Ukuhlanganyela nendoda ethandekayo, owesifazane ngamunye uhlupheka kabi. Ukwahlukanisa kuyamangalisa kakhulu, ngoba ukuwa kwazo zonke izinkolelo kanye nezinhlelo, ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba kanye nabantu abazungezile, ukudumazeka, isimo sokucindezeleka nokuhlolwa kwamandla. Kulesi sihloko, uzothola iseluleko sabahlengikazi esihlokweni esithi "kanjani ukusinda isahlukaniso kumyeni wakhe."
Ungaphila kanjani ukukhashelwa komyeni wakhe nesehlukaniso?
Into eyinkimbinkimbi kunazo zonke ukuthi owesifazane ahlukanise ukugwema ukucindezeleka isikhathi eside futhi angazilahleki njengomuntu. Ngokuvamile isihlukaniso sihambisana nokuhlambalaza, ukuphikisana nokuxhashazwa kwabashadile ngokuqhubeka nokungabi nalutho okungokomoya. Yiqiniso, emva kwesikhashana konke kuzosebenza, ngoba yisikhathi udokotela ongcono kakhulu.
Ukuphumula isahlukaniso kumyeni othandekayo akulula, kodwa kubalulekile ukulalela amathiphu alandelayo. Akudingekile ukuqoqa izinkathazo emphefumulweni, ngaphandle kwalokho zingabhubhisa.
Ubudlelwane ngemuva kwesahlukaniso - iseluleko se-psychologist
- Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuzibuza ukufakwa - ukuhlala umuntu ojabule ngokugcwele, naphezu kwakho konke. Kubalulekile ukusetha umgomo futhi ungawuhoxisi kuwo.
- Ukudlulisela kuchwepheshe wezengqondo. Okungenasiphelo kungaphila isehlukaniso nomyeni wakhe ngosizo lochwepheshe. Phela, ukucindezeleka okubangelwayo kungabangela ukulimala okukhulu kwi-psyche. Ngosizo lwezingxoxo ezingokwengqondo nokuqeqesha, owesifazane angakwazi ukululama ngokushesha.
- Kudingekile ukulahla okungalungile. Ungagcini imizwelo emibi ngaphakathi - udinga ukuwanika indlela yokuphuma. Kukhona inombolo enkulu yezinketho zokususa okubi - udinga nje ukuthola okulungile kuwe. Ukushaya izitsha, izinyembezi, imithwalo yezemidlalo, ukuqeda izinto okukhumbuza impilo eshadile - konke lokhu okukhethwa kukho kunendawo okufanele ube khona.
- Ukuzilibazisa nokuzilibazisa. Kubalulekile ukuthatha isikhathi esiningi ngangokunokwenzeka, ukuze kungabi nesikhathi esisele sokuba izinyembezi nemicabango emibi. Ukudansa, amakilasi omculo, izinwele, imihlangano nabangani, ukuvakashela imibukiso, ukuya enkundleni yemidlalo - konke lokhu
kuzosiza ukuphazamisa nokuqeda imicabango engadingekile engadingekile. Gcwalisa impilo ngezenzakalo ezimnandi nokuxhumana nabantu abahlukene. - Ungavali ezweni langaphandle futhi uzibambe. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kwenzekeni yindlela eya ekuphileni okusha. Chitha isikhathi nabathandekayo, ungabi namahloni wezinyembezi zakho kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho.
- Ukuphindiselela umuzwa omubi. Ungaphumi ukuya ekuhlazweni, ukuhleka nokukhuluma ngamazwi. Khumbula ukuthi kakade akunakwenzeka ukulungisa isimo samanje, kodwa kulula ukuphazamisa idumela lakho.
Sithemba ukuthi lezi zeluleko zizokusiza ukuba usinde isehlukaniso nomyeni wakho.