Incazelo yegama lokuphakanyiswa ichazwa izazi ze-psychologist njengendlela yokuthambekela ekudaleni imizwelo. Lezi zindlela ezivame ukubangelwa yizici ezimbili ezihle futhi ezimbi nakwabanye abantu abangabalulekanga ngokuphelele.
Ukugxila komlingiswa - ukuphakanyiswa
Izici ezivezwe ngokujulile zesikhumba esiphakeme zisondele ekuziphatheni kwengqondo. Lo mzwa ungabizwa ngokuthi unobumnandi benjabulo nokukhathazeka futhi uqhathanise nokucabanga kwengqondo yale mizwa emibili, kuhambisane nokuguquka kwemizwelo ebukhali.
Kodwa ngokuvamile ukuphakanyiswa kubonakala, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Kulokhu, akufanele sikhulume ngakho njengesifo, kunalokho kungumlingiswa nje.
Ukuphakanyiswa ngokomzwelo
Abantu abaphakanyisiwe bangama-maximalists, basabela empilweni kakhulu ngokwemvelo kunabanye. Kulula ngokufanayo ukuthakazelisa nokuphelelwa ithemba. Izinhlobo ezingabalulekile zokuphakanyiswa zibonakala ezifisweni zobugovu nokuzithanda. Kubonakala kumuntu onjalo ukuthi nguye ongcono kakhulu. Unamathela ezihlotsheni zakhe, izinkathazo nazo ngenxa yokuhluleka kwazo futhi ujabulela ukunqoba kwabo. Ngokuvamile, umuntu ophakanyisiwe uthathwa. Uthanda umculo, ubuciko, unesithakazelo emithethweni yenkolo, usebenza ezemidlalo nasekuthuthukiseni.
Okunye okubalulekile ukuphakanyiswa ukuvezeka okuphawulekayo nokuphendula ngokuhlukumezeka kwimicimbi edabukisayo. Uzwela nokuhawukela abantu abangaziwa nabagulayo, izilwane ezilahliwe ngezinye izikhathi zifika ekungeneni. Bangakwazi ukuletha ekhaya futhi bachithe abangenamakhaya ngetiye futhi, beqaphela ukuthi ezinye izinto ziye zanyamalala kanye nokuhamba kwakhe, ziwela ekudumeni. Ukudumala okulula noma ukwehluleka, okuyinto umuntu ojwayelekile ayikhohlwe ngosuku olulandelayo, angakwazi ukukhipha umuntu ophakanyisiwe kusuka e-rut. Ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa kungafundwa ekubonakalweni kwangaphandle. Imizwa yokwesaba nokuthukuthela okubangele umuntu kubangela ukuthuthumela, ukujuluka, njll.
Uyazi kanjani ukuthi uzimisele ukuphakanyiswa?
Uphakanyisiwe uma:
- Uma ubhekene nokubonakaliswa okusheshayo kwemizwa.
- Izikhathi ezibangela abanye ukumamatheka okulula, ubangela umuzwa wenjabulo engenamkhawulo.
- Ukudumala okungadingekile kungakuphonsa ekuphelelwe ithemba.
- Ngokuvamile usebenzisa inkulumo ethi "Ngiyathanda ukuhlanya," "Ngiyamzonda ekujuleni komphefumulo wami."
- Ekhaya unezilwane eziningi ozivimbele ekuzweleni kwabo. Kuzo wena uzwa imizwa enethando kakhulu futhi enesibindi.
- Uvame nje ukubekezelela umoya wabantu abathile (osebenza nabo, insizwa yentombi yakho, umqondisi, njll)
- Isenzo esisodwa noma isici somuntu oye waphawula singashintsha kakhulu isimo sakho sengqondo kuye.
- Ubuciko bomuntu onethalente (umculi, umculi, umculi) ukwethusa futhi kubangele injabulo engenakulinganiswa.
- Uyakhala, ubukela i-movie ebuhlungu, ufunda inkaba, ulalele umculo odabukisayo.
- Uphatha bonke abantu ngothando olukhulu, noma ngokudelela okukhulu.
- Unomuzwa wokuqiniseka okuphelele ukuthi abanye bangaphansi kwakho ekukwazi ukugqoka, hhayi ngokuhlakanipha futhi abanolwazi, akekho onokuqhathanisa nawe.
- Imibono yakho, ukuhlolwa kanye nokuthanda kwakho kuvame ukuphikisana ngqo nezikhundla zeningi.
Uma uhlukile ekuphakanyisweni kwezinzwa - akukho lutho olungalungile ngalokhu. Uma kubonakala ngezinga elibalulekile, lokhu kuhle nakakhulu. Ubona umhlaba ngemibala egqamile kunabanye abantu. Udinga nje ukufunda ukugcinwa okuningi futhi ungenzi izenzo eziyiphutha ezichazwe ngokomzwelo wakho owandile.