Ngokusho kwedatha yemininingwane, emphakathini wanamuhla cishe amaphesenti angama-35 emibhangqwana ikhetha umshado womphakathi emnyangweni obhalisiwe ngokomthetho. Izizathu zalesi simo ziningi kakhulu: inkululeko yobuhlobo, ukugcinwa emshadweni nabanye abaningi. Noma kunjalo, bambalwa kwabashadile abahlala emishadweni yomphakathi, bacabange ukuthi ngokomthetho umqondo wokuthi "umyeni womphakathi" kumthetho wamanje awukho. Ake sizame ukuqonda lolu daba oluyinkimbinkimbi yobuhlobo bomndeni futhi sibone izingibe abesifazane abahlala emshadweni womphakathi abangase babhekane nazo.
Umqondo "womshado womphakathi"
Umqondo wokuthi "umshado womphakathi" uvele ekusetshenzisweni kwamanje nje, kanti eminyakeni engaba ngu-25-30 edlule, abantu abahlala emishadweni yomphakathi babhekwa njengezimpumputhe ezimhlophe futhi babhalwa ngezindlela zonke emphakathini. Leli gama lafika emazweni aseNtshonalanga. umehluko ovela emshadweni waseNtshonalanga, umshado wethu womshado wasekhaya awubhalisiwe nganoma iyiphi indlela. Akukho mthetho owodwa ovikela ngandlela-thile amalungelo omuntu noma umfazi womphakathi.Naphezu komshado womphakathi, ukunqotshwa kwemfashini, abantu abaningi emva kwekhulu Babhekana nezinkinga ezinkulu.
Umshado womshado - ngokumelene nokuphikisana
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abesifazane besimanje basho ukuthini, iningi lazo liyavumelana nomshado womphakathi, kunqotshwa ukuncenga kokhethiweyo wabo. Ngokungafani namadoda, abantu abangamaphesenti angama-90 ebulili obuhle abenqabe ukwakha ubuhlobo ngokusemthethweni, bengakaze baphile emshadweni womphakathi. Umshado wezomnotho unenzuzo nokuqeda amandla, kodwa njengoba kubonisa umkhuba, isabelo sowesifazane sithola amaminithi amaningi, hhayi ama-pluses.
Izinzuzo zomshado womphakathi:
- ithuba lokuthatha isikhathi sokuthandana ebuhlotsheni isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka;
- ithuba nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ukuhlukana nobudlelwane futhi bashiye;
- ukungabikho kwezibopho zomyeni womphakathi;
- Kungenzeka ukuhlola umyeni ngokuba nemikhuba engathandeki nokungazibekezeli;
- ithuba lokuqhuba "uhlaka" lwempilo yomndeni, cabanga zonke amaphutha ukuze uzivimbele ekuqhubekeni.
Ububi bomshado womphakathi:
- ngokushesha noma kamuva, uthando lwangaphambili luhlukana nobudlelwane, futhi abashade bomshado babhekene nesimiso somndeni ofanayo;
- ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuzwa ukunganeliseki;
- ukungabi nokuzinza ebuhlotsheni nomyeni womphakathi;
- akunakwenzeka ukuthembela kumlingani;
- ukungabi namathemba kanye nezinhlelo ezihlangene zekusasa;
- ukungavikeleki ngokomthetho kowesifazane emshadweni womphakathi.
Umshado wezingane kanye nezingane
Lapho engena emshadweni womphakathi, abantu bavame ukucabanga okungenani ngabo bonke ngezingane. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ekuqaleni lolu hlobo lobuhlobo lubonakala njengento yesikhashana futhi engathembeki. Kodwa-ke, isiphetho singakwazi ukulahleka ngenye indlela futhi ukuzalwa kwengane emshadweni womphakathi akuvamile. Futhi, ngokudabukisayo, ngokuvamile ingane iba isizathu sokungavumelani okukhulu phakathi kwabashade emshadweni womphakathi.
Njengoba ubuhlobo abubhalisiwe ngokomthetho, ukukhulelwa kuyisizathu sokuphumula imibhangqwana eminingi. Kumyeni womuntu, ingane ezayo ngeke ibe yinto efiselekayo futhi owesifazane, kulokhu, uhlala "emgodini ophukile" ngesabelo esincane.
Ukubhaliswa kwengane ezalwa emshadweni womphakathi akulula. Umama angahle noma angabonisi uyise esitifiketi. Futhi, ngokwengqondo yakhe, ukhetha igama lomntwana ozalwa emshadweni womphakathi.
Owesifazane unethuba lokuthola enkantolo ukukhokhwa kwe-alimony evela kumyeni womphakathi. Kodwa le nqubo ithatha isikhathi esiningi nemisipha, futhi inganqunywa hhayi kumama.