Kuze kube yilapho nje konke okwakungenhle nokuthandana, kwakubonakala sengathi kuyohlala njalo, futhi namuhla sekuvele kunzima ukufihla ukudumazeka nokungakhathaleli umuntu osemusha othandekayo. Futhi mhlawumbe kwakungenalo uthando, kodwa kuphela ukubukeka okwakuyisikhathi sokuqeda. Indlela yokutshela umfana ukuthi yini esiyiphulayo - kulesi sihloko.
Umoya wokuzethemba nokuzimisela
Yiqiniso, kunzima ukutshela abantu ngale ndlela ukuthi konke sekuphelile, ikakhulukazi ukwazi ukuthi akayilungele. Labo abanesithakazelo sokutshela umfana ukuthi yini okufanele uhambe, ungabufihli ikhanda lakho njengencini esihlabathini bese uphonsa inkulumo yokuzibulala ekugijimeni, okungenani ungabhalisi nge-SMS noma imilayezo enkundleni yokuxhumana - iphansi, ibheka ingane futhi ekugcineni, umane angafanelanga, ngoba umuntu onikeze imizuzu eminingi emnandi unelungelo lokuthi "uthethelele". Kodwa ungamenza ahlupheke ngisho nakakhulu, eqala ukuhlunga zonke izinkinga zakhe ezifana nezinduna ebusweni bakhe nothando olungenakuthethelelwa umama wakhe.
Yiqiniso labo labo abasalindele ukugcina ubuhlobo bangakwazi ukucacisa kuqala izikhathi ezingaqondakali futhi, uma izinhlangothi zombili zifuna ukuthola ukuyekethisa okuzofanelana nabo bonke abantu, kodwa uma isinqumo sithathwe ekugcineni futhi singenakudluliselwa, akunamsebenzi. Ukubuza ukuthi kuhle kangakanani ukutshela umfana ukuthi sihlukana kufanele anakekele imizwa yomlingani futhi athi into efana nalokhu: "Ngidinga ukuba ngedwa" noma "Ungumuntu omuhle, mngane, kodwa ngiyabona njengendoda ongangifanele, kodwa qiniseka kukhona ozokwazisa sonke isithunzi sakho. "
Indlela yokutshela kahle umfana ukuthi siphila kanjani?
Futhi, uma wenze isinqumo esiqinile, kubalulekile ukuvimbela isifiso sokuchitha usuku lokugcina wedwa, futhi ngisho nakakhulu - ubusuku bothando. Kungenzeka ukuthi lo mlingani uzama ukuphoqa wonke umuntu ukuba aqale konke kusukela ekuqaleni kanye nawo wonke amaqiniso nezinkolelo. Umqondo wokuhlala ubungane awuyona into enhle, ngoba ukhethwa kuphela ngabalingani bakho, uhlukanisa ubudlelwane ngokuvumelana, futhi uma kukhona ohlangothini olwenziwe kabi, kuyoba nzima kakhulu ukugcina ukubukeka kobuhlobo , futhi kungani ubungane bomuntu oye waphoxeka, wadumala futhi ngempela nje ukhathele.
Ngakho-ke, ufisa ukwazi ukuthi kungcono kanjani ukutshela umfana ukuthi sihlukanisa, kunconywa ukuba sikwenze ubuso nobuso, esimweni esifanelekile, lapho kungekho lutho olungaphazanyisa nokuphazamisa khona, futhi emva kwengxoxo emfushane masinyane angashiyi ukuze angaboni futhi. Esikhathini esizayo, ukugwema imizwa yakhe futhi ungatshele abangane bakhe ukuthi wamshiya, isisombululo esihle kakhulu nje ukuthula.