Akekho owesifazane ozithandela ofuna ukuba nobuhlobo nendoda enomfazi. Abesifazane abaningi bayazi ukuthi ubuhlobo obunjalo ngeke buholele kunoma yini enhle, kuphela ebuhlungu, intukuthelo nokudumazeka. Okusho ukuthi lolu hlobo lobuhlobo lungabizwa ithemba. Ngokuvamile kakhulu umuntu ushiya umndeni wakhe, futhi ushada nenkosikazi. Kodwa, ukuthi kungaba kanjani, uma kunjalo, ubuhlobo obunjalo. Owesifazane, ekugcineni, uye waqonda, ukuthi intandokazi ayiyikuphonsa oshade naye futhi ihlela impilo ngokubili kwabesifazane. Umqondo wokuthi ubuhlobo obunjalo buyohlala buhlala njalo, abufanele owesifazane, uyaqaphela ukuthi akawuboni umndeni njengezindlebe zakhe. Futhi wonke owesifazane ohlakaniphile uzibeka ngokwakhe impendulo, kungani kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa nendoda eshadile - ukubhujiswa komndeni womunye nokuntuleka komuntu siqu. Indlela yokuhlukanisa nomthandi oshadile, lowo ngumbuzo oyinhloko.
Indlela yokuhlukanisa nomthandi oshadile - iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo
- Thembeka kuwe. Owesifazane uqhubeka nobuhlobo nabashadile, nakuba eyazi ngokungalungi kwezenzo zakhe. Ungakwazi yini ukuziqhenya ngalolu buhlobo? Udinga ukuzifaka ezicathulweni zomunye wesifazane: kungaba kuhle ukwazi ngokungathembeki komuntu othandekayo? Kubalulekile ukubhekana neqiniso. Owesifazane nje akafuni nhlobo ukuthi izenzo zakhe zithinta kanjani impilo yomunye umndeni.
- Ukudikibala ku "ekahle". Ukuze uqonde ukuthi ungahlukanisa kanjani nendoda yakho ethandekayo, kudingeka udumale. Phela, lokhu "kuhle" kude nomuntu umkakhe abona nsuku zonke. Indlovukazi ayikhiphi izingubo zayo ezingcolile, ayikhamululi amasokisi ahlakazekile azungeze indlu, ayiphikisana futhi ayiphikisani. Lapho ehlangana nendoda eshadile, ubona umuntu ofanelekayo phambi kwakhe, kodwa akazi iqiniso.
- Ungafuni izizathu. Amakhosikazi amaningi ayaqiniseka ukuthi umshado womthandi waqala ukubhujiswa. Kwanele! Awudingi
zikhohlise ngokwabo, ngoba uma ngabe umshado wawuzobhujiswa, ngakho konke bekuyobe sekuphele isikhathi eside. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi indoda ithanda nje kokubili kokushade naye nenkosikazi . - Enye indlela enhle, ezosho ukuthi ungabelana kanjani nendoda eshadile, ukusekelwa kwabangani. Udinga nje ukushayela abangane bakho abaseduze, uhlele umhlangano futhi uvule umphefumulo wakho kuwo, ubatshele ukuthi yini ekukukhathazayo. Udinga ukwabelana nabo isinqumo sokuhlukanisa nomthandi wakho. Kudingeka ukuthi ubhalise ukusekelwa kwabo. Ngakho-ke kuyokwazi ukuzwa unamandla, unesixazululo futhi ungangabazi isenzo sakho.