Uma uthandana nenkanyezi ezayo: "Ngifuna ukushada ngempumelelo ngothando" (futhi ngisho wengeze "futhi ngokuphuthumayo"), futhi ngobusuku obungenazinkanyezi buyaphinda la mazwi njenge-mantra - kungenzeka ukuthi kuyinto engokwemvelo kuwo wonke intombazane enifisa wena sekuyisikhathi ... ake uhambe. Kodwa kunezindaba ezinhle - lena isinyathelo sokugcina esichazwe kulesi sihloko. Ilandelwa ukubunjwa okulungile kwesifiso, nezinyathelo zokukhonana eziqinisekisa ukuthi umshado awuyona iphupho elide, kodwa iqiniso elibonakalayo. Ngakho-ke, abashakazi abathandekayo besikhathi esizayo, ake sithole indlela yokwandisa amathuba akho omndeni.
Isinyathelo 1. Sakha isifiso esifanele
Okokuqala, cabanga: kungani amantombazane efuna ukushada. Ngoba "ngokuba" umyeni bacabanga ukuthi, njengabesifazane, bavikelekile, bathandwa (okungenani emehlweni abanye), kuyadingeka.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi intombazane ifuna futhi isheshe ukushada, ngoba "kuyadingeka." Cabanga: "ufuna ngempela ukushada" nalokho okuxhunyiwe? Uma isizathu ukuthi umbono womphakathi uyashesha, kufanele ulinde ushintsho ezintweni eziza kuqala.
Manje zibuze: uhlobo luni lomuntu ofuna ukumthola. "Uma ngabe yikuphi" impendulo engalungile. Uthi awuzibongi, futhi ukulungisa ukuzethemba kuyisinyathelo esibalulekile emgwaqweni womshado. Khumbula: awusiye wedwa, ungowesifazane okhululekile. Wedding dress, izimbali kanye ukuhalalisela - lena ikusasa lakho.
Isinyathelo 2. Kholelwa kuwe
Ngokwengqondo, lokhu kungaba nzima, ikakhulukazi uma usanda kuba nephutha elibuhlungu. Kodwa-ke, kunezindlela eziphumelelayo kakhulu ezisiza kakhulu ukukhulisa ukuzihlonipha kwabesifazane:
- ubhalisele ukubonisana nomcwaningi. Yilungele ukuguqulwa kwesithombe sekhadali: isazi esihle akufanele sithathe isifaniselo sezinto esivele ku-wardrobe yakho. Ungakhohlwa ukwazisa umenzi wakho wesithombe mayelana nezinhloso zakho, ukuze ikhabethe lizohlangana nomgomo wakho;
- phuma ngokwakho. Owesifazane othandana naye ngokwakhe udlula amanzi, akhanga amadoda. Uma kungekho sikhala sokuthi "sikhulu" siphuze, siphuza itiye emisebenzini ebiza kakhulu "ngezikhathi ezikhethekile", gqoka izingubo zangaphansi ezinhle, uzithengele amafutha noma izimbali ezintsha.
Isinyathelo 3. Ubuqili obuncane
Kunamasiko amaningi ngisho nezintelezi, athembise ukuhlala kwasekuqaleni endlini yendoda yakho. Kodwa izinyathelo ziyingozi. Siphakamisa ukusebenzisa izindlela "ezingenabungozi":
- thatha iphepha bese uchaza umyeni wakho wesikhathi esizayo ngemininingwane encane kakhulu;
- iseluleko esaziwayo intombazane efuna ukushada: thola ama-slippers wesilisa. Umuntu akakwazi ukuzikhawulela izicathulo: ake okhethiweyo alinde endlini ingubo, futhi, isibonelo, i-toothbrush;
- izimfihlo ze-feng shui nazo zizosiza ukudweba umbhangqwana endlini. Igumbi lokulala kanye nengxenye eningizimu-ntshonalanga yendlu yindawo yothando. Ama-crystals, imidwebo eqoshiwe, izinhlanzi ezihlanganiswe ngezinhlanzi - lezi zinto zikhonza ukubulawa kwesifazane "Ngifuna ukushada."
Isinyathelo 4. Siya ekukhanyeni
Ukuze ushade, kudingeka ube lapho kukhona khona amadoda. Futhi ungabi nje emgqeni wesilisa, kubalulekile ukuthi amanye amadoda ahlangana nawe njalo. Ngakho ingxenye yabo esikhathini esizayo iguqulwa yaba yizimele. Owesifazane ozungezwe ukunaka uba umlingo wamadoda.
Ithiphu: ngokushesha khipha amadoda ashadile namadoda angama-ladies (njengoba kungekho isilingo sokubafundisa kabusha).
Isinyathelo 5. Khipha isifiso sakho
Ukuthi isifiso sokushada asiguqulwa sibe yi-paranoia, kubalulekile ukumyeka ahambe. Akusho ukushiya izinhlelo zakho, phumula futhi ujabule. Umzila osebenzayo "ngithatha" ungakhonza umuntu, kodwa "ungithathe emshadweni" kakade akunakwenzeka.
Owesifazane onesizungu uvame ukwenza umuntu agijime, akhululeke - abelethe isifiso sokunqoba. Ngakho-ke, uma ungena ebuhlotsheni, uzokujabulela ukuhlangana nomuntu othandekayo, hhayi ukukhathazeka: "Ngifuna ukushada, okufanele ngikwenze."