Abesifazane abaningi baphumelela ebuhlotsheni nomuntu oshadile, nombuzo wokuthi bangashiya kanjani ubuhlungu futhi ekugcineni, kuvela ngokushesha othandweni abaningi abaye baqaphela ukungabi nalutho kwalolubudlelwane. Igebe kunoma yiliphi icala lizoba nzima, futhi iseluleko sabanokusebenza kwengqondo nabesifazane asebevele bahamba ngendlela efanayo kuzosiza ukuhlukana nesithunzi.
Ungabelana kanjani nomuntu oshadile omthandayo?
Abesifazane abaningi bathanda indima yenkosikazi yendoda eshadile isikhathi eside, kodwa uma ukuqonda kokugcina kufika ukuthi othandekayo uzohlala echitha amaholide nomndeni wakhe, ukuthi akadingi ingane ekukhulumisaneni ohlangothini, kukhona umqondo wokuhlukanisa.
Inkinga eyinhloko yabesifazane yilabo ababhapathizwa ebuhlotsheni obuningi futhi baphoqeleka ukuba "baqede" umthandi wabo cishe "ngegazi." Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, ukuhlukaniswa okufanele kumthandi oshadile kufanele kufake isiteji sokulungiselela. Okokuqala, owesifazane kudingeka aqaphele ukuthi udinga i-ego enempilo. Ngokuvamile, yilo muntu kuphela ojabulela uxhumano ohlangothini lwenqubo egcwele, futhi owesifazane kufanele alinde futhi alinde ingxenye, ngakho-ke ngaphambi kokuhlukanisa kudingeka azinake ngokwanele, inhliziyo yakhe nengqondo yakhe.
Yini engenziwa ukuze unciphise okunamathiselwe kumuntu:
- hhayi ukuhlala ekhaya - ukuhlangabezana kaningi nabangani, iya emathempelini, emabhayisikobho, kumamyuziyamu;
- ukuthola isilwane esithokozile - inja noma i-puppy;
- gcwalisa impilo yakho ngemizwelo emihle - ukuhamba, ukwenza i-parachute, ukuhamba;
- uzithande futhi ufunde ukujabulela zonke izikhathi zokuphila - ilanga elimnene, itiye elimnandi, izinyoni eziculayo, njll.
Indlela yokuhlukanisa nendoda eshadile nokuthi uthini?
Isinyathelo esilandelayo empeleni siphula ubuhlobo. Uma ukulungiswa kwangaphambili kwenziwa ngendlela efanele, okuningi okubonakalayo okusha kufanele kube lula ukuhlukana nomthandi, futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, amanye amadoda, eseyeke ukuzizwa efana nendawo yomhlaba wonke, wona ngokwawo aphulukisa ukuhlukana komhawu nokufutheka.
Ukukhuluma nomuntu owayengumthandi akudingeki ukuqala ngezimangalo - ungenzi isitha. Okokuqala, ungambonga umuntu ngomzuzu omuhle, kodwa kufanele uwenze kucacile futhi kucace ukuthi konke sekuphelile. Uma umuntu edinga isizathu, into esemqoka - isifiso sokuba nomndeni ogcwele nezingane.
Ngemuva kokuhlukanisana nomthandi, akufanele umuntu anqotshwe ukucasula futhi ahlele "ukuhlalisana ngokobulili" noma "ukuhlwa kusikhumbuzo". Kungcono ukuqeda ubuhlobo ngokuphelele, ukubingelela ngokuzithoba emhlanganweni. Owesifazane kufanele akhumbule njalo - yena wedwa, ufanelwe inhlonipho nobuhlobo obugcwele ngaphandle kwamanga.