Isihloko sokuphinga sesivele sikhulile kangangokuthi kubonakala sengathi akunangqondo ukuxoxa ngakho. Kodwa-ke, bangaki abantu, imibono eminingi, nemibono ngisho nangaphezulu. Phela, ngisho nesitembu esipasipoti akusona isithiyo sokuhamba emaceleni. Futhi kulabo bobabili bomshado. Phela, owesifazane oshadile njengendlovukazi akuyona into entsha. Kodwa kungani amadoda ekhetha ukwedlula labo asebeboshwe kakade emshadweni nokuthi kungakanani isikhathi esinjalo esingaba khona?
Othandekayo oshadile nomyeni oshadile
Ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nenkosikazi buhlukile. Abanye abamele iqhaza elinamandla lesintu baphunyuka "ngakwesobunxele" kusukela ekukhunjweni, abanye, ngaleyo ndlela bakhulise ukuzethemba kwabo, kanti okwesithathu, okungenjalo kaningi, futhi kukhona umuzwa wokuthandana nothando lwabo olusha. Futhi ngesinye isikhathi ngenxa yalesi sizathu bahlukanisile nabafazi babo. Kodwa-ke, naphezu kwezibonelo ezinjalo, inkosikazi enhle yendoda eshadile ingenye futhi inesitembu epasipoti yakhe. Ake sizame ukuthola ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka.
Yini indoda elindelwe kumakhosikazi?
Okungenani umehluko ovela kumkakhe, kungenjalo ukuphinga ngeke kube nomqondo. Izipikiswano eziningi zezocansi ezinamandla zibonise ukuthi lezo zinduna kuphela ezikwazi ukuhlangabezana nazo zonke izidingo zokududuza kwengqondo nangokwenyama, ukuthi yena ngokwakhe ushadile. Yile ndlela amadoda awakhulume ngayo lokhu:
- Inkosikazi eshadile yendoda eshadile ngeke idale lezo zinkinga ezingase zivele nomama wamahhala. Yebo. okungenani ngeke azame ukuchitha umndeni;
- ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nenkosikazi, enesitembu epasipoti kulula kakhulu futhi ngokwezimali. Indodakazi enomfazi ayikwazi ukwamukela izipho eziningi ezibizayo;
- owesifazane oshadile akanaso isikhathi sokuhlangana njalo, ngakho ngeke akhathazeke ngezingcingo ezingapheli, futhi imihlangano kanye naye iyohlale iveza;
- amadoda athande ukuhlukahluka, kanye nezimo ezimbi kakhulu. Inkosikazi enomunye umuntu - izohlale iyimfihlakalo lapho kudingeka khona ukuqapha;
- Owesifazane oshadile unakekela kakhulu futhi uzwela, ngoba uyakhathazeka nsuku zonke mayelana nenhlalakahle nokuthula emndenini wakhe;
- Abesifazane abashadile banokuthula futhi bangabi nobugovu ngaphezu kokukhululeka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, owesifazane ohlangene ebuhlotsheni cishe uhlale engenele futhi ezimele futhi engathinti umthwalo emahlombe omuntu;
- ukuhlukanisa nomfazi onjalo njalo kulula kakhulu. Akahambisani nama-hysterics kanye nama-scandals, futhi uzokwazi ukuthola ngokuzithoba esikhundleni se-cougar ehlulekile.
Futhi kungani owesifazane oshadile eshadile?
Ngokusekelwe kulowo mbono wamadoda, owesifazane onendoda enomfazi oshadile angakwazi ukuzola. Le ndlela yokuzilibazisa ngeke ilethe izinkinga, ngaphandle uma kunjalo le nkosikazi iyazi ngokuhlukumezeka futhi iyathula ngakho.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kunombono wokuthi abesifazane ngokwabo baqala ukushintsha labo abashade nabo kuphela ngenxa yokukhashelwa kwabo noma ngenxa yokuziphindisela nokuhlonishwa. Eqinisweni, ukubheka iqiniso ebusweni, kufanele kukhulunywe ukuthi kukhona esinye isizathu, esingajwayelekile. "Zama" abantu abathandekayo bobulili obuhlukile abakwaziyo kuphela amadoda. Kukhona ngisho nehlaya: "Spring. Ngifuna ukuthola indoda enomusa, kodwa umyeni wami akavumeli. " Futhi kunjalo ngempela. Uma izizathu zokuthi indoda iqala ukushintsha azikwazi kangako kithi (intukuthelo, ithuba lokuzizwa samukelekile futhi, isifiso sokuthola ukuhlukahluka empilweni), ngakho-ke kungani imicabango enjalo ebonakala enhloko yowesifazane oshadile incike ezimweni. Lokhu kungabandakanya umshado ongaphumeleli, ukungamhloniphi umyeni wakhe, ukungahloniphi kahle umuntu wakhe, ukukhwabanisa okuphawulekayo komlingani, lokho owesifazane akufundile, njll. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uhlangana nomuntu okhangayo, owamthanda, futhi isimo sezenzakalo sifana nesesilisa esishintsha abashade nabo.
Kodwa-ke, kukhona okukodwa okunzima kakhulu. Indoda eshadile yomyeni oshadile isengozini enkulu nomndeni wayo futhi ingayichitha ngezandla zakhe. Lokhu kuyimvelo yakhe - lo wesifazane ugxila kuyo
Ngakho-ke singaphetha ngokuthi abathandi abashadile nezintambo, lokhu, eqinisweni, lesi sihloko sinengqondo. Kodwa-ke, ngokwemvelo, angeke abe khona isikhathi eside: indoda ebenzibophezelo enjalo iyoba nemizwa emihle, futhi ihlawulwe ngamandla engeziwe, futhi owesifazane, esikhundleni somyeni wakhe, unikeza amandla akhe okuphila komunye umuntu, ekugcineni uchithe umndeni wakhe kanye nokuphila kwakhe konke. Ingabe kuwufanelekile ukuba ubungozi, ngenxa yalesi senzakalo semicimbi, wonke umuntu uzikhethela yena. Kodwa kulula ukuxhumana okunjalo ohlangothini kusobala, okusho ukuthi kuzoba nezizukulwane ezintsha zothando nabashadile.