Kungani kufanele ngishade?
Manje, sicabanga ukuthi kungani sishada, abaningi bayokuphendula-ukuthi kwakukhona izingane ezisemthethweni, futhi kwakungekho isidingo sokuba ubaba wabo
- ukubhekana nenqubo yokwamukelwa kwengane yakho. Nokho, umshado empeleni unikeza umuntu izinzuzo eziningi:
- umuntu oshadile kungenzeka ukuba aqashwe;
- Abantu abashadayo babalwa ngabantu abazungezile njengoba bevuthiwe ngokwengeziwe;
- Ngokujwayelekile abazali abanamathele ekutheni abantwana bahlukumezeke ngalesi sigaba;
- izinguquko zokuziqaphela, kuvela umqondo wemfanelo;
- Uma isigamu sesibili sinomuntu othanda kakhulu - ngokuvamile umshado uyangikhathaza, tk. inyunyana iqala ukuthathwa ngokungathí sina;
- emshadweni kulula kakhulu ukuxazulula izinkinga ngezindlu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yi-mortgage noma ukuqasha indawo yokuhlala.
Nokho, lokhu kuwukuphela kohlangothi lwangaphandle. Eqinisweni, umshado uhlinzeka okuningi emhlabeni womuntu wangaphakathi.
Kungani abantu beshada?
Ngokuhleka usho ukuthi uma umuntu eshada ngesizathu esithile, kungenxa yezingubo ezihlanzekile ne-borscht. Empeleni, umshado unikeza okuningi:
- emshadweni, umuntu uzizwa enesizotha futhi evikelekile, ngoba manje usemthethweni "onemuva";
- ngokuvamile emva komshado, i-degree elisha lomusa nokuthandana ngokomzwelo phakathi kwabashade;
- amathuba okuba ama-scandal angabangela ukuhlukana kobudlelwano, ngoba manje kunzima kakhulu ukuhlakazeka.
Ngokuvamile, ubudlelwane, obulondolozwe ngumthetho, banikeza umuntu ukuthula kwengqondo nokuzethemba esikhathini esizayo, ilungelo lokunciphisa nokugqugquzela ukubekezela. Sonke asiphelele, kodwa emshadweni kulula ukuthethelelana ngokungapheleli okuncane.