Njengamanje, cishe abashadile abakwazi ukusongela isehlukaniso. Ngakho-ke, ngokwemininingwane yezibalo, e-US naseYurophu, imishado engu-95% iyaphulwa ngumzamo wesifazane.
Njengoba wazi, umuzwa wokuthi umndeni ubhujiswa ungaholela esimweni esicindezelekile. Kwomuntu ovela kumbhangqwana oshadile ungaba namandla kakhulu, okwenza kube lula ukugcina umndeni osiza ekusebenziseni izimpendulo, kumbuzo wokuthi ungayigwema kanjani isehlukaniso.
Abaningi bezengqondo zengqondo basemoyeni basho ukuthi ubuhlobo bomndeni buyinto yobuciko bonke abashadikazi abashadile okufanele bafunde.
Izizathu zesehlukaniso
Cabanga ngezizathu eziyinhloko ukuthi kungani omunye umlingani enquma ukuhlukanisa:
- Ukudumazeka.
- Izinkinga nabazali.
- Izinkinga zezezimali.
- Ukuthuka.
- Ukungaqondani.
Uma manje uhlangabezana nalesi sikhathi esinzima empilweni yakho, sincoma ukuthi uhlole ngokucophelela izincomo ezibalulwe ngezansi ukuze uqonde ukuthi yini okudingeka uyenze ukuze ugweme isahlukaniso.
- Uma uqonda ukuthi emndenini wakho ilunga ngalinye lingenesizungu, lapho uhlangabezana nesizungu kanye nomlingani wakho, ukuze ugweme ukuwela kwalasha lokuphila okuvamile, isikhathi esithile, uphelele imisebenzi yasendlini. Zama ukuhlela omunye nomunye izinto ezimangazayo. Sula umlilo oqothukile wokufutheka.
- Uma wazi ukuthi nomlingani wakho awunazo izithakazelo ezifanayo, zama ukuzihlanganisa. Uma lowo oshade naye echitha isikhathi sakhe sonke samahhala esikhungweni sempilo, nomyeni wakhe ekudoba, lokhu kuphakamisa indlela yokuphuma kwesimo: lo mbhangqwana ndawonye bachitha isikhathi esithile esikhwameni sokuzivocavoca, nokunye ekudoba.
- Uma ungenayo izingane okwamanje, ungabe uzama ukwakha into ezoba ukuphefumula kwesibili ebuhlotsheni bomndeni wakho. Thola umntwana.
- Ukuze oshade naye aqonde indlela yokugwema isehlukaniso kumyeni wakhe, akudingekile ukuba ucacise izingane noma ukucindezela. Ungabambeli ubuhlobo nobulili. Ungenzi amahlaya.
- Uma abashadile bezithola, khona-ke ungenza i-aphoyintimenti nomqondo wengqondo womndeni. Udinga iseluleko sososayensi ngesimo emndenini wakho.
- Oshade naye, ukuze aqonde ukuthi angakugwema kanjani isehlukaniso kumkakhe othandekayo, kudingeke ukuthi abuyele ekuziphatheni kwakhe. Kubalulekile ukuchazela umyeni wakhe ukuthi uma kunzima ukuba aqonde ukugqugquzelwa kwesenzo sabesifazane, lokhu akusho ukuthi akukho logic kubo. Lokhu kuphinda kuqiniseke ukuthi amadoda nabesifazane banezinkinga ezingokomqondo ezahlukene. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukulalela amazwi kawesifazane ngezikhathi ezithile.
Ukuhlukanana akuletha neze izenzakalo ezijabulisayo ekuphileni kombhangqwana oshadile futhi kubalulekile ukwazi ukubona ukuphazamiseka okuncane ngesikhathi esifanele, kunokuzama ukuqoqa izingcezu zenjabulo yangaphambili.