Thola umyeni - ubuciko bokukhwabanisa nokukhulumisana, okubandakanya indima yomhloli. Yebo, le "cocktail" yamakhono ingaphansi kuphela abesifazane abanamakhono abanamakhono abafuna ngobuqotho ukushada.
"Ngifuna ukuthola umyeni" - lawa magama angazwakala namuhla ikakhulukazi, ngoba izibalo ezingenakulinganiswa zithi: kwabesilisa abangu-1000 kunabesifazane abangu-1200. Futhi ukuthi ungaba kanjani ezimweni ezinjengokuthi "ukuncintisana okukhulu", ikakhulukazi lapho kuzwa kuphela ukuthi intombi ethile ishada kanjani, owesibili usubelethile ingane, kanti owesithathu wakwazi ukuguqula igama lesibili futhi waya eMmirates kumyeni omusha? Ezimweni ezinjalo kubonakala sengathi lokhu kuyinhlanhla yangempela. Kodwa lokhu akulona iqiniso ngempela, ngoba kakhulu kule sihloko esibucayi kuxhomeke kulowo wesifazane, bese sizobuka ukuthi yini engenziwa ukuze ulethe inhlanhla ebusweni, futhi umshado uyakhanya manje ubonakale esandleni sakho.
Uphi futhi ungathola kanjani umyeni omuhle?
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale usesho, cabanga ngezinqubo zokuthi "umyeni omuhle" ungubani. Emva kokuthola izici ezibaluleke kakhulu, cabanga ukuthi lezi zitholakalaphi.
Isibonelo, uma kuhle kuhle, khona-ke indoda enjalo kufanele ifune phakathi odokotela nabathandi bezilwane, ikakhulukazi amakati. Uma udinga isibindi futhi unomthwalo wemfanelo, isinyathelo-sokuhamba ukuze uthole umsebenzi enhlanganweni lapho amasosha esebenza khona: abesifazane-abalobi bahlale bedingeka lapho.
I-man-intellectual ingatholakala ekuqeqesheni, emayunivesithi nase-chess club.
Uma unquma indawo yosesho, qala ukuzithuthukisa, ngoba akwanele ukuthola umuntu, kudingeka athathwe:
- idatha yangaphandle. Asikho isidingo sokulwela ukubaluleka, kodwa ukubukeka okumnandi kufanele kube njalo;
- i-charisma. Akuyona umsebenzi olula ukuthola noma yimuphi umuntu ngokwakho, ngakho-ke uqeqesha ekhaya ngesibonakaliso sokubukeka, ukuhleleka kanye nezwi;
- ukudlala ngothando. Lesi yisikhathi esibaluleke kakhulu ekufuneni umyeni: udinga ukukhululwa futhi ukwazi "ukudlala" nendoda ukuze ayithande.
Indlela yokuthola umyeni ocebile?
Kunezinketho ezimbili zakudala zokuthola umuntu ocebile:
- Ngezicathulo nezesekeli (kodwa lokhu kuyindlela engathembeki kakhulu, ngoba umfana angakwazi ukuthenga lezi zicathulo ngemali yokugcina, futhi iphothifoliyo enhle ibe yikhona lokuzalwa lokuphuma kubalingani).
- Okuhle kakhulu: ukufuna umsebenzi kumholo. Kulokhu, akudingeki udlale "ukuqagela", ngaphandle kwalokho, ungahlola umsebenzi wakhe (futhi ngenxa yezimali).
Ukufuna ocebile kakhulu ku:
- ibhange;
- Izinkampani ze-IT;
- esitshalweni (onjiniyela bezimboni ngezibalo banemiholo ephakeme).
Indlela yokuthola ngokushesha umyeni ku-intanethi?
Uma udumazeke kakhulu emadodeni ethu noma uphefumulelwe isipiliyoni esiphumelele sabangane bakho, futhi manje usethe umgomo wokuthola indoda ngaphandle, khona-ke i-intanethi isevisi yakho.
Udinga ukuthatha izithombe ezimbalwa kusuka ochwepheshe, lapho uzoba khona ezinhlobonhlobo zezithombe (kodwa akeke zivimbele futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo nobungane) - futhi ushicilele kwiwebhusayithi yesikhungo somshado. Kwezinye izingosi kuyinkonzo ekhokhelwe umlobokazi, kwabanye - kumkhwenyana, kanti amanye afuna ukukhokha okulinganayo kusuka zombili zombili. Kubalulekile ukuthi inhlangano ehloniphekile, abangane bakho abasebenzisa ukuyisebenzisa.
Indlela yokuthola indoda kumfazi onomntwana?
Ekuboneni kuqala kubonakala sengathi kunzima owesifazane onomntwana ukuthola indoda evamile. Futhi kunjalo ngempela, uma:
- owesifazane akanalo umsebenzi ojwayelekile, okhokhelwa kakhulu futhi ophila nabazali bakhe kanye nokunye;
- sekuyisikhathi eside esesimisweni futhi usevele ukhohliwe ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuxhumana nabantu;
- unesidingo esiphakeme kwisisekelo esingokwenyama nesokomoya somlingani: "Kumelwe abe ohlakaniphile, onokwethenjelwa, athande ingane yomunye umuntu, aqhube i-Land Cruiser futhi abe ne-dacha enezibhamu ezincane nezimpukane ezintathu."
Kulezi zimo, umyeni kuzodingeka afune isikhathi eside kakhulu, hhayi ukuthi yini ezokwenziwa.
Okudingayo ukukwenza:
- ungakhohlwa ngomntwana. Ukuphila kwakho komuntu akufanele kuphazamise ubuntwana bakhe.
- bathuthukise iziqu zabo, bathole umsebenzi futhi bafune izindlela zokuthuthukisa isimo sabo sezezimali (okuvame ukwenzeka ngalesi sigaba, abazofanelekile baqala ukuvela empilweni yabo);
- khumbula: akekho ofuna ukugcina ingane yomunye umuntu, ngakho-ke ngaphambi kokuba uzame ukwakha ubuhlobo, kumele ube nemali eyanele yokuqinisekisa.
Ngakho-ke ungakhuluma ngokuzikhandla kwakho, futhi ingane ngeke ibe yisithiyo kumuntu ovunyelwe ukuba ngumyeni wakho. Uma kungenjalo, angase acabange ukuthi ufuna "uxhasi"; - bheka ukubukeka futhi ukwazi ukuzitholela kahle.
Ukusikisela: Imfuneko eyinhloko yendoda yowesifazane onomntwana uthando lwakhe ngezingane, uma ungafuni ukungqubuzana emndenini ozayo.
Ngemuva kokufunda lesi sihloko, amagama athi "ngisize ngithole umyeni" noma "Ngifuna, kodwa angikwazi ukushada" - hhayi ngawe, ngoba manje uyakwazi kahle nokuthi ungayibheka kanjani.