Ngeshwa, namuhla umndeni ongenabo ubaba awuvamile. Kodwa ingabe lokhu kuyinkinga yabesifazane besimanje: sizomisa ihhashi bese simisa umntwana emncintiswaneni, futhi sizobeletha ingane ngaphandle kokuphuma esihlalweni somholi, futhi sizokhula ingane eyigugu, ngaphandle kokukhohlwa ukugcina abaphathi bethu ngezandla ezigqamile. Kulungile, namuhla abesifazane bayakwazi ukwenza okuningi, kepha lokhu akusho ukuthi akukho mmahluko phakathi komndeni ngaphandle kobaba nomndeni ophelele. Ukuze uqaphele lokhu kungezwani, kudingeka uqonde ukuthi iyiphi indima kayise emndenini, yimiphi imisebenzi abelwe yona, ngoba umphakathi wanamuhla awusadingeki ukuba indoda ibe yindlalifa futhi ibeke enye inkinga kulo wesifazane.
Indima kayise emndenini wanamuhla
Inkinga yobudlelwano phakathi kobaba nezingane emndenini bekulokhu ikhona, futhi akukho ndawo yokuphuma kuyo, izizukulwane ezahlukene zizohlala ziba nemibono ehlukene ezimweni zokuphila. Kodwa uma izinkinga zangaphambili zibangelwa ithonya elikhulu likababa ezinganeni, izwi lakhe lalinganqikazi cishe noma yiliphi udaba, kodwa namuhla kukhona ukulahlekelwa igunya likababa emndenini. Kukhona lezizathu ngezizathu eziningi, okuyisisekelo esikhulu sokukhululwa kwabafazi. Ngiyabonga, isibonelo sezinzalamizi zomndeni sabhujiswa, kanti omusha wayengakabi nesikhathi sokwenza.
Manje abantu bacabanga ukuthi abaphoqelekile ukuthatha umthwalo wemindeni - ukulingana emva kwakho konke, futhi akuyona into ebesilisa nabasondelene eduze kwengane ukuhlala. Obaba bemikhaya manje basebenze ngokwengeziwe emsebenzini, futhi uma befika ekhaya abafuni ukuphazamiseka, ikakhulukazi ingane ngemibuzo yabo yobuwula. Ngenxa yalokho, izingane zizwa ukungabi namthelela wesilisa, okungekho isikole esingakwazi ukukwenza, futhi, iningi labafundisi besifazane likhona. Uma ingane ingaboni uyise, abanalo uxhumano lomzwelo, ayikho inhlonipho ngomdala. Futhi lapho ingane ikhula, uyise uqala ukuzibuza ukuthi kungani izwi lakhe lisho kancane kulo mntwana, kungani izingane zigijima nezinkinga nezinjabulo kumama.
Kodwa le ndlela yezemfundo iphakamisa ezinye izinkinga eziningi: izingane azi ukuthi indoda kufanele ziphathe kanjani, azikho indlela yokuziphatha yabesilisa. Kusukela lapha sithola amantombazane angenabantwana futhi abagovu, futhi ekuqaleni amantombazane angathokozi empilweni yabo - awayilindele (futhi ngezinye izikhathi angalindeli, ngokuvamile ayitholi) akukho ukusekelwa kobulili obuhlukile futhi athatha umthwalo omkhulu wokuhlela impilo yabo, ukukhulisa izingane zabo nokunye. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile hhayi kuphela ukukhulisa izingane emndenini ogcwele, kodwa futhi hhayi ukunciphisa indima kababa ekutholeni imali. Uma sikhuluma ngokulingana, khona-ke umnikelo emphakathini wenhlalakahle (kokubili izinto nezinto ezingokomoya) bobabili abazali kufanele kufane.
Kusukela kumama, izingane zithola izifundo zokuqala zomusa, zenza ekuthuthukiseni izimfanelo ezifana nokuzwela nomusa kubantu, ikhono lokubonga uthando nokulipha abanye. Umama ufundisa izingane ukukhathalela kanye nobuntu. Kusukela kubaba, abantwana bayothola amandla, amandla okuvikela umbono wabo, ukulwa nokuwina. Ubaba ufundisa isibindi nokuqina ezinkingeni zokuphila. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubaba nomama onesibindi abanothando kangakanani, uma kukhona umzali oyedwa kuphela, ingane izobe isayithola imfundo eyodwa. Umuntu ophelele angakhiwa kuphela ngaphansi kwethonya bobabili ubaba nomama.
Umndeni omusha kababa
Futhi kuthiwani uma ubaba eshiya umndeni, zama ukumbuyisela esidlekeni esithakazelisayo ngawo wonke amandla akhe, esaba ukuthi ingane izothola imfundo engaphansi? Zama ukubuyela, Yebo, ungakwazi, kodwa kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuthi lokhu akusikho njalo kuholela emiphumeleni oyifunayo. Ngokuvamile labo "babuyela" ekugcineni balahlekelwa isithakazelo empilweni yomndeni kanye nokwakhiwa kwezingane, futhi emva kwakho konke umuntu osendlini akuyona "ifenisha"
Kodwa ungathathi ingxenye enkulu kababa wabaphilayo, njengoba ukuhlakanipha kwabantu kuthiwa, upapa akayena owakhethile, kodwa lowo owakhulisa. Indoda kufanele ibe ngumeluleki omdala wengane, yisekele (impahla, ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo), konke lokhu kungenziwa ngubaba otholayo. Ngakho-ke, uma ubaba kababa wesilisa engafuni ukuthatha ingxenye empilweni yakhe, akufanelekile ukuphikelela, kodwa akukho lutho oluhle oluzovela kulo. Kungcono uyise wesithando onothando ngaphandle kobaba ongenandaba.